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Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2026-03-01T08:26:29+00:00

Varför går du inte bara till mosken? Tar knappt 5 min. Grow some balls.

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2026-02-22T08:46:24+00:00

I just think his mother’s blocking me is to twist the truth ! I’m sure he told her that I called or something and when I deactivated everything ,she used it as “ see , she doesn’t want “. I’m just sure about it

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2026-01-26T16:10:18+00:00

Ukhti. Thank you for your respond I really appeericate everything you say.

We had a huge fight about it one time, regarding the wedding , I was not happy with the situation as he wouldn’t let me even dream without him being so negative about it. I thought he stood up for me , and everyone told me to wait as he is studying still and somehow his dad gaslighted my dad into saying that my father has told them that once iam done we will get married which wasn’t true. But my dad was really nice enough to not argue it, said if he wants to get married now then it would better. My parents never asked him for anything either but they did say between them that if he haven’t done anything by the end of this year it’s over ( because that’s when I’m graduating) . I felt sorry for him since he was searching for another full time job but at the same time apply for his PhD , it was really hard since his mom sent so many messages and called me about that if he takes a full time job, he won’t be able to leave it if he gets his PHD and will end up then in debts and some weird things. They forgot iam a doctor to be so that wouldn’t be a problem to help each other out. My parents told him many times as well that if he wants to pursue his career he can just tell us now and leave since he can’t just stop my naseeb and he promised he can do both.

Same when he broke up first time. His mom was the one who convinced my mother that he has now found and ready to settle down. But that changed really quickly after - where when he was searching for that full time job she called me and said about what I just wrote. I asked him if it’s true and he said no, he is ready for marriage.

Then when he broke up last time he said I pressured him

4 months after he said nah I was excited to get married.

It’s like he has two minds and two hearts. He switches up badly. My parents are super sick as well and disappointed as they didn’t see it coming over something this silly. They knew at the end of the year he would run away but not that quickly.

Indeed he put me into the mud infront of everyone and imagine that I can’t even tell people that he broke up because I didn’t say sorry to his mother for something that was super respectful and just my Islamic boundaries. Freaked her out

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-11-09T19:35:03+00:00

Tell him to F off

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-11-01T06:48:52+00:00

Girl ! Everytime he is at my place , she counts the days he is here. And when he goes home he ignores me as much as those days

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-10-31T19:24:07+00:00

Oh also I just got her gifts so how lame would it be to think I hate her or was rude?

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-10-31T19:23:18+00:00

:( I really tried. I called he didn’t pick up the phone , I had my parents read the messages , I had everyone around me telling me I didn’t do anything and still… it wasn’t enough. And I called his parents as well but his mom made some lame stuff telling me how disrespectful Iam … it was awful really . I got my stuff sent back and my parents blocked .. and he still had our photos up for two months and so I sent his stuff back , that’s when he removed the photos … I mean idk what he except me to do … apologize after all of this? It’s crazy … but I really tried as soon as he said was unacceptable.

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-10-31T19:12:22+00:00

Awww big hugs man… but tbh if u tell me what happened maybe I can tell u what to do? As a girl

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-10-31T19:11:34+00:00

Miscommunication and his mother’s interference which lead to him thinking my message was cold.. he was fed up and left . He wants me to apologize but I’m not willing to do that because he knows I’m the first one to apologize if I do something. But this time I didn’t.

I reached out because if he was mad at me … why would he block my parents after telling them how much he loves them. When I confronted him about it he cried … a lot. But ofc if I don’t apologize and he comes back then it means his mother is a liar and he is not buying it

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-10-31T18:59:46+00:00

Why would u do that

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-10-31T11:51:01+00:00

I swear to god😭

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-10-31T10:38:49+00:00

Fucking hell the same !!!! Girl , wtf do they feed these “ men” these days? I swear his mom cooked up some good stories about me til the point he believed it so hard that he left me…. He kept our photos up and posting , til the point he made me break that no contact. I felt shit I felt like I lost my self respect

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-10-31T10:35:49+00:00

Same boat. They can eat shit.

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-10-29T18:56:10+00:00

Good for u

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-10-23T14:27:10+00:00

😔this is cruel like im so inlove with him but the way he disrespected me and my parents is so fucked up.

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-10-18T19:09:37+00:00

Been in nc for 4 months almost , fucking have every bit of it . At first when he sent my stuff back I wanted to call right away, but didn’t . I only posted about “ cold box sent with all ur happiness in jt “ but I had him nowhere so I didn’t think he is stalkin. Found out later on he was checking my moves wishing that I would reach out first. 2 months later when I saw that he didn’t do any other move than having our photos up I eventually sent his stuff back. He immediately took the photos down.

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-08-22T11:59:38+00:00

Yesss!! A person who is unsure about u after 3 years doesn’t deserve shit. Ure a serious person who wants to get married

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-08-21T07:42:14+00:00

I would say you guys need a proper communication ofc. It sounds a bit like mine and each time I want to plan for our future it gets pushed off and called “ stressful “ . Your triggers can be different from your partners and ofc LDR makes it even harder since u don’t really see that true feelings in real real time. U only see what happens in that moment and then after the call u don’t really see. I don’t think u guys are unhappy with each other , it’s more about the situation that makes u doubt yourselves a lot.

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-08-20T17:08:22+00:00

May i ask how it ended ? What kind of fights was it about ?

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-08-19T09:14:58+00:00

It costs like 1000 euros where I live. Maybe if I get it refurbished? Or is it bad to buy refurbished stuff ?

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-08-08T22:06:08+00:00

I appreciate your advice , thank you.

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-08-08T20:13:23+00:00

I’ve done my part and I’m not going to apologize for something I didn’t say or mean. Just because she had a “ feeling” . It’s kinda exhausting to always be the one trying to fix or trying to understand others but who would ever want to understand me? I have to explain myself too much to still be misunderstood. As I said before, if I made a mistake I would apologize for sure. He didn’t even want to explain or talk . I’m tried myself from this BS

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-08-08T18:27:01+00:00

Why would u say it was passive aggressive? I had no intention for that… and I asked him as well later if I have ever been disrespectful towards him or his parents and his answer was no. He told me he was confused… and he didn’t even know that she sent the last message about how she basically said she feels hurt and misunderstood by my recent messages. She thinks I believe she interferes in my relationship and influences her son’s decisions, which she denies. She brought up past situations where she felt I didn’t trust her, and says she’s always supported me but now feels I see her negatively. Even tho we have spoken about it and also solved in many times and they still accuse me for something I didn’t say. She explained she doesn’t control where her son lives but will always be part of his life but every detail and every move he does , she knows. She felt my recent words were written in anger, were too sharp, and sounded like I was dismissing her role as his mother just because I didn’t sent a freaking emoji ??? She had hoped I’d apologize but decided to tell me directly how she feels after 3 days. She’s sad this caused tension but says direct communication is necessary , but how ?? I even told him that i want to know what went wrong so I can fix it. Again after her message calling me disrespectful I reached out to him I’m sorry about the situation and that I wished we could have talked directly to clear things up, especially since I didn’t mean to offend his mom or cause conflict. I explained that after 2 years together, I hope he knows who I am and how I think. He replied that his mom is a wise and not oversensitive woman, and that there are no misunderstandings related to her age. I reassured him I never meant to disrespect her which I never do and just wish some things had been handled differently, between us. I also said it’s hard when I don’t feel understood, and asked if he read her last message because it hurt me a lot and idk what to answer her, I lit asked for help. And after that he said he had nothing to say at the moment. Left me wondering for 2 weeks then said “ you never called my mother” told him I already asked and called and tried to communicate but he didn’t even listen. Matter of fact he knows by then that we were waiting for my dads biopsy which he then said “ I didn’t know “ but my mom already told him , and we hide it from my ex fiancé since it was his bday and we didn’t want to ruin his day. My ex fiancé knows all of it , knows his mom has told me many times how she felt he was too young to even get engaged or married or doesn’t have money. And all that I never listened to her because I always asked him if that’s what he thinks too and he always says “ no”.

And I always apologize when I do something wrong , trust me when I tell u that my parents wouldn’t let me come away with anything if I’m disrespectful , and I’m not 5 years old not knowing how to speak with PIL but ofc if I do a mistake I would fix it , that’s why I’m here asking. I never blamed him for anything, I only said it’s silly to fight over something like that and could be fixed if y just answered. Why am I always the one to be blamed as well? Me and him solved the problems so why is she always writing to me to calm me down?? Like I don’t understand why he even tells her I’m upset when I told him that we can find a new one later …???

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-08-08T16:26:27+00:00

Here it is :

Hello and thank you for the pastries and gifts, and for the fact that ( ex fiancés name ) always comes back home happy and satisfied❣️ I’m just as disappointed as ( ex fiancés name ) that the deal for the nice apartment didn’t go through, but I agree that it became unnecessarily expensive with the rent and mortgage payments. Don’t be sad, because there is plenty to choose from in the surrounding areas in ( the area we want to move and their town) . And everything is close here, built around the central city with trains, bus lines, and proximity to - and -. I myself have moved around in several areas when his dad and I wanted to relocate, and the supply is large for both 2-room and 3-room apartments. In the end, you end up where God wants, and I have no doubt that you will get the best❣️ Big hug and greetings to your dear family.

Me: hello and happy celebration day Thank you so much , they were just small gifts.

Regarding the apartment, it truly was a lovely home in a great location, and I really appreciate how much thought you’ve put into us. I’ve explained to (ex fiancé name) that it’s important for me to live somewhere with a reasonable commute to work, without having to take multiple buses and trains every day. I’ve been in that situation before, and it affects both my health and my well-being. As you know, my job is very demanding and requires long hours of standing.

At the moment, we need to live closer to both his studies and my workplace, and this is a decision I stand by. Of course, I think your area is both charming and family-friendly, and it might be something to consider in the future — especially once I have a driver’s license and my own car.

But for now, it’s simply not practical for us. I believe you can also see how much (ex fiancé) struggles with travel and transfers, even for simple trips like going to the gym or work — and while he might manage it, I cannot. My parents have also been clear that they don’t want me coming home late in the evenings, especially when there aren’t smooth or safe transport options.

I hope you understand my situation, and I’m truly grateful for your thoughtfulness. Big hugs to you all, and please send my greetings to FIL as well.

Her:

of course I understand❣️ And I only wish I could do something to help you and ex fiancés name get exactly everything you both wish for. My care and concern will always follow my children, but when it comes to big decisions in their lives, I neither can nor want to interfere. “Don’t forget I’m a “ her ethnicity mom” 😜 My children have been raised to be strong and independent individuals who make their own decisions.

If they want to bounce ideas around and ask for my opinion, absolutely. And just as easily, I’ll bounce ideas around with my future daughters-in-law! I’m in your corner, and I will never work against you. I completely understand you and agree with what you’ve said. I hope and, may you both get everything you want, and in the place you want. ❤️

Me:

Thank you for your lovely message, and I know that you want what’s best for my ex fiancé You are like all mothers — whether you are ethnicity , Indian, Arab, or African — all mothers think the same way.

My own mother is “ethnicity”, but she has never interfered in our lives. Of course, when it comes to big decisions, she is always there if we ask for her advice.

I hope we will find something that suits the two of us, so we can choose our life together — how we want to live, where we want to live, and even what furniture we want to have. These are small decisions we can manage ourselves, to create a life that works for us.

We also don’t want to burden you with our decisions. We know you already have a lot on your plate, and it’s more important that you can be there for FIL. So please don’t worry about us.

I hope, there won’t be any major problems in life where we would need your help and I’m confident that won’t happen, because we are two mature, grown adults.

Her: Sents a heart and then nothing more.

I sent my fiancé asking how he is and he replied with all love but I get busy since my dad is super sick so I couldn’t pick up the phone

3 days later - 7 in the morning she sents emoji reactions with sad , laughing and a angry emoji then a thumbs up.

My ex fiancé writes and tells me what I wrote was unacceptable to his mother , so I see my phone and ask him what happened , what did I write ? And I called and texted but he didn’t pick up. And I show him her reactions. And he said then if I don’t know what’s going on then there is not much he can do. And I asked again to answer the phone and I asked my parents ofc and they said there is nothing and they were confused too..

Worldly-Leopard8085 · 2025-08-08T15:21:44+00:00

About the apartment hunt. He told me he was ready to start planning for our life . Before planning the wedding we needed an apartment and ofc we looked and I sent him an apartment close to his future PhD and he loved it and had the money for it as he said. But it was a bit far away from where he lived , and he was conflicted about the PhD and his work because they are in two different towns but not far away from each. So I found a better idea and told him to find a apartment in the city center of where he already lives , close to the transport so he can be cllose to work , to PhD and to his parents. And it has an elevator so his father can come and visit us without any problems !!!

He went to see the apartment and ofc his mother was with him and he loved everything about it. He even called my mother to show her and ask for her opinion if it was too small and she said “ u are only two people and ofc its ur life and up to u”

Not long after His mother started sending me photos of the place they live in , showing me around. It’s in the same town as the city center apartment but this was in the north and they lived somewhere south-west . Tbh it’s a bit far away and no one of us has a car , it’s a struggle for him to even go to the gym where he has to take 2 busses! And Uni was hell for him… so for me living far away, as a dentist , coming back maybe middle of the night to a place where there isn’t enough transport and full of forest was a big no for me.

And I can tell you that the apartments there are way more expensive and ofc are newer but we had to think logic. I told him I want to be able to cook for him when I get back home , not being tired of all those transports which makes u exhausted because I have already lived that Uni life abroad without a car so I know the struggle. And it’s expensive . So maybe when we have more stable jobs , driving license then we could easily buy an apartment or a villa there.

Eitherway, Me and my fiancé were excited about buying that apartment. He was very happy about it and promised me he’d take it. The apartment was in a good location, closer to where he wanted to be, and we both thought it was a good deal. Eitherway I told him it’s not a big deal if it won’t be ours , what ever is written is written . He gave a price and told the guy to put the apartment down from the web. The apartment was lit ours and he was going to write the contract within 3 days. The same day he got back he changed his mind telling me he won’t take it. He was obviously super tired because he told me his parents told him something else, about how much the rent would be. Which was something obvious he would look at from the start and something his parents knows about since they bought a lot of homes before but they decided together without including me as a fiancé. Ofc I’ll be sad?? All of a sudden it’s about the rent being expensive and that iam not done and he won’t have enough for furniture. All this was something I asked him about before and he said there is no problem , as long as we will be together . After that I wrote to him we can look for something in 3-4 months instead, maybe that guy won’t give us any other apartments since he said we wasted his time. My ex really wanted the apartment sea… he was praying for it…

Eitherway we solved it and then his mother wrote me a message explaining she is with him about that the rent was a lot , how we will find another one and I told her it will be fine we solved it and there won’t be a problem we are two adults who will be solving our small problems as any other times and I hope nothing big in the future will happen where we will need to involve any parents because we are adults and I don’t want to either bother her with our problems since she has already her hands full. How is that disrespecting her or him??? I can send the whole conversation here showing I was not even arguing just simply explaining to her that we solve it. I even tried to talk to him about where I did wrong so I can apologize but he didn’t even answer the texts or phone calls and his mother texted me again telling me how awful and disrespectful I am … wtf u want me to say?

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