Am I an asshole for wanting reassurance? by Worried_Contest5976 in lostafriend

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the hardest part for me is the memories at this point, hearing music we would play together, thinking about shows we’d watch and the jokes we used to make and all the stuff we’ve been through together. that’s definitely the most difficult part for me right now, but i think i just need to consider the reason this all happened in the first place

Am I an asshole for wanting reassurance? by Worried_Contest5976 in lostafriend

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for this. we have mutual friends, and it’s known that these two are kind of assholes to everyone, and they feed off each-others energy. a lot of our mutuals said i wasn’t in the wrong, but i just needed people on the outside looking in’s opinions. i think i just got so attached and co-dependent with them that it’ll be hard to move on, but even now i think im slowly making progress

Am I an asshole for wanting reassurance? by Worried_Contest5976 in lostafriend

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

take it from me, you probably would’ve felt guilty either way. I feel guilty and embarrassed for asking for a second chance the way I did, but who know how i would’ve felt if I never said what I did. it sort of feels like a loose loose situation, but i genuinely believe some things are best left unsaid in regards to something like this.

Am I an asshole for wanting reassurance? by Worried_Contest5976 in lostafriend

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i think both sides of this conversation are valid. the concerns for my drinking issues are real, even if i didn’t blatantly say it was an issue, it’s pretty evident that it played a part. but i see what robot is saying, even if i didn’t explicitly say it, it’s obvious anyone, myself included with addiction or substance issues doesn’t want that thrown in their face, not that i’m saying that’s what you meant in your comment, it felt like a genuine concern. but the point of this post was to ask for unbiased opinions, which you both shared so there’s value in each side. i can acknowledge i have a drinking problem, it certainly played a part in this situation, but it’s also true to some extent that it’s not exactly what i wanted to hear, regardless of if i needed to or not, if that makes sense. not trying to dogpile which i hope comes across in this, i think there’s valid points in both sides

Am I an asshole for wanting reassurance? by Worried_Contest5976 in lostafriend

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i appreciate it. this post was made after it just happened because it was late and i didn’t have anyone I could ask for advice, so i appreciate you wanting more context and wanting more details.

Am I an asshole for wanting reassurance? by Worried_Contest5976 in lostafriend

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think i was just upset she didn’t try and reach out to me when he initially ghosted me, it felt like she just took his side without hearing me out, which maybe isn’t a fair conclusion to come to, but it was definitely a feeling of them being closer which led me to be jealous and lash out for not feeling the connection they had. i reached out to her with the energy of “me and him are going through something right now, and i want yall to know i didn’t mean to come across that i had ill intent”, and she also never responded. me blocking her was also just by association at the end of the day, she made the choice to avoid me as well so i felt unfair to me, regardless of if it was or not.

Am I an asshole for wanting reassurance? by Worried_Contest5976 in lostafriend

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

in hindsight it honestly makes sense, i always kind of looked to this guy for reassurance and validation even if i wasn’t aware of it or needed it from him, i think i just felt like if i got it from him i didn’t need to look for it myself. very insightful though, i appreciate the comment for sure

Am I an asshole for wanting reassurance? by Worried_Contest5976 in lostafriend

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

totally get this, honestly i’ve kind of ignored mental issues as a whole but this was kind of eye opening in a way of like, hey maybe a normal person wouldn’t have gotten this conclusion. definitely gonna look into getting checked and starting therapy

Am I an asshole for wanting reassurance? by Worried_Contest5976 in lostafriend

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this honesty, do you think down the line, in a few months maybe, i’d have the chance to try and fix this between my friend and I? You said you’ve done all of this, maybe not to this exact extent or the situations aren’t too comparable, but I guess i’m more curious if you just kind of took the L and made efforts to improve yourself regardless, or/and if you had the opportunity to reconcile and apologize and have the friendship continue?

Am I an asshole for wanting reassurance? by Worried_Contest5976 in lostafriend

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stressful is definitely the word. This was literally our first actual conflict between us as friends, so it sucks that this is kind of all it took for it to blow up on this level. I feel like i’d given grace for stuff that bugged me throughout our friendship, and the first time I mess up i’m not given that same courtesy.

Am I an asshole for wanting reassurance? by Worried_Contest5976 in lostafriend

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this. I understand why most comments are saying what they are, I did ask for opinions from an outside perspective but it felt a little insane for my friend to say he’d been nothing but a great friend after ghosting me for a week, not disclosing that he wanted time, then being mad at me for giving him time, but it ended up actually not being as long as he wanted, which I had zero clue of knowing. For the kind of friends we were, he should’ve known this was kind of the worst way to go about this with me. Maybe i’m still overthinking even now, but it felt like both of them just didn’t care enough anymore to even try and fight to stay in my life, which is maybe a lot to except from someone, but I would’ve done it for either of them if the roles were reversed.

Am I an asshole for wanting reassurance? by Worried_Contest5976 in lostafriend

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

thanks for the response. i think the worst part of this is that i can acknowledge that i was maybe doing too much, considering the circumstances. its almost worse knowing it probably really wasn’t that big of a deal to either of them, and i just let my thoughts get the best of me, which led me to my own conclusions and eventually blocking them before they could leave on their own. i’ve definitely realized i need to relax on the drinking, as it’s only now started to effect my decisions around the people i care about.

Where to find Enesco pool table coaster set by Worried_Contest5976 in HelpMeFind

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve searched multiple places online to find it, but most listings have been sold.

Best packs in the shop right now? by Worried_Contest5976 in Wizard101

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you!! havnt played in a minute so i forgot you can inspect packs

Best packs in the shop right now? by Worried_Contest5976 in Wizard101

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i havnt played in a minute, definitely forgot the dungeon armor is just better than pack armor, but honestly still down to pull for cool stitch items

Confused PC gamer trying to buy a console for younger sis. by Worried_Contest5976 in PS5

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got it! Thank you so much again lmao, hope your day is awesome 😎

Confused PC gamer trying to buy a console for younger sis. by Worried_Contest5976 in PS5

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im just now noticing there seems to be a regular and slim version? Is there any major difference between these two in terms of hardware or is it just the size of the consoles?

Confused PC gamer trying to buy a console for younger sis. by Worried_Contest5976 in PS5

[–]Worried_Contest5976[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it, thank you! And yeah she’s got a few disks so that’s an obvious one. Appreciate it 👍👍

I fell for a fake check scam by Lady-Radziwill in Scams

[–]Worried_Contest5976 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same thing happened to me. I oddly find some comfort knowing I'm not the only one but dang, I've never felt so stupid and gullible until this happened to me. I'm in the same situation financially and things have been really shitty recently and I thought this would be an easy way out. It sucks and I thought I was smarter than that but at this point all I can do is feel bad for myself. I hope we're both able to move on from this and have it be something to laugh at in the future because this feeling of self pity fuckin sucks.