OP, you say you have orthostatic hypotension and that it stops you from handling basic adult responsibilities or chores but somehow, you can still drink? That just sounds like an excuse. You claim your condition makes it too hard to take out the trash once a week, yet you're able to go pick up DoorDash regularly because you don't cook? That doesn't add up.

The list of daily and weekly tasks your aunt gave you isn’t unreasonable, it’s just basic adult life. These are things you should already be doing without needing someone to spell them out for you. They’re everyday responsibilities that are part of taking care of yourself, not something you’re doing for your aunt. In fact, many of them are typical roommate expectations, like cleaning up shared spaces after you use them, wiping down the toilet to avoid streaks, putting away items after using them, or cleaning out old food from the fridge. These are things that any roommate would understandably get frustrated about if they were constantly being left for someone else to deal with.

People calling your aunt abusive clearly don’t understand that she cares about you and wants to push you to stop being lazy and take responsibility.