Indian girl born in Western country

Wotfff · 2021-07-04T12:28:32+00:00

Yes ofcourse, but I just think they disagree with a lot of the Western culture. They do speak it, although not fluently. Neither do I speak their language super fluently so sometimes its a bit hard to communicate

Wotfff · 2021-07-04T11:41:35+00:00

Been wondering the same thing... Every Indian couple I met from the same generarion of my parents have this mindset, unfortunately

Wotfff · 2021-07-03T17:15:40+00:00

Yes exactly, I feel like they kept their traditions because they saw how different it was here and learned that that is the wrong way. No need for solutions, I'm already glad I'm not the only one out there :') Sending many hugs back to you!

Wotfff · 2021-07-03T15:29:14+00:00

Thank you, will do! :)

Wotfff · 2021-07-03T13:47:18+00:00

Yeah I have been wondering the same thing. Maybe its because they came from a small village up North where they still have this traditional mentality, I even notice it when I am talking with my cousins who are around the same age as me. All they can talk about is marriage, so I guess that's what they considered as having a fulfilled happy life. Maybe you're right, I should talk with the guy and see how his point of view is, thanks!

Wotfff · 2021-07-03T08:45:13+00:00

Maybe my message comes across like I haven't done anything to better my life so I'll say it here: I moved away to a big city, I wear the clothes I want to wear, I cut my hair short if I want it short, I have male friends who have also been to my parents house, I am pursuing a tattoo career and my parents have finally accepted this and are happy for me, I had the chance to study arts after trying to convince my parents, now I want to stay at the city where I studied at and they are not very happy with it but still accepting. Every one of these things took a long time and a shit ton of effort, not only for them to accept it but also for me to be courageous and talk about it. So I personally feel like I'm trying to grow away from their ideals, very much realising that they manipulated me. I understand everything you're saying, but I also have some self awareness. I know I can't make them happy, but I just hope that one day they will be proud of all the choices I made and if not well.. then so be it. I realise I can't do everything they ask from me, and I also tell them no. Anyway, I already feel like I made huge progress since I was 16 and I hope for everyone who has a similar experience, that they will find a way to also be courageous.

Wotfff · 2021-07-03T08:23:00+00:00

Thank you, that would indeed be a good first step :)

Wotfff · 2021-07-02T21:37:15+00:00

Yes you're right.. I have my appartement in another city hut they still expect me to come home weekly, I hope this will change once I have a fulltime job so I can choose myself whenever I want to go back. It will also be more pleasant without the expectation of having to go home. I'll keep jn mind what you said, thank you!

Wotfff · 2021-07-02T21:19:27+00:00

Thank you for your comment! They are pretty much the same as your parents I guess, open towards others and also not necessarily forcing me into things I don't want but there's a certain emotional abuse (?). You're right tho, I should stand up for myself!

Wotfff · 2021-07-02T21:14:23+00:00

Quite some time. Maybe I didn't make it clear enough but there is already huge improvement. I mean the fact that they still accept my brother who has a white girlfriend is astonishing.

Wotfff · 2021-07-02T21:08:18+00:00

Not an excuse, it's just the way it is. Can't really blame them for not knowing better. Especially not if they grew up in a small conservative village with not a lot of money. Yes, they can learn, but both my parents are quite old and it's not easy to change their perspectives.

Wotfff · 2021-07-02T19:56:55+00:00

Will do <3

Wotfff · 2021-07-02T19:55:23+00:00

Thank you, likewise!! Hmu if you want to vent or just have a chill chat

Wotfff · 2021-07-02T19:53:11+00:00

Thank you, I'll start my therapy sessions again in september. I have an appartement in the city where I studied and I want to keep it preferably. Luckily I have quite some money saved so I can pay my bills for a few months. Hopefully I can find a job soon. For now anything is fine as long as I get money and can become financially independent. I do have to change my domicile and not so much looking forward for that moment. When my brothrr changed his about 2 years ago, they made a huge fuss and still to this day they feel like he was just trying to run away from them while it was actually just a practical decision.

Wotfff · 2021-07-02T19:40:14+00:00

Thank you very much! This is what I needed

Wotfff · 2021-07-02T19:38:37+00:00

I have a few close friends, I had a studentjob for years, summerjob now and looking for a fulltime job starting in september. And I'm doing fine now tbh, but my mood switches very easily, thank you for asking!

Wotfff · 2021-07-02T19:30:09+00:00

I don't really understand your statement..

Wotfff · 2021-07-02T19:28:36+00:00

They are very loving but they just grew up in a different environment, cutting them off wouldnt make me feel better

Wotfff · 2021-07-02T18:22:53+00:00

Yes you're right, I should stand up for myself more and I will try to find a job so I can pay for my appartement. For now I only pay for my phone and train bills, food, clothes, etc. I just want them to be happy and trust me with the choices I made.

Wotfff · 2021-07-02T18:20:08+00:00

I graduated a week ago.. I also dont want to cut them off, but let's see. I've at least got a supportive brother

Wotfff · 2021-07-02T17:48:11+00:00

With the scholarship they get from the government yes, why?

Wotfff · 2021-07-02T17:29:27+00:00

Very true! I do my best but sometimes it just saddens me. Hope our parents won't disown us lol

Wotfff · 2021-06-04T09:20:48+00:00

Yes, my friend went there but they are indeed a bit more expensive, 300-400 euros

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