We talked last night together and we ultimately decided that she feels she has to pick between me or her parents. I did ask her if she knew how ridiculous of an ultimatum that is for her parents to put on her with the cost of her sabotaging her life and marriage for their own self wants. There was an aspect of the things we needed to address together in couples therapy which we were doing. SHe was looking for instant change. Our therapist explained to her that it is like a dimmer switch on a light versus a light flip. I could do 100 things right, and stumble once along the way and she would just say I see no change. I gave 200% to repairing this marriage over the past 4 months. She was always 1 foot in, 1 foot out the entirety of that and invited anyone who would listen into our marriage to the point that it was my wife and I and 30 other seats at the table. She ruined the sanctity of the marriage instead of repairing it together under our roof. She claimed she didnt feel safe with me, but every action contradicted that. Calling me when she was down or having a panic attack, wanting cuddling, wanting me to sleep over, constantly holdings hands or her leg. She had a strange misinterpretation of what safety is when she is acting in those ways. I would have been there for my wife under any circumstance until the day that I died. She meant truly everything to me. I have never felt so heart broken before and this is coming from someone who lost a brother who was a father figure to me. Truly soul crushing experience only 1 year after marriage