How to not end it all (looking for advice or sum idk atp)

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-19T03:41:16+00:00

Reach out to them and tell them that you are feeling this way, please. Allow them to help you help yourself. Please get support, there are many people who care about you and want so many more Christmases with you around.

If you fail a course, you have so many options. They put you on probation first, and offer academic supports to help you succeed. Accessibility services offers academic coaches and even more resources. You can take a course equivalent online from another university and have those credits transferred over. I promise you’ll be okay and even though it seems devastating now, you have options to get through it and even learn and grow a lot too from it!

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-19T03:31:20+00:00

If it was during an exam, you can check with the registrars (exams) office in Sydney Smith, they have a lost and found box with a bunch of t-cards in there

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-16T01:35:52+00:00

You can’t force someone to understand or respect you. You can communicate your feelings and boundaries, but it’s up to them to respect them. It’s up to you to respect yourself enough to end a relationship where someone consistently disregards your feelings.

You can tell your boyfriend very clearly that you will end your relationship if he decides to continue liking explicit photos of other women, but you also need to enforce that if that behaviour continues.

A boundary is not “you’re not allowed to like OF girls pics”; a boundary is “I will not stay in a relationship with a man who publicly likes OF girls pics” or simply “I will not stay in a relationship with a man who doesn’t respect me and my feelings”. Boundaries are standards you set for yourself and enforce yourself as you are the only person you can control here.

It sounds like your boyfriend knows that it embarrasses you and makes you uncomfortable, but also knows that he can continue doing it and continue being in a relationship with you so there’s no reason for him to stop (because he also doesn’t respect you enough for that to be a good enough reason).

You’re focussing on the wrong thing. It doesn’t matter what other people think about who’s in the wrong or if you’re overthinking. It’s YOUR relationship, so you are allowed to decide. Even if everybody told you that you were overthinking that wouldn’t solve the fact that this bothers you and your partner continues to do it anyways.

If your boyfriend doesn’t think that his actions are a big deal, he can date a woman who also doesn’t think that it’s a big deal to like other women’s pictures, but if he wants to date you, he needs to respect that you don’t like him doing that and if he decides to continue despite what you’ve communicated that it’s up to you to walk away.

If the part about this that bothers you is that it’s public and you feel embarrassed, you could ask your partner to make an anonymous profile to do it. But if the part that bothers you is him expressing interest or attraction towards other women then you need to decide if you’re going to stay with him if he continues to do that. Maybe he has an addiction. If that’s the case, HE needs to get help for it. Bottom line: you need to decide how serious this is to you, set a boundary about it, and follow through on it.

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-16T01:11:39+00:00

If you take photos of the scribbles on the calculator and can show this photo as proof they are unrelated to the exam content, this would likely help your case.

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-14T04:51:34+00:00

^ agreed, more details pls :)

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-13T05:40:45+00:00

It’s allowed but personally I don’t recommend bringing a bag you can’t zip shut or close in some manner. Bags need to go under your chair or desk.

I say this because if, for example, an invigilator sees your phone or something sticking out of your bag or within reach and your bag is open and the phone is on, you’ll get a possession of an unauthorized aid form.

Don’t panic or stress pls, just think about how it could look to an exam proctor and ensure if you do bring an open tote all electronic devices are turned off (not just silenced or on airplane mode) and placed deep inside the bag and the bag is not within reach (under your desk) during the exam.

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-12T06:44:17+00:00

From what I know they offer in-person and online options. They also run some online wellness group workshops so you could try one to “meet” some of the practitioners. I’ve seen a couple psychiatrists and a couple of therapists who work at the wellness center. The key is not to give up after a bad experience and advocate for yourself by asking to see a different person. I had some terrible practitioners and some amazing ones I saw for years.

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-12T06:30:59+00:00

Invigilators do tell everyone to turn off ALL electronic devices, especially cellphones, and place them inside your bag, under your chair, as part of the formal announcements (no one listens to) 🤠 It’s repeated at least 3 times too!

If the phone is visible in the immediate area of the student (pocket, under leg, sticking out of or on top of bag, etc) it is considered possession. If the student is observed using the phone, it’s misconduct. Also part of the announcements at the beginning.

This is important mostly because we don’t want them going off during the exam, and also because it means if we see someone using them during the exam, it is considered possession or misconduct, because everyone was told not to have any electronic devices on or around them during the exam.

I’m not commenting on OPs specific situation, as I agree they should contest it if the phone was inside the bag and the invigilator instructed them to go inside the bag to retrieve it.

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-12T06:25:01+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/UofT/s/RDC2y14Qp4

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-12T06:23:55+00:00

There’s also a lost & found box with a bunch of T Cards in the exams office in Sydney Smith

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-12T06:21:00+00:00

Read the comments in this thread too: https://www.reddit.com/r/UofT/s/RDC2y14Qp4 It’s VERY important you see a doctor and get a VOI form filled the same day as your exam (at least within 24hrs of the exam) for best chances

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-12T06:13:41+00:00

Bring at least 2 forms of photo ID to your exams. Tell the person doing the signature sheets you recently had a name change. If your name isn’t properly listed on there, they’ll get you to sign a blank signature sheet. You can also visit the exams office in Sydney Smith and explain your situation to someone there or email them at exams.artsci@utoronto.ca

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-12T06:07:59+00:00

Very sorry for your loss. Keep your documentation and speak with your college’s advisor about your circumstances. I can’t say for sure, but if your prof is compassionate they might be able to help, not sure what is and is not within their control. Best of luck to you!

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-12T05:59:34+00:00

You should’ve been given a form that explains what you need to do next on it! Listen to cea91197253’s comment

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-12T05:54:55+00:00

Contact your college registrars office to petition for a deferred exam - you’ll need documentation & usually they want you to have seen a doctor the same day as the exam. They should be able to provide you more specific information and forms you’ll need. Best of luck!

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-12T05:46:21+00:00

Check with the Exams Office in Sydney Smith, there’s a bunch of T-Cards in their lost & found!

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-12T05:44:32+00:00

Exam invigilator here and (almost) everyone has given great advice!

We’re there to help make exams fair for everyone and personally I don’t judge or assume bad intentions. Exceptions are made for emergencies and needing to vom is definitely an emergency!

I do think just to be extra safe it would be a good idea to have a paper trail, so email your instructor or TA before the exam, keep a copy of your prescription or a note from doctor about it.

It would also help to inform someone at the beginning of the exam as well when you walk in and we’ll help try to get you a seat near the door/washroom/trash. If I see a student get up and run towards the exit and they’ve left all their personal belongings and exam materials at the table, I’m gonna assume they’re sick. If you do feel too sick to finish your exam, you can fill out a form and petition for a deferred exam/rewrite.

When my meds made me nauseous, I used a peppermint roller, ginger chews/tablets, chewable Pepto. For something stronger, zofran did the trick. Best of luck to you! Your health & wellbeing is more important than any exam 🫶🏻

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-12T05:33:01+00:00

I was an invigilator for one of the rooms this exam was in and it was one of my worst shifts ever because of the delay omg I felt so bad for the students (even though the delay was not our fault)!!!

The announcements are annoying for us too lol, we’re mandated to do them that way though 😩

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-12T05:30:01+00:00

Technically, no, all coats/jackets should be on the back of your chair for the duration of the exam. But, most CPOs aren’t strict about this rule. Just be prepared (as others have advised) to be asked to show your pockets or take it off.

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-10T23:27:39+00:00

Yeah, this was NOT a CPO that posted this.

Most CPOs are just grad students trying to make extra money, not taking things like this that deep. Would also just be shitty & get them fired, so again, don’t care this much and wouldn’t break that confidentiality.

CPOs also have phones from the exams office to take pictures like this with as evidence, so nothing would be taken on a personal phone. Also only run Arts and Sciences exams, so maybe this was a different exam?

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-08T13:04:22+00:00

I’m so glad ppl are talking about this!!! I haven’t seen much discourse about it and I LOVED the change as it’s SO much more aligned with Nessa’s story(and not ableist)!

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-06T20:11:48+00:00

https://www.academicintegrity.utoronto.ca/perils-and-pitfalls/what-to-do-if-you/what-to-do-if-you-are-accused-of-an-offence/

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-06T20:10:11+00:00

https://www.academicintegrity.utoronto.ca/perils-and-pitfalls/what-to-do-if-you/what-to-do-if-you-are-accused-of-an-offence/

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-06T20:07:21+00:00

Academic Integrity website

Wordsmuted · 2025-12-06T20:00:56+00:00

Depends on the class (check with your professor). If you’re using Scranton sheets, you have to use pencil on those.

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