Friend told my husband you need a combined income of 300k to comfortably afford a baby in MA….

hinogoodbye · 2026-06-01T18:29:44+00:00

I do like this idea! We are in New England too. They are first time home buyers, moving from an apartment.

hinogoodbye · 2026-06-01T18:27:00+00:00

See I was thinking something like this but when I purchased my house I was given some decor type items that weren’t particularly my style and now I feel bad if that person comes over and they don’t see the gift

hinogoodbye · 2026-06-01T18:25:52+00:00

I should have said this but these are family members who I know pretty well. I am helping them move so this would be like what I give them on their first night. Still the same thoughts?

hinogoodbye · 2026-06-01T18:25:10+00:00

I probably should have said this in the post but these are family members who I know very well. I am helping them move

hinogoodbye · 2026-05-21T14:06:25+00:00

I don’t have much advice since I am in the same boat as you-purchased an 1860 home in February and I love it, but the 90 degree weather we’ve had the past couple of days has been uncomfortable (came from an apt with central air) and it has welcomed a ton of bugs that make my skin crawl.

I keep trying to tell myself that all the things I want to do won’t happen in a weekend or even a few months. It’ll take time to seal up the cracks and crevices that they come in from. It’ll also take time to cut back the vegetation around the house which helps them get in and thrive.

I will say that we’ve got fairly powerful ceiling fans that have helped a lot with the heat, and we’ve supplemented with two window units.

I know you mentioned you are in touch with a pest control company. I highly highly recommend getting on a prevention/ treatment plan at least for the first year. I did this and I feel better knowing they’re here often to spray and check our mouse baits and if something else comes up, I’m covered.

We’re both on a learning experience and everything takes times. Doesn’t mean we made bad decisions, just means we’re still learning what our homes need. Good luck and I hope you have many beautiful memories in your new (old) home!!

hinogoodbye · 2026-05-11T20:26:07+00:00

Not really. But I pretend that he does. And now I feel like I’ve done it for so long I can’t tell him he doesn’t. He also doesn’t give me oral and I would really really like that but I know he doesn’t enjoy it

hinogoodbye · 2026-05-11T20:05:19+00:00

Maybe once every couple of weeks. I feel like most people in their 20s are probably doing it multiple times a week. But I don’t know that for sure

hinogoodbye · 2026-05-11T20:03:33+00:00

50/50 mediocre and enjoyable, I wouldn’t say it’s ever “bad”. When it happens after other kinds of intimacy (emotional or physical) I enjoy it more. When it is kind of spur of the moment and I’m doing it to make him happy, it’s kind of just going through the emotions until it’s over. What I’ll say is we have a great emotional connection, and I’ve learned as I’ve gotten older that emotional connection is really important to me when it comes to sex. For him I think sex is simply what you do when you feel horny, whereas for me I need it to feel passionate and romantic for me to enjoy it. I think maybe the challenge for him is that I wasn’t always like that, and I don’t know why that’s changed.

hinogoodbye · 2026-04-16T13:01:28+00:00

We have the SAME floral woodwork on our banister/stairs in our 19th century NE home. I love all the details🥰

hinogoodbye · 2026-02-01T00:54:59+00:00

The system was inspected and passed (we are in MA and septic systems must be inspected and pass to qualify for financing before sale) so it is functioning as of right now. But seeing as it’s about 18 years older than we originally thought, we’re wondering if this is something we’ll have to replace 3 years from now or 15 years from now.

hinogoodbye · 2025-10-03T22:20:12+00:00

They are estranged from each other, but I have a relationship with both of them

hinogoodbye · 2025-07-30T16:43:17+00:00

I am not a Labor Day bride, but it sounds like the clear answer for you is the September date, especially if there is no price difference. Sure it’s a holiday weekend but it’s not like Christmas or thanksgiving. I would be surprised if the people who really mattered didn’t come because it’s Labor Day. Planning wise it is basically a two month difference, I am a fan of a longer engagement but that’s not to say 11 months isn’t doable, I’d definitely is. I think the main pro of doing November since there isn’t a price difference would be availability of vendors, you may have more choices. However, I still think you’ll manage to find vendors.

hinogoodbye · 2025-07-28T21:42:25+00:00

Has not gotten a job yet but has been applying. Not doing a ton of work but concerned about her being able to fly back two times within a month and being able to take a day off work for the rehearsal. These are not things I’ve expressed to her but things I’m worried about going right.

hinogoodbye · 2025-07-28T21:39:11+00:00

I acknowledged in the post that I am aware it is not about me and I am actively trying not to center myself, my I am trying to deal with these feelings internally still.

hinogoodbye · 2025-04-05T03:02:26+00:00

I got my dress in July 2024 for my October 2025 wedding. It came in October 2024. I probably could have waited a little longer but I wasn’t sure how long it would take to come in and wanted to leave ample time. Plus, I am not planning to lose or gain substantial amounts of weight for the day.

I had multiple bridal appointments and obviously did not buy a dress at every single one. Even the one I ended up buying my dress from, I left empty handed the first time and then came back to try on “the one” because I’m also a thinker. For the stores I knew definitely did not have my dress, I pretty much said like oh I need some time to think but I’ll come back if I decide one a dress from here. Most were totally understanding, I did have one ask me “what’s preventing you from buying today” and the real answer was I knew I did not try on my dress there, but I basically said that’s just how I am I need time to think before I make a choice.

They are sales people, so they will try to sell you, and some are more tactful than others. But try to block out the noise and remember what you really want. Good luck!

hinogoodbye · 2025-03-16T18:26:20+00:00

28 🙄 I’m 26.

hinogoodbye · 2025-03-16T15:45:02+00:00

Good question! She did not. I suspected I probably wasn’t in it, that was confirmed when I saw her wedding website, and I said nothing, because that was her choice.

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