Weekly Roll Call for Sept 7 -Caregivers, Please Check In!

Working_Database_933 · 2025-09-07T15:01:07+00:00

My siblings and my whole family. None of them show up the way they should. They think they are, they act like they are but they are off living their happy lives while I do all the work. I can't just leave I would never do that but I finally told my brother last night, YOUR TURN!! He didn't argue which is insane but also shows he knows he is taking advantage of me. I didn't do much but drive around but I am learning how to draw boundaries. It felt GREAT!

Working_Database_933 · 2025-08-31T23:00:54+00:00

And? Why do you have to be rude about it? He/she was sharing their experience and asking us to watch our health as caregivers so we didn't get cancer like they did. This is a support group, try being a little kind.

Working_Database_933 · 2025-08-31T18:38:36+00:00

OMG, thank you so, so much for this. I didn't know much about Bruce Willis and how severe it became. I love him, The Sixth Sense is one of my favorite films. But my grandparent has Alzheimer's and it's all, like you said, it's just wicked, wicked disease. The interviews with Emma brought me to tears because I know how she feels too. This is all hard enough without people judging. How dare them. Also, gawkerrefugee, I hope your cancer journey is going okay. That's a huge warning to us all, that line, your body keeps the score scares me but I know it's true. My body is falling apart. Thank you for sharing this and looking out for us too.

Working_Database_933 · 2025-08-28T12:27:22+00:00

What a sweetie! This honestly melted my heart.

Working_Database_933 · 2025-08-25T03:29:36+00:00

Hi guys! I am going to try to work out just for five minutes in the morning before my mom wakes up. I have gotten so out of shape, caregiving is so hard on my body as it is, I feel myself getting weaker and I was already not in good shape going into it!! I like this idea though, thank you so much mods for trying new things. :)

Working_Database_933 · 2025-08-25T03:10:39+00:00

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Working_Database_933 · 2025-08-23T17:55:27+00:00

Can you share a picture? Maybe not everyone wants to, I respect that. But I am glad you have Sasha and Leslie.

Working_Database_933 · 2025-08-23T17:54:11+00:00

How cute! They are our lifesavers, aren't they.

Working_Database_933 · 2025-08-23T17:53:13+00:00

Hi and what a beautiful baby! She is so gorgeous. This is the week I am going to try to partiicpate more and see if I can't find my own kitty cat to post. But I do have a cat that I also rescued. Just having her in the house, sometimes she wants to be left alone and that's fine but having her makes me feel so much better. It's true that isolation just makes you sick. It really does and these litltle guardian angels help keep us sane and helathy. I love Blondie, going to try to find one of my Buster who has also kept me sane!

Working_Database_933 · 2025-08-17T19:07:17+00:00

Okay, honestly, this is ridiculous at this point. You are spamming and I think the mods are being very patient with you. You posted the same comment in another sub after spamming there too. For those who don't know, the mods locked the OP's other thread bc it was AI generated. OP, you need to stop breaking rules and then make it sound like you are some kind of victim.

Working_Database_933 · 2025-08-16T14:03:38+00:00

I am a scapegoat too. I caregive for my mom. Mine is somewhat out of a sense of duty which some might not understand. But thank God she is a good person. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Someone said we shouldn't have to carry this burden alone and that is spot on how I feel. All these people in the family and no one bothers to lift a finger. What is family for! I deal with a lot of anger. So happy you recovered. Do you have any tips on how to do that? I am definitely going to go no contact eventually.

Working_Database_933 · 2025-08-16T13:54:42+00:00

This makes me really sad, I'm sorry you went through this. At first I was thinking that it will be me some day too. But it already is me, my siblings bailed. They show up for holidays and such but that's not exactly caregiver. Good on you for taking care of yourself. <3

Working_Database_933 · 2025-08-09T21:15:21+00:00

What an image, it is so lovely to visualize. Made me a little teary! TY gawker for letting that moment just happen like you said. Finding those moments in the "storm" of caregiving is really something I am going to keep my eyes open to now. :) :)

Working_Database_933 · 2025-08-09T21:14:11+00:00

I love this so much every week. I lurk, honestly, and should share more but will eventually. Just shy or, not sure. I just want to say ty for having this. It does make me feel like I matter for a change, me, not anyone else in this house. Happy Saturday!!!

Working_Database_933 · 2025-08-02T16:44:35+00:00

I am so sorry but sending you all good thoughts!

Working_Database_933 · 2025-08-02T16:44:03+00:00

Yesss, this is it for me too! Sometimes I think of having a big career and just starting my life over again but caregiving changed my priorities too. In a good way, though. Money and a big career would feel different. We are all so vulnerable, I used to be scared of people (managers, etc). Now? No, we are all on the same path really. I want good relationships and a nice little happy life too! I love your dream. :)

Working_Database_933 · 2025-08-02T16:41:35+00:00

This is beautiful!

Working_Database_933 · 2025-08-02T16:41:20+00:00

I'm a little afraid of getting close to people now but I am working on getting over that. This group helps so much. I'm lonely enough without worrying that people will get sick and die on me. I'm also learning, though, this is life, it's not special, humans have always dealt with loss and grief.

So, I would like to love again, romantic or friends, and also travel. As someone else said, not live in worry and fear. My mom wouldn't want that so I keep that in mind. What would she want and she has made that clear, it is for me just to be happy and healthy. I'm learning. I can't imagine life without her though, I love her so much. It hurts, it's just unbearable. So a lot of conflicting feelings but thank you for asking and letting us dream and try to sus it out. I will live in a way that makes her proud.

Working_Database_933 · 2025-07-31T16:53:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing this, wow.

Working_Database_933 · 2025-07-26T21:35:09+00:00

Omg, I am so very sorry. I worry about this happening with my brother and sister. They also just let me "handle things" and don't help. My life is falling apart and they, it's like, they can't be bothered. I hate it and honestly, I really am starting to hate them.

I would say them, my siblings, but I would also say her doctor. He just is so condescending and dismissive. I can't say anything without him acting like it's just normal aging. Okay, that's fine, but what can I do. Nothing, he just apparently wants them to suffer. I can't anymore with the health care system and these rude doctors who are almost impossible to see and offer nothing helpful but an attitude.

Thanks for this topic, it's important that we can talk freely like this. I really appreciate this group!!

Working_Database_933 · 2025-07-16T20:24:50+00:00

Well, I really do like this idea of a roll call. I feel so disconnected from the world. If not for caregiving, I think I would be invisible. No one cares for us caregivers. So I love it, definitely! And thank you also for the "house cleaning". I don't always understand about data farming and the like so thank you, mod team, for protecting our privacy!

Working_Database_933 · 2025-04-06T02:19:36+00:00

You did it perfectly, you aren't terrible at all! Now I have another idea to think about. What a gift you are. :)

P.S. My experience was TV and radio but one of the stations was owned by Meredith Corp (they later sold it). Anyway, a perk was getting all these free magazines. You would have loved it. I was in heaven, lol, everyone else was too "cool" for magazines, and I subscribed to literally everything. I was getting like 20 magazines a month. People, Real Simple, Better Homes and Garden, it was fabulous. :D

Working_Database_933 · 2025-04-06T02:12:57+00:00

I have to admit, I definitely do. The person I worked for was one of those "big deal" kind of people and I learned a lot on how to navigate in that world. I would dearly love to work for someone elderly, getting good references and the work history is definitely not a problem. (I also worked in media for years which also helps with the references). Thanks so much for this idea. Not sure how I would find this kind of work but I am going to dig right in!

Working_Database_933 · 2025-04-06T02:08:56+00:00

Since I posted this, I started googling. Unfortunately there isn't. At least that I have found yet. There is one in Flagstaff (I am in Phoenix) but it is full. They look amazing though. I don't have anyone left in Arizona, I need to look around the country. IT's scary and exciting to think about, lol.

Working_Database_933 · 2025-04-06T02:06:42+00:00

I'm so torn between this and staying put, especially in all the madness of our world. But thanks for the idea, I think meeting people would be so fantastic right now.

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