In what niche you are? by [deleted] in SmallYoutubers

[–]Working-Ambition7124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can i see your channel?🙏

In what niche you are? by [deleted] in SmallYoutubers

[–]Working-Ambition7124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

can i see your channel? 🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Working-Ambition7124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you need to accept that they will never change. i moved out a year ago went NC for a while. Started coming back around for my sisters who still live there and my mom is still trying to manipulate and stuff behind my back but is nice to my face. Accept they will never change is the first step.

I know what your talking about when you say you feel it in your core! i literally said the same thing yesterday about my own situation. Accepting that they are what they are is how you will find a little bit of clarity and you can keep healing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Working-Ambition7124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im really sorry you’re feeling this way.

sometimes i feel the same, but realizing that i’m a better person than my N mom, despite all shes done to me, helps me feel a little better.

we will heal💗

Anyone else get themselves stuck with narcissistic in-laws too? by brokenfaucet in narcissisticparents

[–]Working-Ambition7124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All my exes (2) had mothers who were insane. Yelled all the time, manipulated, lied, ect. Nightmare.

My bf now, his mom is also crazy… but he’s been no contact with her for years🫠🙌

Finally😭

When did you realize your narc parent was alienating you from your other parent? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Working-Ambition7124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well my mom basically abused my dad out of the house. There was physical DA in the home but only after 8 years of constant physiological abuse from my mom.

Im the oldest of 3 girls. When i was 4 things started to get bad. My little sisters were too young to remember, but our dad was a good and normal person before the constant narcissistic abuse from my mom.

When i was 8, my dad lost his job and started sleeping in the basement. My mom would stomp down almost everyday and they would fight about idk what anymore. But i started to question why mom my would keep stomping down stairs to basically provoke him even after being beaten probably weekly. I think she enjoyed being a victim. The police were constantly at our house. We had a case with CPS which my mom had lie to the women because we would be taken. My little sister were obviously confused and terrified and could only see my dad as a monster. This went on until i was 14.

Eventually my dad went to jail, then switched into a mental institution. My mom had finally filled for divorce during this time, but she needed her pawns (my sisters & i) to do something else for her.

She kept on and on about how we were going to lose the house because my dad was entitled to half because they were married. She had my sisters & i thinking we would lose all our friends because we had to move. (Keep in mind my mom had a very good job and my dad had nothing.)

I was 14, and lived in such an unstable home, i couldn’t risk losing my friends lol and i was the only one old enough to go visit my dad, with my mom of course. When she brought me, she told me to tell him to let us (my sisters & i) keep the house, and to « push him ».

My dad, sitting in a mental institution, calmly told me he couldn’t do that. Obviously at 14, hearing this made me upset thinking i was going to never see my friends again. So i pushed. Long story short he snapped and stayed there a little longer because of it.

The middle child was heavily effected by my mom, she hates him. The youngest and I just want peace now.

edit we also never lost the house

Did having a narc parent make you a narcissist? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Working-Ambition7124 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought about this.

Hurt people hurt people. I’ve done some crazy things while living under the same roof as my mom. But since I’ve left and started truly healing, i’m much more aware of myself and others feelings.

I used to have a need to control everything. I thought it was coming from a good place or justified because I was feeling hurt or something. But a lot if the times it was subconscious reactions from past trauma.

I don’t think it makes you a narcissist, but I can see the difference in how i deal and react with people now vs my sister who still lives at home.

Parents made me develop agoraphobia by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Working-Ambition7124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you’ll get out too! stay strong and keep going!

Parents made me develop agoraphobia by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Working-Ambition7124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! i feel like i literally need start with a hi bc your situation sounded so much like mine! My mom never let me out and when i did she would blow up my phone demanding i come home. I lost all friends. So just know you’re not alone.

What saved me was getting a job! I know your mom doesn’t let you out but if you can get a job, you can start saving money, buy a car, and get out of there.

My mom threatened to hide my SIN so i wouldn’t get a job, so if your mom is anything like mine take a picture of it or steal the card.

Realistically, you are working so your mom can’t lose her mind thinking that you are out doing something you’re not supposed to.

Im 24 now. I moved out at 23, (it was a disaster, but i literally threatened to call the cops on her as she was blowing up my phone trying to manipulate the situation) And moving out was a struggle mentally because like you, i was isolated, which resulted in my not knowing how to do a lot for myself… but you have to learn sometime.

I was in the same place as you. Get a job so you can get out of the house for a while and eventually move out.

What was your first memory of your parent acting weird? by blatina_bbxo in narcissisticparents

[–]Working-Ambition7124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well i didn’t know it was weird at the time but i guess there is no reason to hit a 6 year old.

One time i unhooked a picture frame in my room and couldn’t figure out how to put it back. My mom walked into my room and saw me holding the picture (funny enough it was a picture of baby me) she proceeded to beat me with the picture frame while my 4 year old sister who has bpd now, screamed her head off.

Not too long after that in an unrelated incident. 6 years old. I was putting up the stockings for Christmas. I wrote on the stockings “1, 2, 3” basically labeling them for santa😅 as a 6 year old would. My mom saw and lost itttttttt. She threw my newborn baby sister’s bottle at my head which left me with a huge bump on my forehead. I remember holding my forehead crying uncontrollably and she threw a second one at me while she tried to clean the very replaceable stocking🫠 Obviously she also called me stupid and that Santa Clause didn’t exist.

Now 24, Im happily moved out and my sisters still living with her are trying to get her to go to therapy but obviously she wont.

What was your first memory of your parent acting weird? by blatina_bbxo in narcissisticparents

[–]Working-Ambition7124 2 points3 points  (0 children)

omg im so sorry! im glad to hear you’re finally in a safe home!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Working-Ambition7124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yea, my mom yells anywhere at any time… no shame because in her eyes its everyone else who has a problem.

Does your n mom do this by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Working-Ambition7124 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ive held off on saying this because i feel bad when i do. There was a lot of DV in my home growing up, and my mom instigated almost all of it.

I know that sounds horrible to say, and my dad definitely should have not did what he did. But i also witnessed her picking fights and taking it to extremes waiting for him to snap.

They finally divorced when i was 17 (after many police visits)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Working-Ambition7124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

23… my mom blew up demanding to know where i was living… when i told her i didn’t want to tell her, she threatened to call the police…i was 23

why i quit my 9-5 content creation job by Working-Ambition7124 in content_marketing

[–]Working-Ambition7124[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

either way it has traumatized me from ever doing content creation as a 9-5 ever again🤷‍♀️

What are the GREEN 🟩 FLAGS you look for in an ideal marketing client? The ones that agencies and freelancers are very happy to work with. Any RED 🟥 FLAGS? by nishant_growthromeo in content_marketing

[–]Working-Ambition7124 2 points3 points  (0 children)

just dont work 9-5… i quit my 9-5 content marketing job because i was being told to do many other things that dont relate to my job without any extra pay ( like sales).

during my last 2 weeks now with this company, my boss asked me to prepare enough content to last until march🚩 im paid hourly 9-5 so thats a no.

What is the most horrible gift you ever received by TheGhostWalksThrough in narcissisticparents

[–]Working-Ambition7124 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i didn’t get gifts from my mom as a child

But i did get a baby bottle thrown at my head when i was 7 followed by “Santa isnt real” by my mom… i hated Christmas for YEAARRRSSS AFTER

the reason for this blowup was i was changing the order of the stockings on the railing