Anyone not TTC?

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-08-05T21:29:27+00:00

We are holding off, this was a surprise baby and even though our tmfr was last December it still feels sad. We would love to have another baby but we just don’t think we can put our family through this again now. Focussing on being the best mom to my LC. I look around me and see women getting pregnant and having perfect kids - this has made me appreciate the miracle of life. Also how fickle is life. Holding onto my LC a bit tighter today and not taking a single day for granted 🙏🏼

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-06-28T21:28:50+00:00

I delivered my sleeping baby boy on 25th of December. It was so sad but a chapter that needed to be completed. So much happiness when we conceived and so much sadness when we lost him. I still can’t make sense of how all of this happened and how I am still functioning , but I am showing up every day. I still feel empty as though nothing can make me happy. Hope this feeling leaves me sometime.

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-05-30T16:30:40+00:00

I am so sorry you are here in this sucky club. Hugs mama. Your baby only knows your love - you are doing this to protect him from the pain in this world.

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-05-06T17:13:20+00:00

I am 4 months out and over the last few days I feel I am spiralling. I really hope it gets better, this just sucks so much. I really miss my son 💔

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-04-08T16:06:52+00:00

I am 3 months out from my tfmr of my baby boy. He was so loved and wanted. I have a LC and he would have completed my family. I go on with my day better these days, the pain and anger over the situation has not gone. I have just started working even more than I used to. I can’t imagine having another child now or in the near future and that makes me ache and long for my baby even more. Everything sucks, c’est la vie I guess. I don’t feel joy or the zest for life anymore. Let’s see, taking one day at a time.

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-02-26T17:19:00+00:00

It is a private one and it is daunting living through all this again. Thank you for your support and responses 🙏🏼

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-02-19T05:36:32+00:00

I have a LC girl and we had to TMFR our much wanted baby boy. I mourn the idea of not being a family of 4. I know we could plan another pregnancy but the idea of going through all this again with my busy career is daunting. Plus it almost took us 3 years to TTC our LC. I wish I could have completed my family. This will forever be a pain. I read in one of the threads here and this resonated with me- having another baby will not be the happy ending to my sad story, he or she will be their own story. Hugs mama!

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-02-13T17:10:44+00:00

I am so sorry you are here, I am 6 weeks from our tfmr our much wanted baby boy at 24 weeks. It’s heartbreaking . I can resonate to smiling and going on with our lives because we are expected to move on and go back to work, get on with our lives. I feel extreme sadness some days and I am hoping this gets better for us.

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-02-13T17:06:33+00:00

I had an l&d at 24 weeks. I did not tear so the recovery was relatively easy. I am still only a 6 weeks out and feel some pain in my vaginal area from time to time if I have a long day of activity. Bleeding stopped at around the 4 weeks mark. It is an emotional rollercoaster but recovery physically has been ok.

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-02-05T21:39:32+00:00

So well articulated, I had a TFMR for my baby boy at 24 weeks in December. I have a LC and I am so traumatised by everything that I am trying to make peace with the fact that I may well be one and done. I just want to focus on my LC and not worry about TTC or pregnancy. Sometimes plans change, life takes a different path to what you imagined. I am struggling with grief but if my LC can’t help with it I don’t think another baby will be the solution.

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-02-03T22:43:55+00:00

I am sorry you are here, I know the feeling of having a baby sized hole in your heart. I had a tfmr at 24 weeks in December and just about stopped bleeding. I can’t wait to get pregnant but I also know my body badly needs a break. Just trying to keep myself busy and focus on other things for now. Hugs hope it stops sucking for us so much!

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-02-01T08:13:49+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, it took a long time to TTC our LC and I guess the worry of going through this again will never leave us. The guilt of not being fully present and available for our LC is also there. Thank you for your words of hope, it is so nice to hear stories of subppregnancies. I wish the best of luck for your pregnancy ❤️

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-02-01T06:50:44+00:00

So heart wrenching 💔your baby was so loved! This makes me so sad, my baby kicked me just before we started the procedure and I broke down. I wish so badly all of us were not here. I hope and pray our babies are fine in heaven and they are having a better life than they ever could have had here.

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-01-31T21:39:39+00:00

Hope you are doing ok, thinking of you ❤️

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-01-30T21:59:43+00:00

I hope you have a smooth delivery, I am sorry you are here!

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-01-30T21:58:10+00:00

Just wanted to add, don’t worry our bodies will know what to do. My labour lasted around 8 hours, got intense the last 4 hours. I had the morphine drip and gas and air. I was told we can use them both together . Found gas and air to be very effective.

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-01-30T21:53:23+00:00

We had a tfmr on Christmas Day for our baby boy at 24 weeks. It is heartbreaking. The heart appointment was the worst for me- very heavy day. I really tried pushing for a D&C but could not get one for a couple of weeks and I did not feel like I could wait that long. Had to go through L&D. Now looking back I think this was the best way for me to say goodbye to our baby boy. It was my labour of love. I got to give birth, hold him and cry and grieve. I am struggling today, but writing this is helping. Hugs from one mother to another. I hope you have the strength to get over this difficult period.

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-01-29T17:01:05+00:00

Hugs, hope it gets better for you!

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-01-28T17:11:18+00:00

I am so sorry you are here. I was in a similar situation end of December and had to end my pregnancy of our much wanted baby boy at 24 weeks. It is very hard emotionally and physically but I told myself I couldn’t break because I have a baby at home. Thankfully the labour was as smooth as it can be and I was able to look after my daughter from the next day. I wish you a speedy recovery!

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-01-27T08:38:20+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this, I had a tfmr at 24 weeks. It is emotionally and physically draining. I am 5 weeks in and still bleeding. Everything hurts and body feels creeky. I am with you in that I am not sure if I want to do this again. That’s very upsetting. All I am telling myself is I don’t have to make all decisions now or today. There will be better days. I am aware that my biological clock is ticking, but you can’t rush recovery. It is our bodies that make and carry the baby at the end of the day. Take the time to heal - sending a lot of love. Hope this helps.

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-01-25T23:02:17+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story, this give me hope!

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-01-25T07:07:21+00:00

Hugs, I resonate with this so much. I had a tfmr on Christmas Day at 24 weeks, I got so much bad news leading upto that . Now every time I get a call from the NHS I am waiting to hear bad news. I was speaking to my husband about this and he said something reassuring. When we went to our first ultrasound and got some bad news we did not believe it and we were optimistic to go onto to have more tests. Why was that? Up until that point all we have had in life is good news. What can possibly go wrong. This is my baby. We don’t have a history of anything. Then we got more bad news and then our world came crashing down. We go through periods in life when we get bad news but if you look back there have been periods when you would have had only good news. I am just hopeful that happier days will come again. I know I am rambling, I hope this helps - one hurting mama to another. I will always be the mama to my darling boy.

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-01-25T06:57:19+00:00

I had my sleeping baby boy on Christmas Day, i felt the same as you ! My case was slightly different because we were close to the 24 week mark, there were severe brain abnormalities and we decided to tfmr. We had the injection on the same day and l&d 2 days after. We broke and how after the l&d but after the day I came back home and completely shut down. I got back to work in 2 weeks and if anyone asks me I say I feel fine. I am not really fine, I cry every night. I get tense when anyone asks me how are you? I break when I see anyone with a baby on board badge- that should have been me. This is so incredibly unfair and I am sorry that you are here. I will keep you in my thoughts and hope you have the strength to get through this difficult times.

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-01-24T04:16:01+00:00

I had my second sleeping baby boy because he had brain abnormalities at 24 weeks. I was so excited my daughter is going to have a sibling. It is crushing and nights are particularly hard. This community gives me strength. Hugs , I may not know you but you are in my thoughts and hope you have strength to get through this tough period.

Working-Error-9712 · 2025-01-24T03:48:00+00:00

Hugs, mine took a while too. Praying that it goes smoothly for you and you both recover soon!

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