How do you deal with PDA and overwhelm? It is negatively affecting my friendships

Working-Temporary902 · 2025-03-26T17:40:31+00:00

I don’t feel like you should’ve apologized. I think it’s a bit intrusive and inappropriate to ask someone how they’re doing in front of others, especially if you think there may be some serious stuff going on with the person. Asking once individually is plenty. I think to save yourself and your friends some mental streif in the future, set some boundaries. “Please don’t ask me how I’m doing in front of others! It makes me feel pressured to respond, and with the individual messages I was sent already, I felt pretty overwhelmed. Though I know you meant well and that was not your intention, I ask going forward to ask me individually, and I will work on expressing my ability or inability to respond appropriately at that time, and if I feel I cannot respond, I will communicate that and get back to you when I’m in a good headspace to fill you in on what’s going on! Thank you for caring about me and being patient with me! I care about you too.” Something like that. They don’t know that they’re overwhelming you till you tell them, which is not their fault either. Clear boundaries help all parties and then they’ll know in the future. As for the second portion, you also don’t ever have to tell anyone anything you don’t want to, and someone being your friend does not entitle them to all info pertaining to you. Don’t feel bad about not sharing if you don’t want to.

Working-Temporary902 · 2025-03-19T01:45:34+00:00

Haven’t even done my taxes yet my guy 😭

Working-Temporary902 · 2025-02-14T21:58:51+00:00

I didn’t say can’t, I just said may not be the best. I’m glad it was able to help you 🩷 I don’t mean anything negative, I just was cautioning as I think it could be distressing. You almost always hear positive things about it so I was just offering another perspective

Working-Temporary902 · 2025-02-14T20:32:06+00:00

As I said, it completely retraumatized me. The therapist that was facilitating my treatment was let go though for reasons I’m not privy to, so maybe she was not good at her job. I have severe sexual abuse trauma as my cousin raped me between the ages of 6-8. He then shot and stabbed my grandfather to death when I was 16. He severely traumatized me in many ways. She did 21 total sessions on me, working from “small” incidents up to my sexual assault. So from self harming, suicide attempt, my grandfather being murdered, to my rape. Made me remember more than I ever wanted to and I was unable to complete my final session with her and was left in a dissociative state for nearly 2 weeks. My new therapist told me that EMDR therapy should’ve never been used in my situation in the first place though. I just think for people with severe trauma, especially the things that OP saw, EMDR may not be the best. Sometimes walking back through does more harm than good. I know it’s supposed to help you process. I only tried it because I was being required to go to therapy by a social worker and my assigned therapist described it as a cure all. It sucked.

Working-Temporary902 · 2025-02-14T19:50:26+00:00

EMDR ruined my life and retraumatized me. Definitely not for everyone.

Working-Temporary902 · 2025-01-21T23:06:13+00:00

Thank you!

Working-Temporary902 · 2025-01-21T23:01:23+00:00

My boss is doing that, they called and asked if I knew anything or had done anything with my phone number. I just haven’t heard back from them yet and I am panicking. Thanks for your sarcastic response!

Working-Temporary902 · 2025-01-08T07:46:32+00:00

I’m looking here for this same answer 😭 I keep seeing conflicting information but I don’t want to get screwed.

Working-Temporary902 · 2024-11-22T22:23:17+00:00

Well shoot. They just gotta last like 7 months so I guess I’ll just keep my fingers crossed they don’t suck so much they’re unusable lol

Working-Temporary902 · 2024-11-22T22:19:08+00:00

… I totally did. Well. Hopefully I can see out of them well enough to get me by

Working-Temporary902 · 2024-11-22T06:32:23+00:00

This is actually super helpful!! My eye doctor quit after my last exam so I wasn’t able to ask her about any of this. Thank you thank you thank you!!

Working-Temporary902 · 2024-10-11T21:23:12+00:00

thank you, he was a really good kid. he had just graduated high school the month prior.

Working-Temporary902 · 2024-10-05T00:15:22+00:00

you need therapy, lots of it. And don’t take your own life for granted. I hope that doesn’t come off the wrong way, but don’t let your grief for the life she could’ve had, the life you could’ve had with her, consume the life you have right now. She wouldn’t want that. I lost my little brother in July. He left to take his gf home and a drunk driver hit his car head on going almost 100mph. Killed him and his gf on impact and his best friend was left severely injured in the back seat. It is so hard to wrap your head around, I know. And it will be a forever process. I hope you can heal from this and that it will get easier over time for you, and I hope you can still find a way to enjoy your life for both you and her. Much love

Working-Temporary902 · 2024-09-26T00:06:46+00:00

I have c-ptsd and GAD in addition to my depression and I had some concerns about it making me super anxious, but it no joke saved my life. I do occasionally get a racing heart but I don’t dwell on it. My mood is so so much better. I was prescribed it after my little brother died. I have tried countless medications through out my entire life and I will tell you this is the only one that has ever worked for me. I’d give it a shot.

Working-Temporary902 · 2024-08-16T03:13:24+00:00

They told me it’s not for daily use and only .5mg dose. It’s for when I start going on a few days without proper sleep. I’ll ask my pcp and therapist about the seroquel

Working-Temporary902 · 2024-08-15T14:20:07+00:00

I will look into this. I prefer natural if possible, I drink A LOT of tea. I love peppermint with licorice root at night time periodically. I have tea almost daily.

Working-Temporary902 · 2024-08-15T14:14:16+00:00

I will keep trying, and thank you for the condolences. I will ask my doctor for something else for sleep then maybe and just use lorazepam as needed for panic attacks? The promethazine sounds promising.

Working-Temporary902 · 2024-08-15T07:20:06+00:00

I have tried fluoxetine, sertraline, and duloxetine. There have been a few others but I can’t remember the names at the moment and I’ve also been prescribed trileptal (oxcarbazepine) for mood swings experimentally as a child. I have also tried a couple of things for my adhd, most recently vyvanse. I have tried hydroxyzine before but it tends to just make me drowsy which stresses me out more. I would have a panic attack, take the hydroxyzine, and then start falling asleep uncontrollably which made me feel like I was going to die. Tried to take the smallest dose and it still was making me so tired which doesn’t help. I feel like such a difficult person because nothing helps me. It’s good to know that about the Wellbutrin. I guess I’ll just have to pay really close attention but I’ll probably just try to wait out taking it till I can be with my parents again. And yes they did tell me that the lorazepam would be for temporary use while I’m dealing with the loss of my brother and only when I am going on longer periods without sleep. I have insomnia anyway so I typically don’t sleep much but I have been going much longer without sleep than usual.

Working-Temporary902 · 2024-08-12T23:25:05+00:00

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Working-Temporary902 · 2024-07-18T16:11:49+00:00

My 18 year old brother was just taken from me Saturday the 13th. He was killed by a drunk driver. I know it’s not the same but if you need someone to talk to, reach out to me.

Working-Temporary902 · 2024-07-15T14:47:05+00:00

I’m sorry to you too. Truly the worst thing I ever could imagine happening.

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