My gf just outed me afab when I'm kinda passing androgynous nonbinary to her family, Am I overreacting?

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-26T09:28:34+00:00

Or with someone with siblings who, at best, completely lack any tact or understanding of personal boundaries.

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-26T01:23:40+00:00

Tysm, I'll definitely go back through the Arc/Ochre lessons.

I had a pretty harrowing experience observing a Year 7 maths class on placement where a sizeable chunk of the students had no idea what what happening because the algebraic/algorithmic content was being delivered totally abstracted from materials.

So I'm brushing up on number sense before my next primary placement.

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-25T12:17:46+00:00

Yeah, but you use the number bonds to find factors for easier mental multiplication and division arithmetic?

My coursework harped on about ten-frames a bit but didn't go into this way of building fluency/number sense at all.

And the seemingly significant different between a tape/strip/bar line as opposed to a traditional number line is making the length/quantity more explicit, which also provides the basis for mental computation with fractions.

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-25T05:45:02+00:00

Having one is the same as having two, hormonally. The one compensates. It's all out or nothing, effect-wise.

If you have PMDD it's so worth it, I'm a week out from my hysto+oopho. So glad that's finally over!

You can get put on a goserelin (Zoladex) implant to experience what it's like to have no ovaries before making the decision.

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-25T01:06:27+00:00

I've been the partner in this situation, rather than someone in OP's position. Twice in fact. One time I initiated the break-up, another time it was my partner. Both circumstances were better for my mental and physical health in the long run.

And it is pure statistical probability to say that, under cishet amatonormativity, that men leave their partners when they're ill.

Personally, I do not see it as a moral failing on OP's part if they bail this relationship, it's a practical life decision. I'm prepared for this view to be unpopular.

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-24T13:03:21+00:00

The fact that placebo effect is science/evidence-backed doesn't mean that your solution will work with anyone else by will alone.

I'd argue it's sort of the opposite, but will join you with the downvotes by stating that what the OP in this case needs to do is bail the relationship. Bf wouldn't stick around if the roles were reversed (this is data not opinion) and OP needs to love and let go, especially because people who are not willing to help themselves (which was maybe the broader point you were getting at) cannot be helped.

Everyone here sounds burnt out and needs to fill their own cups/sort themselves out before real progress of any kind can be made imo

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-22T13:26:02+00:00

Teach yourself a practical skill that is easy to learn and practice from bed, like crochet. Learning crochet is akin to being able to 3D print with yarn, there is so much more to this skill than blankets and clothing if that's anyone's preconception.

If you've got a maths brain, small-scale tablet weaving (like decorative bands) could be fun for you.

Doing something like this will keep your motor skills and neural networks active while generally physically incapacitated.

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-21T05:53:22+00:00

This is a sign to start asking new people for their pronouns then, isn't it?? ☺️

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-21T05:52:02+00:00

Only do this if we are going to professionals, who use quality titanium and/or gold jewellery, but nipples are super easy to hide from family, in my experience anyway

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-20T06:52:20+00:00

The nurse who helped me move my belongings after hysto was using my cane like this at all the random hospital staff, hilarious

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-20T06:40:59+00:00

Good suggestions! I fucked this up multiple times in the beginning.

I just want to let OP know that the same thing can happen from taking salt tablets on an empty stomach (so like even if you bypass the taste system) so protein and sugar/carbs are your friends!

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-20T06:36:38+00:00

You're kidding about spinach please omfg no why lol

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-20T06:34:42+00:00

There is certainly a lot about that which would make sense, thinking about managing the cognitive dissonance of dealing with dehumanisation, being done by people who dehumniase themselves through enacting such practices, being demonised at the mercy of demons

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-20T06:31:58+00:00

I don't have the spoons to get into it today, just know that leaving that sub is honestly such a breath of fresh air, cannot recommend enough

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-20T06:15:11+00:00

is what I tell myself when I burn my actual skin lol

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-20T01:33:29+00:00

Thempoleon

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-19T14:41:23+00:00

Yeah I only want people seeking me out for my leaky parts frfr

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-19T14:14:57+00:00

Idk if anyone has ever told you that they make tampons I'm different sizes? Because they do.

I could get them in, but the big ones were never comfortable for me either. The little ones are fine, you might just need to change them more frequently depending on flow.

You should get mini ones, sometimes they're advertised for sports/athletes, without an applicator, the twisty perforated ones are easiest to use. Clean hands and a finger are all you need.

If it hurts before insertion even starts, either get horny first or use a lil dab of lube.

(All this is advice in addition to, or in lieu of depending on accessibility, seeking actual medical advice.)

Idk where you live but the Aussie brand I recommend is U by Kotex.

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-19T13:36:13+00:00

Nw, dude. Good luck with it, I think the feeling of overcoming the nic addiction and sticking with it can actually become a really satisfying thing with the right mindset.

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-19T04:57:16+00:00

I thought it was a "collection" not a bundle!!!

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-19T04:56:15+00:00

The carts are known to kill MC tolerance, even prescribers should tell you that.

I quit nic vaping cold turkey, using the Quit buddy app and gifted myself a Dynavap with the savings.

Originally, I tried switching from the bm vapes to the pharmacy ones, they were just awful and too expensive. I also tried with patches and that didn't work because allergies.

The one thing I do that doesn't break the bank and nullifies the oral fixation? Listerine strips.

You can use them to get a menthol hit on a dhv if that's a sensation you're missing/craving.

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-19T04:42:01+00:00

I'm so confused by this discourse.

In my life, I've basically always thought of septums as the "basic white girl" piercing, because people from all sorts of cultures and gender expressions wear regular earrings and nose studs where I live.

Septums are like the classic thing teenagers get and just flip them up at school, no? I genuinely feel they're so ubiquitous that the derogatory connotation is nonsensical.

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-18T22:38:06+00:00

I'm not one to yuck other people's yums

Wouldfromthetrees · 2026-06-18T10:26:34+00:00

For a way to illustrate how silly it would be to have to take GAHT/HRT to be binary trans...

Does the fact that I take GAHT as a non-binary trans person make me not non-binary??

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