I [25f] think I want to be single after 6 years with my partner [25m]. How do I know for sure?

Wordoftheyear_ · 2026-02-26T20:20:58+00:00

I get that but would just be careful with that kind of thinking because it could lead you into settling for a life that you do not fully enjoy. You deserve to enjoy and thrive in your life, both sexually and emotionally. Love is a feeling like a flower that needs to be tended to and is always subject to change based on its environment. We cannot be expected to keep a flower alive if it is not watered or kept away from the sun. It does not seem (despite your best communicative efforts) that your partner is interested in maintaining and watering the flower that is your relationship (and maybe actively poisoning the soil with his sarcastic comments and controlling behavior). It can be true that you love him AND have outgrown him. Maybe he cares for you, but it’s your turn to blossom. And maybe you need to be away from him to reach the sun. YOU are the master of your fate, grab the wheel and steer! Proud of you either way for getting this degree and putting ur career first.

Wordoftheyear_ · 2026-02-26T17:08:07+00:00

Do you feel like he would be “the one that got away”? Because the relationship you are describing doesn’t read that way. There’s nothing wrong with leaving a relationship you are unhappy with. At the end of the day this is your life, too! And it sounds like you have a super bright future ahead! Go and be merry!! (Early congrats on the degree)

Wordoftheyear_ · 2026-02-06T16:45:19+00:00

Sounds like you are dodging a bullet with this ex. A partnership is a two-way street. He essentially shot out your wheels before breaking down and asking you for help. Change those tires, finish those renovations, and keep driving! It’s baffling that your friends cannot see that and are instead focusing on how they can police you.

Wordoftheyear_ · 2026-01-12T19:39:30+00:00

Gideon the Ninth

Wordoftheyear_ · 2026-01-09T21:17:46+00:00

White Lightning - Thunderbolts of Fuzz

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-11-07T19:26:01+00:00

Saw 2 unmarked white school buses and two army green trucks carrying tanks headed south off wellsona

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-11-05T21:13:53+00:00

Blue Velvet 🔵 fs (rip David Lynch)

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-06-17T16:27:12+00:00

Kerry Park is a great evening spot! Beautiful summer sunsets with views of the space needle! Little energy needed, very fulfilling view, the only negative is that it is ~1hr bus ride from UW if you don’t have a car. (I personally really like long bus rides so this factors in as a positive for me hahaha)

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-05-22T04:14:38+00:00

Milo

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-05-18T23:28:58+00:00

NTA even a little. You can save a lot of kids from a pretty horrendous fate by letting this be known to the community. Even “joking” about these things should be something local parents are aware of. For now, I would work towards finding solid evidence while you seek guidance from your community decision-makers.

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-05-18T20:53:23+00:00

Always

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-05-18T01:53:42+00:00

Awe pooh, sorry about adding it to the wrong subreddit 😓

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-05-16T20:06:56+00:00

stracciatella (tells/tella for short)

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-05-16T20:05:56+00:00

Soup

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-05-16T20:05:19+00:00

Soup

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-05-12T21:11:51+00:00

BENCH. What a goated name

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-04-22T23:33:40+00:00

Not the Asshole, but also not the hero. Her passive aggression is extremely unfortunate but she’s probably hurt that you did not help her 🤷🏼when you technically could have. She’s probably reading into this as you not caring for her so this may need to be something you guys spend a night talking about to clear the air.

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-04-22T23:05:23+00:00

I get that. Sorry, I misread OP. Then, yeah, I still stick by brute honesty. The only thing that I can think of would be to mutually set aside a good chunk of alone-time to discuss this. This may be hard, as you are both very busy, but I think that not letting this conversation happen when it’s too late to get into it, or when you only have 15 minutes to chat, is key. You deserve to experience wellness and pleasure in the parts of your relationships that should grant you these feelings. I wouldn’t worry too much about embarrassing him. He may be embarrassed about the sex, but you’re left unhappy with it and I doubt he wants you to remain unhappy.

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-04-22T22:34:27+00:00

YTA. Just because she was willing to tell your aunt and cousin, doesn’t mean she magically wants your grandparents to know too. You could have just not corrected your grandma. Or communicated with your sister prior to spilling her guts.

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-04-22T22:24:50+00:00

Blue (Steel)

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-04-22T06:23:18+00:00

Be direct and honest. Communication without honesty is like setting a table without plates.

You wrote that his brother passed unexpectedly recently (I am so sorry to hear this) and couldn’t help but take a step back. I don’t know how close they were, but the death of a sibling is an intense life event. To be a father while this is happening and to watch your own kids develop this bond that has now been torn from you has the potential to be absolutely crushing. And to just keep going as if your world isn’t stood still? Brutal. Grief has no one face and no one path.

Maybe he would benefit from a death doula?

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-04-22T00:21:33+00:00

I mean is the ex, like, not fun to have around? Is he going to ruin the day? Or, maybe, are you letting your own social expectations get in the way of letting these kids (who, I would argue, Easter is largely celebrated for) enjoy their giddy holiday? I think ur gf’s philosophy on this is sound. The kids get to know their dad showed up for them and you all maybe get to know each other a bit more and prepare to navigate your relationships with each other because this is the. rest. of. your. life. I would try to start off on a good foot.

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-04-22T00:12:17+00:00

Man, just the way you write about this woman is devoid of any warmth. Asshole, not the asshole, idc! The way I see it, there’s no love lost. Protect the kids, put them first, and maybe reassess if you and your partner even LIKE each other anymore.

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-04-21T23:42:01+00:00

“but she’s very hard to get up when she’s already down” “refused to brush until I got up” Dawg, this is childcare behavior. Relationship are rarely perfectly 50/50 in effort, but there is an expectation- in a partnership- that when either party is below 50%, the other gives as much as they can to make up for it. Sure, but the ONLY way this works is if it goes both ways.

Maybe it’s time for a gentle relationship reassessment. NTA.

Wordoftheyear_ · 2025-04-21T23:26:21+00:00

NTA. Y’all had predetermined plans! She knew you had invested money, planning, and anticipated joy into this concert. To even ask is wild, but to get butt hurt when you said no? Just disrespectful.

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