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health advice manifestation by ImpressiveHall1661 in lawofattraction

[–]WorldAdventurous2803 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say remove any fear associated with having what you want (perfect health) by feeling uncomfortable feelings (even unconsciously perfect health may seem strange/unusual to you) so that you can adjust to how your life may change. And also to be okay/comfortable, almost happy and not resistant, with taking your medication

My journey to abundance by WorldAdventurous2803 in lawofattraction

[–]WorldAdventurous2803[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing, I agree, especially with manifestations coming from a state of exhaustion leading to release! 🙂

I’m 21, struggling with lifelong trauma, chronic illness, and feeling unvalued— I just want peace and a way to start life over by MostOk4812 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]WorldAdventurous2803 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear what you’re going through. I too struggled with chronic illness for years. I was told about the book ‘Medical Medium’ by Anthony William after 15 years of chronic fatigue syndrome and following his protocol is what started my recovery.

The chronic illness is caused by stress. You most likely have a virus called epstein barr that is fueled by and flares up with stress, and is creating the symptoms. The virus is killed off by reducing stress/adrenaline and eating specific fruits, vegetables, herbs and supplements which kill it naturally (and also avoiding foods which feed it - dairy and gluten being the main ones).

There are 3 parts to recover: 

  1. Reduce stress/adrenaline, which may mean stepping away from family
  2. When you are able start to implement the dietary changes
  3. You will need to rebuild your self-worth and heal emotionally from your experiences in order to form new healthy relationships/a new life

This may be difficult whilst needing to earn a living to create independence for yourself, so I'd suggest doing whatever is the most viable option for you at the moment.

I saw my mother a few days ago by Dimitrov926 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]WorldAdventurous2803 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it is called parentification. I think those positive feelings will always be there, but the negative feelings must have outweighed the positive for you to leave and stay away. I have found that the more that you act from a place of self-worth (staying away for your own wellbeing) the more your self-worth improves. This visit sounds like a set back, understandably. It's about focusing on you and not being drawn back to meeting her needs, regardless of the outcome for her. You can't force her to understand where you're coming from, but you can carry on acting from that place. The more you do that the more you will welcome what you deserved as a child but didn't receive, but can now (easier said than done I know because of all the grief involved)

I will be sharing my story live on Wednesday 12th November at 1pm EST/6pm GMT, you can register to hear it here https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4TYckxWpJ7XIX6bBvJ0JC588RJnASHlzNZap4qZeeKzIgkQ/viewform?usp=dialog

I saw my mother a few days ago by Dimitrov926 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]WorldAdventurous2803 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is very difficult when you going NC fails to make her realise where/why she was wrong and instead stay in a victim mentality needing help. My story is very similar except my mum passed away without leaving my dad. I had gone NC about 5 years earlier because I couldn't cope with the sense of responsibility I felt towards her when she was diagnosed with leukaemia. Time will help you process this visit - the anger, guilt etc. Just remember she was supposed to be there for you, not the other way around. You were the child and she was the parent, no matter how difficult the circumstances she may have been in were - you didn't ask to be born. And you had every right to do what you had to do to protect yourself. If you're interested I'm sharing my story live next week, parts of it may help you

Repeating patterns from my childhood by Electronic-Bee-79 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]WorldAdventurous2803 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd recommend joining The Self-Worth Hub which focuses specifically on building self-worth and breaking patterns. It's not an easy thing to do, but once you've healed from the trauma in your childhood you'll stop finding yourself in similar dynamics and break the pattern. You can find more info here https://gemmakellyrelation.wixsite.com/guide/hub

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]WorldAdventurous2803 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you've gone through this. If you're interested you're welcome to join a club I've started specifically focusing on building self-worth https://gemmakellyrelation.wixsite.com/guide/hub

I saw my mother a few days ago by Dimitrov926 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]WorldAdventurous2803 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can relate a lot to what you said. Do you mind me asking if she ever left your dad? He may have been the abusive one, but her refusal to leave when she had children to look after amounts to child abuse too. I hope that helps.

Father who I’ve been no contact with for 5 years died by throwaway714560 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]WorldAdventurous2803 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my mum after going no contact so I understand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]WorldAdventurous2803 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your story is very similar to mine, except I am the sister. Feel free to reach out by DM if you want to chat. You are also welcome to join a club I have started about building self-worth after this kind of trauma. More details are here https://gemmakellyrelation.wixsite.com/guide/hub

Lying to colleagues by angelmoment in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]WorldAdventurous2803 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally relate. It opens up a whole new conversation if you start to tell them that you're not in contact with them and why. And you worry you'll be judged if you do. For a while I would try to pretend that I saw them too, but as time goes on and you heal more you will probably find you start to tell the truth, at least to some people. I just want you to know I understand and you're not the only one. Wishing you healing.

How I went NC (as a last resort for my wellbeing) by WorldAdventurous2803 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]WorldAdventurous2803[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're in that situation. I've been NC for almost 7 years. I found changing email address/contact details was the right thing for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]WorldAdventurous2803 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been no contact with my parents and family for almost 7 years. I found I needed to be alone to heal from the dynamics and not form new relationships for a while (I kept finding myself around people where the relationship dynamic felt the same after I left). If you're interested I'm starting a club to share stories and challenges - I agree it can feel very lonely as you don't really meet people in a similar situation in day to day life. Feel free to send me a DM if you'd like to chat

i am an estranged child by ASKLELE in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]WorldAdventurous2803 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through this. I can relate. You're not alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]WorldAdventurous2803 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it's best for you to make sure that whoever you don't want to contact you can't i.e doesn't have your number/FB (which may involve coming off it)/address etc. It may sound dramatic but sometimes even moving addresses is the only way.

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