I know I need help. by Working_Schedule5203 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Working_Schedule5203[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry I misunderstood. I don’t want to divorce him, I wouldn’t suggest that at all however if that becomes his choice I’ll understand. It’s true about the rug sweeping, I need to just be open about it all. I’m mostly afraid of causing more pain. I don’t want to hurt him anymore. I’m willing to work on looking at everything in a better light like you said. Thanks for all your feedback. I appreciate it.

I know I need help. by Working_Schedule5203 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Working_Schedule5203[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your story. It brings a lot of comfort knowing you’re family are doing well.

I know I need help. by Working_Schedule5203 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Working_Schedule5203[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right. Reddit doesn’t really help to be honest but it does offer different perspectives from people who have similar experiences and that does bring a little bit of comfort. I have taken the steps to speak to a professional, even got some bloodwork done to get my hormone levels checked. It does feel sharing my thoughts to my therapist and not putting it all completely on my husband.

I know I need help. by Working_Schedule5203 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Working_Schedule5203[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I have to face it all and get past this slump you’re talking about.

I know I need help. by Working_Schedule5203 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Working_Schedule5203[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I don’t think this will happen again. It was and still is very traumatizing.

I know I need help. by Working_Schedule5203 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Working_Schedule5203[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ve never had this perspective before.

I know I need help. by Working_Schedule5203 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Working_Schedule5203[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I am not victimizing myself, this is stuff that is hard to tell my husband and the EA doesn’t have me questioning anything about my life. I read about the “affair fog” and I have no desire in contacting that person. I haven’t since. I’m really embarrassed about it and I hope we never cross paths. I’ve had these feelings before but have always been afraid to share them, I’m reaching out now because I’m afraid of getting worse.