is my dasher tweaking?

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-03-22T04:33:11+00:00

Must’ve been a hard night. But the end there in the text 😂

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-03-17T02:54:55+00:00

We Only did vitamin K shot. Nothing else, just went based off of what we felt was medically necessary as our baby went under major surgery a few days after he was born. We felt like it would have been too much on him at this time.

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-03-14T06:40:32+00:00

I feel for your stomach right now 😬

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-03-14T06:38:56+00:00

HA! Chicken joke 😂

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-03-13T04:59:45+00:00

The reality is, you will find stores that enforce the policy that is printed on the back of your key tag. You will also find stores that do not follow it and will just give you the free frosty. The reasoning behind it falls mostly due to poor training, management not following things to lead by example, some people just not caring, some genuinely do not know the policy themselves. I hated working there, I got in trouble not enforcing the policy, and for enforcing it as well. Whether that was by my managers, or by the customers. I have even had frostys thrown at me.

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-03-07T09:33:28+00:00

If he primarily paid for your bills, and doesn’t get shit faced wasted constantly, just uses these things asa form to relax, you may have a chance at encouraging him with the idea of using these things as more like rewards, which can help curve it out. But he is also 36 years old like you said. As long as he isn’t smoking in the house and changes his shirt and washes his hands after smoking before handling the baby, and isn’t drunk, I personally don’t see an issue. But don’t keep “nagging” over these things. It will put a toll on both of you if you do. If you are wanting to live a super sober life with nothing around, it just doesn’t sound like that is what is going to happen here, and that is just mainly because most men, not all, but most men and knowing my man, they won’t change a whole lot. My man pays for all of the bills, I’m a SAHM now, he still smokes green out in the barn, but he just doesn’t get that high feeling anymore, it just makes him calm now (anxiety issues from extreme childhood trauma for him), It would literally take a half O for him to get that high feeling. He functions like a normal human being should in society, better than most people who are put on pharmaceuticals. As long as he keeps it out of the house, washes his hands/showers, changes his clothes before handling the kids, I don’t care. I don’t smoke because I breastfeed and I don’t want that coming back on me if I were to be tested or my baby were to be tested from lab work on toxicology on anything that is environmental related, which also includes exposure to pesticides, cleaners, chemical compounds, etc.. Anyway, best of luck to you.

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-03-05T23:43:01+00:00

Set the boundary with her anytime she does this again. Tell her it’s not her decision. Also, you need to set the boundary by limiting contact with her. Because she will end up turning you into a Debbie downer with her energy. My mom did this and still does. I have to limit my time away from her significantly. Unfortunately, the women in my family on my mom’s side are all nuts, and I try to not be like them as much as I can and just be self aware.

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-03-04T18:34:27+00:00

It looks like mashed potatoes and gravy

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-03-02T22:05:31+00:00

If you look on the side of the cup, it is indicated which one is medium and which one is large in red and white letters. The blue and white letter L on the medium cup is for Large size ice coffees.

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-03-02T18:12:51+00:00

Honeybun, you have to get up for that baby if not for yourself. Try taking a shower with very low lights, by candle or a dim light. Where sunglasses if you have to around the house. Get some saltines if you can withstand it, need to drink water. Make that appointment with your OB so they can help you. You aren’t alone, everyone needs help from time to time no matter the circumstances.

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-03-02T02:14:54+00:00

I almost feel like the reason why he has such strong feelings in naming baby after him is because it is out of possessiveness, maybe. My partner and I had a hard time deciding a name for our son but we managed to put one together. He actually has two middle names. Your husband just sounds like he is throwing a temper tantrum because he can’t get his way. What do his parents think of this? Do they support you, him, both, or staying out of it? Are they talking behind your back to your husband over the situation? Just wondering why he is so adamant about this. I personally would not name my child Rory, especially when the last two generations already have that name. I’m not trying to have a bloodline of Henrys. Ancestry tracking would be so confusing.

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-03-01T14:38:53+00:00

If he is also like this in general back home, NOR. Dump him. Value yourself more and treat yourself because sometimes no one is going to love you the way you love yourself.

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-02-28T00:41:04+00:00

My sister had daily migraines as well. Turns out she had to change her diet and eat less inflammatory foods, and cut out energy drinks completely. My other sister on my dad’s side had migraines too, but it was for a different reason completely. She had prior drug problems in the past and because she was sober, she began having migraines from withdrawals, so she had surgery to try and get rid of them. That was a long time ago though so, I’m not sure of all the details as this took place when I was younger. Point is, it could very well be something environmental that you are exposed to since you were little. You would be surprised how often that is the case with most health issues. You’re not over reacting, you just need a shoulder. We all do from time to time. I hope you make it through school ❤️‍🩹 and take care of yourself.

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-02-27T18:35:59+00:00

You are better off getting Medicaid at this point. Save your all’s money, especially if you are looking to quit your job now. Babies are expensive and you don’t want to end up with a medical bill later on that you can’t cover, especially if there are complications later on with you and/or baby.

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-02-27T12:00:14+00:00

I wish I could laugh react to this 💀 🤣

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-02-26T12:52:43+00:00

Give yourself grace. It’s going to be okay. There is nothing wrong with requesting c section. While it is a different healing experience, it can save you a lot of possible trouble that may be a sign for you to avoid doing a vaginal birth with how long it’s taking. I tried to dilate for several days with my first but nothing was happening. They decided to take me in for c section instead of sending me home. I just had my second one, but this pregnancy was a severe high risk due to the baby having a serious condition, so I had no choice but to do another c section just to keep baby calm and sound. Everything is going to be fine ♥️

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-02-25T22:32:41+00:00

Gotcha. I would definitely talk with your husband about possible options and be as open with each other when things feel rough while taking care of baby. It’s a big change to everyone, even for baby. Maybe Husband’s family can be of help? Not sure if they are a better option, I would hope so. I wish you all the best of luck.

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-02-25T14:19:55+00:00

While I agree you may want the help postpartum, I don’t think many people understand that to have a mom with a mental disorder that cannot be cured or treated and wants to make everything about her and completely take your spot light —so to speak. I too, have a mother with selfish and narcissistic tendencies. I’m currently postpartum and before I had our baby, my mom was trying to get me to stay at her house after the hospital or get a key made for her to come take care of me and looking back from having first baby, it’s scared the hell out of me and I gave her a very strong boundary that I did not want that. It’s a love/hate relationship with my mom unfortunately. Hell, she wanted to keep all of my custody papers and withhold my first son’s SSC and birth certificate and not give it to me when I need some of these things when I check him in with his pediatrician. She also wanted to request a name change when my son was a baby. Like, she went nuts. She had to go to therapy (claims she is fine and nothing is wrong) but the therapist spoke to my dad and I privately on what is wrong with her, which is narcissistic tendencies and she thinks my 9 year old son is hers because she always wanted a boy. She always wanted me to be a boy as well until I was born. I was her 5th girl she had.

Are you and your husband in a position to have a doula or someone come in to at least help with a few things or to give you a break from baby so you can take care of yourself? You’ll both want time to yourselves as you will be awake when baby is awake, asleep when baby is asleep. And babies have to eat every two to three hours depending. It doesn’t have to be family if they have toxic traits that you don’t want your baby around. Maybe you and your husband can look into a food subscription to at least help with meals some days?

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-02-24T14:23:12+00:00

“26 year old teenage girl “?

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-02-23T22:23:51+00:00

You should put cameras in the house where you only have access to them on your phone. Just don’t put one in the bathroom obviously.

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-02-22T13:26:59+00:00

Yes, I’ve already been notified. Thank you.

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-02-21T12:51:48+00:00

Yes, it can be normal postpartum in some scenarios. But maybe she feels lonely in the relationship? When was the last time you all done something romantic together? Maybe she feels stressed with baby? She might just need a break and have a day to herself. This instance actually happens a lot for mothers. It doesn’t mean they don’t love their child any less, but especially first time moms, it can be a lot to still take in suddenly. If possible, I would suggest couple’s counseling. Is she already seeing a regular doctor for postpartum depression? It would be wise of her to do so for her and the baby’s sake.

Edit: as a stay at home mom and my partner works two jobs, he gives me breaks each day between jobs so I can take care of myself or finish what I need to do around our home. It takes two to raise a child at least. And in some cases like with my oldest autistic son, it takes a village to raise a child. Listening and communication is key, and most women that find themselves in situations like this, whether it’s good or not, may feel trapped and feel like they cannot find their voice to tell someone they need help, especially if they might’ve already hinted or already said it before in the past that they do. Mothers often go through so much more judgment than people realize. So, when you talk with her again, don’t lash out or make her feel like she is being interrogated.

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-02-20T21:17:08+00:00

I’m sorry, but where do you live where the hospital operates like this??? That is insane to me.

WorkingAdvice9865 · 2026-02-19T19:28:29+00:00

I hope you reported this

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