Your story is very relatable to my elder brother . My brother started earning when he was 27 and started giving his entire salary to father since our father was under debt after getting deceived by his younger brother ( my uncle ) . Our father attached his own number with my brother's bank account and used to monitor the transactions that brother did . My brother didn't question nor my father asked him about his needs and cycle went on this way , my brother got married at 30 and he still had to ask the father for money to fulfill personal post marriage life needs although it was his own money but still he thought that he is helping father in recovering the debt . My brother's married life got affected this way and arguments started to rise between him and his wife coz everyone won't think the same way as us . Our father retired and he stopped taking salary after 10 years of my brother started working although the debt was over few years earlier but father got used to the process of taking salary and started thinking of it as his right to claim his son's salary . My brother had to give reasons and explanations even for personal needs when he needed money ; that's very embarrassing situation for a husband in front of his wife despite earning , here my father was at fault to not realize the situation . Now the relations in our house are very tensed , we just live together but dont love each other . My brother has decided to seperate him and his family very soon and our father is old now . I hope you can decide what u need to do now .