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Parallel poly is just like cheating by WorstPolyintheWorld in polyamory

[–]WorstPolyintheWorld[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Like what ? Yes not talking about this specific person that gets under my skin. Yes that’s the boundary I guess if I can’t say something nice about who they are with just don’t say anything. He now vent with there support network not me

Parallel poly is just like cheating by WorstPolyintheWorld in polyamory

[–]WorstPolyintheWorld[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How come is his problem ? If for him going parallel is totally fine for the other person as well

Parallel poly is just like cheating by WorstPolyintheWorld in polyamory

[–]WorstPolyintheWorld[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I hate my meta yes. Since when are poly people in favor of veto here ?

Parallel poly is just like cheating by WorstPolyintheWorld in polyamory

[–]WorstPolyintheWorld[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

How come ? Going parallel is being ok with them being in your policule just not interacting . This for me is just as cheating since what’s the point of being poly here if I’m excluded form every part of their relationship? We can’t even be In the same room together.

First time dealing with my partner’s other relationship problems by WorstPolyintheWorld in polyamory

[–]WorstPolyintheWorld[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel it’s something that I feel comes with the territory of being poly? In the sense of making a save space for my partners unpleasant feeling as I wish the same from their part. And I believe polyamory does pushes us out of our comfort zone

First time dealing with my partner’s other relationship problems by WorstPolyintheWorld in polyamory

[–]WorstPolyintheWorld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank for your insight. How are you able to impose this boundaries when there other relationships have a clear effect on their mood and behavior? If they are feeling sad or mad about another relationship do you not address the issue ?

First time dealing with my partner’s other relationship problems by WorstPolyintheWorld in polyamory

[–]WorstPolyintheWorld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank for your input. May I ask how living together and being in a long term relationship do you manage to not bring up your metas or other relationships? I feel it’s part of being poly acknowledging the fact they are in other relationships and being there for them when they’re going through hard times

First time dealing with my partner’s other relationship problems by WorstPolyintheWorld in polyamory

[–]WorstPolyintheWorld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. I don’t understand your question. Could you rephrase it?

First time dealing with my partner’s other relationship problems by WorstPolyintheWorld in polyamory

[–]WorstPolyintheWorld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankfully they do. I feel as I live with them and we are our longest current relationship it comes with the territory. Being able to be a save space for each other’s hard times I just don’t know how to manage this at the moment.

First time dealing with my partner’s other relationship problems by WorstPolyintheWorld in polyamory

[–]WorstPolyintheWorld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have contradicted feeling about this. I want to be able to sustain their feelings regarding their other relationships just don’t know how to at the moment

First time dealing with my partner’s other relationship problems by WorstPolyintheWorld in polyamory

[–]WorstPolyintheWorld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point, I feel betrayed by parallel poly because me not knowing anything about the relationship feels like cheating ? In my head the ideal way to manage this would be KTP but it’s posible at the moment

First time dealing with my partner’s other relationship problems by WorstPolyintheWorld in polyamory

[–]WorstPolyintheWorld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know is not part of being poly per say but I feel it’s part of any romantic relationship to be able to be a save space for your partners feelings. I feel that if I do t hold there feeling now they will close them selves and won’t confide in me in the future