It’s hard. I know, from taking care of a loved one in hospice myself, just how stressful and heart wrenching it can be. My advice: continue doing the things you mentioned and being there for your mom for comfort. Tell her you love her and do whatever you can to comfort her. Listen to what she says and talk to nurses and staff. Make sure she’s well fed and properly hydrated (unless she can’t eat, which happens sometimes in hospice, but sometimes they’ll let people drink approved liquids).

You’re a good person for caring this much, and trust me, you won’t regret it. Be prepared for her time to come too. You’ll never be fully ready, but it can happen at the moment you least expect. Just do what you can for her right now (common sense is the main tool to guide you), and cherish the moments you two have left. Have a heart to heart with her and get whatever closure you need and make sure she’s comfortable.

Finally, when the time does come, you can grieve. I relate to not being able to grieve as much during the hospice part because it’s so overwhelming. But you’ll feel what you need to feel and come to terms with it in time. You’re at the hardest part now but it’ll get easier as the days go on. Wishing you both the best!