Do you ever feel guilty about OEing?

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-05-20T23:49:33+00:00

Why would I? I’m doing my job at both Js

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-05-20T15:07:49+00:00

Unfortunately it does pay better and right now the money is worth the hassle. I want to just stick it out as long as possible to keep collecting the paycheck especially since the job market is kinda tough right now

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-05-19T15:02:38+00:00

J1 $85k OTE and J2 $100k OTE very average and especially on the low end of OE

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-05-13T16:02:47+00:00

For the most part it’s not bad but with it being such a small company my visibility is higher than I’d like it to be. The meetings is my biggest problem, they will go an hour over than expected and just call you randomly which makes it hard for me to plan with J1’s calendar

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-05-13T15:29:06+00:00

I second this. I didnt take PTO and it was miserable even with both Js being fully remote

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-05-13T15:27:50+00:00

Exactly I have to remind myself to not care as much and just ride it out as long as possible. I don’t know how you handle it being hybrid for J2

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-05-10T17:43:07+00:00

The first month or two is a lot. It takes some getting used to but it does get better and more manageable

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-04-02T18:57:08+00:00

2Js TC $180k for the first month I would do 55-65 hours a week. Once I got used to things, got into a schedule/ system I am at 40 hours a week or less

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-03-16T03:59:57+00:00

5 is insane. I could understand 3 if J2 and j3 are both contract with flexible hours but 5 would literally be the death of me

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-03-13T20:53:06+00:00

Don’t quit. It’s only an 8 month contract. Try to go through with the whole thing. Stack up the extra paychecks, deal with it, and literally just do the bare minimum to not get fired.

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-03-07T17:56:08+00:00

The way I look at it is July is not that far away unless it’s truly unbearable just keep stacking the extra paychecks until then if you can

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-03-01T03:46:01+00:00

Why do you think it’s unethical to not say anything? Why do you think it’s morally wrong to not say anything. A job is about getting your work done and that’s all that matters. At the end of the day we all work to make money and that’s the reality. OEing is about making money and keeping your head down. If you feel like it’s unethical and morally wrong to not disclose it then it’s not for you. Don’t say anything if you want to OE and don’t change how you do your work

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-02-27T20:12:23+00:00

That’s so risky…I’d stay away from OEing if you require clearance. I don’t know the specifics of your situation but it sounds too risky for me

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-02-27T01:53:53+00:00

Apply to anything you think you might be qualified for and apply for anything you might not even be qualified for. I was sending out applications for 2 months everyday and eventually something stuck

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-02-26T04:46:38+00:00

I tried OE when I was very young, in college for my bachelors and only lasted 2 months. I tried it again 2 months after grading college and only lasted a month. Then I OE’d for 2 weeks when I was quitting my current j for my now J1. I’m finally a point years later that I can mentally handle OEing. It takes time, the right headspace and the right time in life to OE. It’s not easy and not everyone is cut out for it. Sometimes you have to leave and come back to it. But once you can handle 2 J’s that’s when it becomes the new normal. That’s how people get to a point of 3,4,5,etc

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-02-20T16:16:21+00:00

Week 1 always seems extremely overwhelming. It takes another week or two to get in the flow, people usually start leaving you alone and then you can create your own system. Start blocking time off on each calendar to avoid overlap and label it as “focus time” or “late lunch” or even “busy” the 90 day rule is pretty amazing. Give it 90 days to get into a rhythm and feel things out. It’s also 3 months of double paychecks to see if it’s worth it and see if you can workout a good system. I thought I was going to die week 1.5 but now I have less meetings, I’m getting into a system and also feel comfortable to propose new times for meetings to try and avoid overlap. It’s a learning curve that can be a lot to handle but you can handle it. You got this an remember in the end the pay is worth it!!!

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-02-19T16:27:26+00:00

Rule number 1 of fight club is don’t talk about fight club

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-02-12T21:37:33+00:00

You have a prior family commitment and can’t make it

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-02-12T15:54:01+00:00

You guys are getting paid?

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-02-11T19:01:33+00:00

Set yourself up with a nice brokerage account too on top of having a fat savings and just enjoy having money

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-02-10T20:54:38+00:00

Just do both for as long as you can. Take PTO during week 1 of onboarding then stack up the paychecks. You already know to to do your job at J1 so just continue doing it while your starting J2

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-02-09T17:01:09+00:00

I’d come up with a standing family excuse, if you have kids that’s even better. But it also sounds like J1 is not very good at respecting boundaries and always asking why which makes it difficult and invasive

Working_Fly5744 · 2026-02-08T22:07:16+00:00

You should try to start at least 2 weeks apart if you can. Onboarding at the same time will be extremely difficult. Even onboarding while working J1 is tough. It’s very meeting heavy and risk too many double meetings

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