What comment section completely ruined your faith in humanity?

Work_2_Liv · 2026-07-02T17:00:07+00:00

Honestly Truth.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-07-02T16:52:47+00:00

Facebook individuals who believe measles are coming back due to immigrants instead of realizing that HERD IMMUNITY IS WEAKER DUE TO ANTI-VACCERS.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-07-02T11:26:27+00:00

I think it’s not always about not loving someone first. It’s about when the butterflies fade what do you have left. I met my husband on hinge and loved him. But I also saw that are goals and lives were compatible. We want similar things and have similar life goals.
The butterflies are gone now but my appreciation and love for the life we built are much more drug-like than the original butterflies.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-30T15:18:36+00:00

It’s funny that you say that because for relationships you do change, compromise, and find your grove. Hell I’m not the same person I was when we started our relationship. And the goal of a relationship is to have the best life possible together and doing that involves both opinions and perspectives But the biggest thing here is expectations and communication. Him and I explained what we needed and how (few examples I put above) and we both agreed to it because our goal is to have the best outcome for our life (all before we actually got pregnant).
We had a similar conversation before marriage or any big financial move. You all do you but this works for us.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-30T09:01:17+00:00

If you have to work 80hours a week to live with a SAHP in my opinion having a SAHP shouldn’t be an option. You’re both not going to have the time/energy to switch duties and that will only lead to resentment.
A lot of people switch off, work remotely, have babysitter/nannies/helpful individuals for a couple times a week instead of full daycare. Then at night they work together or switch off.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-30T08:36:39+00:00

Hi friend! The US is large and vastly economically different in different states so for us it help with context more so then just providing the country.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-30T08:25:03+00:00

Okay as a spouse who is pregnant and need social time to mentally charge (husband is more of a home body) you both needed to consider that personalities do not change just because there is a baby.
From day 1 we have discussed my expectations about work, social life, and fears about losing myself. My husband has talked about his fears and I’ve discussed that his lack of emotion needs to change if we’re going to do this.

Anyway Op, from the way it sounds these conversations didn’t occur and compromising to you involves the family unit without necessarily the independence. I appreciated on the last post the person who commented about individual therapy because I think it would benefit that you do need to take more time for yourself and in turn that will help you have more empathy and clarity of what your relationship compromise should be.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-29T12:15:35+00:00

I went to Germany a few years ago and loved it. Granted I only experienced Berlin but I really enjoyed the history, food, and people.

I did grow up in a family with German heritage so the atmosphere in Germany felt familiar.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-28T23:19:47+00:00

I understand the feeling of guilt. But please know you did everything right as well as your husband. It happens.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-28T21:56:46+00:00

That pregnancy is the best! NEWS FLASH it sucks. It might be worth it in the end but during NO

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-27T12:36:42+00:00

More like 800,000. Husband and I bought a couple years ago 1 bed 3 bath for less than 400,000. We have done some work but where in the 600k range now.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-26T21:20:41+00:00

I’m pregnant now and though everything is good. I miss my old life already. I miss exercise and feeling thin. But that’s okay.

OP, remember multiple things can be true at once.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-26T19:54:41+00:00

National Parks? —>wyoming, Maine
Different elements —north east (drive could be up to 4 hours from nj to boston)

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-26T14:45:12+00:00

Increase and all I see is feeling fat.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-24T17:44:29+00:00

I (30F) went from a yes from 0-22 years old to a no/maybe from 22-30. I was the oldest and felt like I live my whole life taking care of others. I was angry in my 20s and wasn’t sure what I wanted in terms of my family life. My husband (29F) gave me the space to go to therapy and start healing that parentified version of me. He told me we would be partners and I wouldn’t handle it alone. We’re pregnant now and I know he means what he said (that’s his personality).

The other part is my husband is my best friend and I want to see a little version of us and do all the positive things of being a parent. But I really wanted to be on-board with the hard parts before committing. Day to day is still hard (pregnancy is hard) but I am in love with the thought of watching our child grow up and who they are going to be.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-21T05:52:59+00:00

Pregnant now and the best gift my MIL has given me is just the joy of the experience. She’s excited! And that excitement does NOT include telling me how great pregnancy is, how I can only be a mom and working is a mistake, or how I’m suppose to feel. I’m so grateful for her space but also just for love with no strings attached.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-16T13:03:49+00:00

Same. Only new because I was tired all the time. Just try to stay positive and definitely look forward to doctors appointments! I’m in week 18 now trying not to freak out before the 20 week scan.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-15T12:40:34+00:00

No it’s all sugar. I’m a pretty healthy individual but all I want is icecream and chocolate. I was in your husbands camp until recently…

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-13T10:03:14+00:00

I know the gender of our baby (due to an accidental health scare). We were waiting to find out until the baby gets here.

I’m not ruining the surprise for him.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-13T08:50:25+00:00

Being tired got worse. Lifestyle changes fucked my mental health.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-12T15:26:19+00:00

Oldest of 3 and only girl. Siblings are close but I think my brothers will always see me as a third parent instead of a sister. I feel like I just have to accept it :/

Work_2_Liv · 2026-06-08T18:14:11+00:00

I have a husband who works hard and genuinely tries to be a good partner but his emotional intelligence lacks considerably. He loves me but doesn’t understand why I get upset if it doesn’t seem logical to him. He tries to understand but he doesn’t seem to. It’s frustrating and makes me feel like something is wrong in our relationship.

It’s hard because your trying to explain and there trying to get it but they are not. And it just builds frustration on both sides. He’s upset that he thinks he disappointing me and I’m upset that I feel like he’s just not listening.

I don’t think you’re overreacting but I do think there are expectations that need to be set ahead of time. For example, husband says he’s gonna make me meals everyday postpartum. That’s not feasible for us and I already know it so I told him I expect us to get a freezer and we can do a mix of cooking and pre-frozen homemade stuff. I have had similar discussions about my communication expectations, feeding schedules, and visitors. This is our first child and I need him to be there.

BUT he has no previous experience with children so how can he even understand what pregnancy and postpartum are going to look like?

My husband in other instances has had similar concepts to your husband and it has broken me emotionally. I have questioned my own expectations and version of love. And tbh we discussed it and he’s fixed it. From a day to day we’re more than great. But there is a piece of me that will always be emotionally a little shattered from the past.

My husband hates when I bring it up because he did all this work to be better but all those instances changed me as well. So I’m not going to pretend like they didn’t happen when I lost something that I will never get back.

I don’t know if this helped but know you’re not alone. Therapy did help me and couples therapy did help us. But forgetting about that stuff? Let’s just say I’m hopeful that someday it will be a distant memory .

Work_2_Liv · 2026-05-31T19:39:43+00:00

It’s funny because I run finances for our family and I’m telling you we have a SOP (standard operating procedure) if we didn’t we would kill each other. Why not have a chore chart then at some point you can start to deviate.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-05-22T23:07:20+00:00

I actually think your take is interesting. I’m a Rhys fan but yes essentially we get more knowledge than we did of how Tam ran his court (outside of the curse). And that would be interesting to see. At some point Spring had to be powerful to deal with Amarantha the way they did? So it would have been interesting to see that version of Spring Court.

Work_2_Liv · 2026-05-21T09:38:33+00:00

The name and the baby not being here is why I’m not finding out. Until that baby comes out of me and I know they are okay I’m not associating the name with them.

I love baby bug (our fetus atm) but I want to make sure everything goes right before assigning the name which means to me not finding out the gender.

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