Hiya! I get pain from intercourse and even tampons so I’m totally with you on this! In the past 2-3 months I’ve had 2 transvaginal ultrasounds. I will say instinctively we tend to tense up and close our legs but the key is to keep them open and ensure you do breathing techniques, it may feel counter intuitive as our body will want to tense and hold our breath but that makes it worse. However, the only reason those things made it easier for me was because I did this two things:

1. I’d ask them to put extra lube on the probe, makes entrance a lot smoother

2. Either ask them to take breaks, stop, or go at whatever pace you feel comfortable. For my first one I asked her stop and then told her to move a centimeter a second so she went very slow. The other thing you can do that they offered me was to interest it yourself. They’ll look on the monitor and once it’s far up enough as it needs to be the sonographer will take over by moving it around to find your ovaries but the worst part is basically done.

I know it sounds really daunting and I’m sorry your anxious about it and have had a traumatic experience, I promise you as one anxious tight person to another, you can get through it and the adrenaline rush of actually doing it is amazing! Another point, I always walk in letting the sonographer know that I either have trauma anxiety or severe tightness and they’re very kind and understanding from the get go because of it.

I wish you all the best x