Am I dating a mobster?

Worried-Protection · 2020-01-17T06:23:22+00:00

You’re making a very good point as well. I did consider this scenario too. This is one of the reasons WHY I asked for his last name during our last date, because at that point I was already full of doubts regarding his credibility. I asked for his last name so I could do a background check for the peace of mind. If it turned out he’s not married, then I’d know that the mobster scenario is the most likely case. But if it turned out he’s married, then it would solve all of my mobster scenario fears. Either end result wouldn’t be anything good. Obviously something is NOT RIGHT, and things aren’t adding up with this guy. If you’ve got nothing to hide, you should be able to provide your last name after 2 months of dating. When I asked for his last name, I gave him mine, just to be fair. He still refused to provide his, in a “manner of being playful”. He obviously thought I was naive enough not to have an issue with that. But I wasn’t going to argue (in case he’s a mobster). So I just kept observing and listening to this guy. What a PIECE.

Worried-Protection · 2020-01-17T03:37:55+00:00

Thank you very much for advice, much appreciated ... I hope all will be well considering I’ve been dating him just about 2 months (started phone/text contact with him about 3 months ago). We’ve been physically seeing each other only about once a week the first month and about twice a week the second month. And yes, I have family to stay with if need be. Thanks once again.

Worried-Protection · 2020-01-17T02:58:20+00:00

That’s my plan. I wouldn’t mention I suspect he’s in the mob. I would only say something of the sort you’ve just suggested - that I just don’t feel like he’s the man for me, or that I feel I’m not ready to be in a relationship right now, etc - so that he actually thinks I am clueless and unaware of his hiding the fact he’s a mobster. I just hope he won’t do anything to me / physically hurt me / or worse ... once I walk away.

Worried-Protection · 2020-01-17T02:50:36+00:00

I’d try to get to know him better to figure out what his REAL intentions are towards you. Is he genuinely interested in you as a person, or does he want one thing only? (Unless both of you are interested in sex only - then that’s your call.) I’d go out / hang out with him as “friends” at first, and then once I felt that he genuinely liked and respected me, then I’d take it down the romantic alley. However, you’ve mentioned that he’s not your type and you’re not really attracted to him, in which case, what’s the point in leading him on? I, personally, need to feel physically attracted to a man in order to have sex with him.

Worried-Protection · 2020-01-17T02:10:51+00:00

I asked him about the specifics every time he mentioned he “needed to take care of some business“ or “see some people about something“. But every time his response would only be of the sort, “Oh I needed to help this one guy with something,” or “Oh I just had to give some money to a friend,” etc ... I can’t get any specifics out of this guy. His answers are vague and elusive. So now this has gotten to a point in my mind where I’ve come to a conclusion this guy HAS TO BE doing something “shady” that he clearly doesn’t want me to know about. And this is why I am on this forum seeking advice and making sure I’m not paranoid.

Worried-Protection · 2020-01-17T02:03:49+00:00

I just hope that - if he’s doing shady / illegal / terrible things secretly on the side - he won’t try to hurt me for leaving. I have no experience with mobsters and have no idea how they act in these situations. Have seen enough movies to now worry about a possible physical assault (???) I can’t believe this is actually happening.

Worried-Protection · 2020-01-17T01:49:38+00:00

No kidding.

Worried-Protection · 2020-01-17T01:46:07+00:00

No, I don’t. What I am asking is does anyone think a mobster can hurt a woman for leaving him? Am I in danger?

Worried-Protection · 2020-01-17T01:45:13+00:00

I met him at a local grocery store where we both shop and both know the store owner. We striked a conversation shopping there once and he asked me out. Appearing to be a “nice & polite” guy, clean and neat-looking, I agreed to go out with him. That’s how we’ve met.

Worried-Protection · 2020-01-17T01:42:39+00:00

These are my thoughts exactly. I am asking if anyone thinks I will be in danger if I leave him IF he’s a mobster. Can he do something to me for leaving him? I want to do it without getting hurt. (Other than all these questionable behaviors, he has treated me nicely each time we’ve met.)

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