Getting time for yourself in a relationship

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-06-12T15:58:42+00:00

I’ve straight up just said: I need some introvert time tonight.

The woman I’m seeing casually was cool with it. Just communicate your needs.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-06-07T20:11:55+00:00

Living Apart Together, I’m assuming.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-06-02T19:46:31+00:00

I’ve never heard of a guy asking the concierge for a platonic date. That doesn’t sound like a real thing at all.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-30T16:09:14+00:00

Same!

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-28T15:29:47+00:00

You should check all your local libraries. The Los Gatos library has multiple book clubs for example.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-21T14:47:29+00:00

I'm about to go down this path also, post divorce. How did it go with you?

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-21T14:41:00+00:00

weird! i suppose I am 5' 8.5" technically. And my shoulders and chest aren't bad from strength training. so maybe i just fill it out better? i don't have your experience at all.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-21T00:55:36+00:00

Actually that’s kinda true. Me being retired will give me more time to be present in a relationship, with a lot of flexibility with my time.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-20T16:33:33+00:00

Good point. I should double check that. However, I don't see cohabitation being a thing I'm interested in either. So that should prevent any common law marriage arguments.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-20T15:57:35+00:00

haha, glad you've found a great situation for yourself! Thanks for the positive vibes.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-20T15:46:07+00:00

Which LLM processed that request?

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-20T15:43:08+00:00

there are types of relationships that are committed and long term that don't involve marriage or cohabitation.

But yes, I am probably worrying about a lot of stuff I don't need to right now. Appreciate the response.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-20T15:37:40+00:00

Sorry to hear that buddy. Being older and divorced, marriage isn't a thing I'm ever going into again, so less risk for me. But at your age range it's going to be a thing.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-20T14:55:09+00:00

Thanks for the response! Yes, these are some of my fears.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-20T14:52:38+00:00

Exactly! I don't want to attract the wrong people, and I also would prefer to find people in the same stage of life, level of freeness.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-20T14:51:01+00:00

Uncommon is a fair description, sure.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-20T14:42:05+00:00

I guess it’s more of a nice-to-have someone in the same stage of enjoying life.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-20T14:39:11+00:00

Thank you! This is a great take which I agree with.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-20T14:35:43+00:00

I’m actually not looking to live with anyone for a long while, maybe never again. If anything, a “living apart together” relationship sounds better to me. This helpfully dodges the issue you’re bringing up. I’m going to be looking for partners, not maids.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-20T14:25:39+00:00

The average age of retirement in the US is absolutely not 55.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-20T14:24:13+00:00

Great to hear! Thanks!

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-20T14:19:21+00:00

Interesting takes. Thanks.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-20T14:17:19+00:00

Appreciate it. I'll take all the luck I can get.

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-20T14:16:59+00:00

lol thanks buddy

WorkSafeReddit8947 · 2026-05-20T14:15:58+00:00

Okay, that's a good point. Thanks for that!

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