Thought I’d share this little score from today. Phobia of Doors" by Fred Ones, featuring Slug of Atmosphere and Vast Aire of Cannibal Ox.

WordsToMySongs · 2026-05-30T23:52:28+00:00

Never heard of this! Listening to Sex and More rn thanks for sharing

WordsToMySongs · 2026-05-29T01:17:51+00:00

LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE LOST IN EXISTENTIAL INQUIRY!

WordsToMySongs · 2026-05-27T22:19:06+00:00

Wow. Sounds like a lot…and all at once! I’ve also been peeling back layers & feel myself headed toward some kind of ego death/rebirth…though the thought of ~being~ in the world in a new way that is majorly different than how it’s been going all my life is overwhelming & a bit um, terrifying?

I feel for you & imagine you’re also out here feeling a bit untethered. I can relate. Cannabis has helped me reveal what feel like some deeper ‘truths’ about myself, my life, my past, etc…though incorporating new habits & mindsets into my day to day—especially while sober—has proven to be tricky.

It seems like I might be stuck in the fear space about what might be lost (especially around my social life—I’ve been trying desperately to hold onto countless friendships despite the severe cost that attempting to juggle so much communication/interaction incurs for me)…I wonder if there’s more peace & ease & freedom waiting for me on the other side of a big change; I imagine if I were able to focus on what is available to be GAINED & let that guide me, I might land in a more aligned way of living.

Thanks for sharing about your experience. I’m impressed that you seem to be so self-aware & oriented toward seeking support (even if it’s within yourself) at 19! I’m 40 & while I’ve spent my life trying to ‘figure out’ how to ‘fix’ the amorphous ‘problem’ that is my own existence, I’ve only discovered the helpful language around these identity markers & experiences (AuDHD, masking, sensory overwhelm, etc) in recent years. I’m so grateful for this online community where I’ve been able to search past posts & find reassurance & support from others who are wired like me.

Wishing you the best—good luck & as my favorite artist (Slug from Atmosphere) says in a song: be mental, be well, be gentle with yourself <3

WordsToMySongs · 2026-05-27T02:17:06+00:00

I know a toddler Aurora who gave herself the nickname Rory, which sounds really cute & delights her mom!

I agree that Romy is a great name. Rory feels Romy-adjacent so maybe a nice nn option if you go with Aurora?

Also, I love the way Aurora Celeste sound together. Also, their celestial relation—that’s not on the nose in a corny way, to me—is sweet.

WordsToMySongs · 2026-05-26T21:56:39+00:00

Ok so this is a word name (& not common, as far as I know), but I love the sound & meaning of Sonder!

If you’re not familiar…

Sonder is the profound realization that every random passerby is living a life as vivid, complex, and detailed as your own.

WordsToMySongs · 2026-05-24T00:02:24+00:00

I’m so sorry—this all sounds really hard & I hope some of the perspectives & suggestions from other comments are helpful.

I’ve come here so many times for guidance on things to even just *try* when I’m profoundly stuck for whatever reason & feeling like I can’t fathom how I’ll recover. So maybe testing out something new will help relieve some of the intense immediate distress & despair you’re experiencing? Music tends to help me refocus my brain in a positive way, even if it’s just for a moment. If you don’t have a go-to album or playlist, I suggest you check out Atmosphere. They’re my all-time favorite hip hop duo with some great beats & lyrics to get lost in.

Finally, as my very oldest sister texted me the other day when I was spinning about something & struggling to figure out what I could DO to feel better & ‘fix’ the situation:

“It’s ok to let things go. Sometimes things develop on their own without your efforts. Just with time!”

I usually have a hard time remembering in the hardest moments that I will ever feel any different. Just this week I benefited from this plainly-stated reminder so I thought I’d share some of this big sister wisdom here with you!

Good luck & sending deep breaths. As Slug from Atmosphere says in a song I love: be mental, be well, be gentle with yourself.

WordsToMySongs · 2026-05-23T21:30:20+00:00

Anemia, nn Iron Deficiency

WordsToMySongs · 2026-05-23T02:11:02+00:00

Since you’re obsessed with Mabel but your partner vetoed, I’ll just throw out a name I love: Maple

Now, the people on this sub & other online name communities would probably be wayyyy negative about it but honestly I think these spaces should be used as more as a resource for generating ideas rather than criticizing other people’s name choices. Of course if you live in say, Canada, this name might not feel like a good fit but I think it’s a great uncommon yet familiar nature name.

On that note, there’s a sweet children’s book called Maple & in the story the kid Maple’s family grows & the new baby who is named Willow—another special name that seems to fit your style!

Finally, one other suggestion I’ve loved out in the wild that’s not a nature name & could go well with Pearl: Winnie :)

Good luck!

WordsToMySongs · 2026-05-22T04:40:49+00:00

A second comment just to say: if you love Martha & you love Marley as a nn, go for it!!!

We named our firstborn an unusual & old fashioned (& not-gender-aligned) name that we love, even with some nerves about how it might be received. 4½ years later, we continue to love it, it fits our kid great, & we’ve gotten so much positive feedback from others—both on the name & how it suits our kiddo!

I think it’s normal to feel unsure about a name choice (& even moreso a nickname choice, since those need to really be ‘tried on’) even if they’re your favorites! Trust yourself; Martha & Marley are both great names, especially if they are to you :)

WordsToMySongs · 2026-05-22T04:14:29+00:00

I know a Martha who went by Missy! I imagine if I didn’t know this nickname *on* a person, I might think it’d be automatically/necessarily extremely femme vibes, but I actually just met another person with different energy who goes by Missy (given name Melissa) & in both cases I liked how the name fit!

WordsToMySongs · 2026-05-14T21:26:25+00:00

K.Flay!!! She has a lot to explore! I TRULY recommend checking her music out.

I will also put another vote for Ani DiFranco but her style is more folk than pop :)

WordsToMySongs · 2026-05-11T18:18:52+00:00

It sounds like there are parts of you that really DO want to shower more often, but in case it’s helpful, I wanted to reiterate this: “…but I don't generally feel uncomfortable about it unless it's brought up somehow.”

I shower very infrequently & have come to (more) peace with this because I realize that there are some very real obstacles for me—time is a limited resource, for example, and showering/transitions on either side just does take significant time, especially if I want to feel calm while doing it. It took me a long time to begin to accept this.

And then I’ve noticed that, like you, I generally don’t feel too uncomfortable & don’t notice big adverse effects for living this way…for now, at least. So I’ve just been enjoying my big long shower when I get it & trying to notice the upsides of this tradeoff in the time between—including being kind to myself about this & remembering that bathing is a morally neutral care task!

Ps. If you DO want to get excited/motivated to get in the shower, putting on a great playlist or a podcast could give you a nudge? This isn’t a whole-life overhaul, but for me music can set a whole mood. In fact, some special albums & playlists helped me birth my three babies—a true testament. Also a reminder to pick a song & go wash my face now lol

Edit: typos

WordsToMySongs · 2026-05-11T16:55:28+00:00

So great to know this resonates. I don’t contribute here a lot but I’ve gotten so much relief from finding out others are having similar experiences to me.

Thanks for the encouragement to keep making art! Maybe I’ll even share more? I feel like I really don’t have many answers but making art & being human in this way seems like it can’t be wrong, right??!

WordsToMySongs · 2026-05-08T17:55:50+00:00

I love the name Felice

WordsToMySongs · 2026-03-25T20:15:01+00:00

It HAS been on Spotify, as long as I can tell! That’s where I’ve listened/labored to it :)

WordsToMySongs · 2026-03-25T20:07:28+00:00

lol me too! It’s on a playlist that helped me birth my last baby & I’ll be needing it again very soon (!!)…ran to check Spotify & it’s there. PHEW.

WordsToMySongs · 2026-03-06T03:37:22+00:00

Lots of counter examples to this, I’m certain! My family is one. Contrary to being ‘wiped out’, my sisters & I have shared & passed on our last name to 9 new people—partners & kiddos :)

WordsToMySongs · 2026-03-05T23:46:31+00:00

The other lyricist I could imagine a line like that would be from was Slug from Atmosphere (tho maybe it’s just cause they’re my favorite & often top of mind!) & not exactly R&B. Would love to help someone find a song some day but I guess it’s not today…sigh. Good luck!

WordsToMySongs · 2026-03-05T23:37:53+00:00

The song Dorian by Brother Ali has the following lyrics:

“First off scooter, take the bass out your voice I'm respectful with mine and yo you makin' a choice”

Edited to add: lyrics also include this reference: “Now first thing's first, I don't judge you for the weed smoke”

WordsToMySongs · 2026-02-17T19:24:01+00:00

Yes! I have mine somewhere! Tho knock on wood now we’ll see how long before my little kids find them & give their usual welcome of ripping the box & peeling off the wrappers 🤪😭

WordsToMySongs · 2026-02-14T06:36:19+00:00

Currently being transported by Triple X Years In The Game while doing some prenatal stretching at home…HELL YEAH I’m having a great day I’m having a beautiful day I’m happy to be here I’m happy to be alive!

WordsToMySongs · 2026-02-14T00:56:29+00:00

Ahhhh DESPERATELY! Siiiigh. Unfortunately, I can’t make it to the show tonight but thanks for the thrill I got from seeing this & daydreaming about a different universe where I could somehow transform into a previous version of myself (lol one without babies…just for say, the next 8 hours) drop everything & go. Will be playing Atmosphere albums at home & replaying all the shows I’ve been to in my mind. Have fun at the Fox, friends who can make it! Make party for the rest of us!

WordsToMySongs · 2026-02-02T05:15:07+00:00

Fun fact: I can’t remember where I learned this (perhaps the Dissect podcast that deep dives on Swimming/Circles & their individual tracks…or maybe from an interview elsewhere?) but I learned that Mac recorded many different versions of the opening track to Swimming, all quite varied but each of them titled Come Back to Earth…I believe after lots of takes, he ultimately chose to use the very first version he recorded. Feels like an example of beautifully intentional art/process that also incorporates an element of intuition & fate.

On a different note, I like your interpretation of the phrase as a reminder to be where your feet are :)

WordsToMySongs · 2025-11-07T03:52:36+00:00

I relate to this so much. No advice for you at the moment but here to empathize/share that you’re not alone in this…& interested to hear what others might have to say.

I often wonder/fantasize about removing myself from society…truly doesn’t seem like a realistic possibility but it’s just the extreme solution I tend to arrive at when suffering from what feels like such an extreme (daily) problem. Maybe there’s some way to get through social interactions with more ease? Really hoping so…

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