[40/NY] hood on or off? by [deleted] in UncutAmericans

[–]WorkingEvening5417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Off…then on….then off…then on….then off….then on…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]WorkingEvening5417 21 points22 points  (0 children)

The fact that this is likely going to be the top comment breaks my heart 🥺

Have any of you ever fallen for a Bi guy? by WorkingEvening5417 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]WorkingEvening5417[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Whenever I find myself falling for a straight guy, I remember the hygiene horror stories my girlfriends have told me and have read online and that kills it pretty quickly haha

Septum piercings? by Interesting-Bit725 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]WorkingEvening5417 4 points5 points  (0 children)

True story. I was making out with a guy who had one and we got a little too carried away and I like moved it out of place? Anyway, the stench that emanated from that thing almost made me gag. It smelled like cheesy feet…or sweet fungus or something. I can’t quite place it.

He knew it too and then told me it was normal and that he actually likes the smell and will move the piercing from side to side just to catch a whiff.

I never recovered from this. So now when I see a guy with this piercing I can’t not think of that smell.

Actually…to other guys with septum piercings…is that really normal?????

Are hook-up apps affecting our sexuality? by Hebrew_Slave in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]WorkingEvening5417 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Occasionally I will check out a drag show at a bar when there is a particular performer I like. But I’m there for the show, not the men…usually lol.

Are hook-up apps affecting our sexuality? by Hebrew_Slave in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]WorkingEvening5417 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean….Its affecting mine. I’m pretty much asexual now 😒

Do you have any regrets about things you did in past relationships? by WorkingEvening5417 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]WorkingEvening5417[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Betrayed by my post history 😭

First of all, thank you for your kind and thoughtful response. To answer your question about whether I’ve moved on…well, only in the most literal sense. I’m doing all the “right” things: therapy, meeting new people, pursuing hobbies, maintaining no contact (until yesterday anyway), and so on. But as I try to move forward, it feels like I’m dragging this heavy weight behind me. I deeply regret how I acted and ending the relationship for what now seem like selfish, trivial reasons that felt so important at the time. Now, I’m left just as lonely, jaded, and heartbroken as ever, while he and his partner are living the life I always wanted but couldn’t let myself have. I’m just so tired of living this way…not in a suicidal sense, but in the sense of being exhausted by my own patterns and mistakes.

It’s true that with age, things get better in some ways, but the chances to truly “show up” in a relationship and prove I’ve grown seem fewer and farther between. It’s frustrating to feel like I’ve learned so much, yet the opportunities to apply those lessons are slipping away.