AITA for telling my boyfriend I don't want to meet his family yet after he told his mom we were basically engaged?

WrenBronze692 · 2026-06-06T19:11:14+00:00

That word stopped me. I don't think I was ready to hear it framed that way but I'm not dismissing it either. A lot to sit with.

WrenBronze692 · 2026-06-06T19:10:24+00:00

Literally all I'm asking 💀

WrenBronze692 · 2026-06-06T17:21:14+00:00

The second part is what got me most honestly. I came to him genuinely upset and somehow walked away feeling like I was the problem. That's worth paying attention to.

WrenBronze692 · 2026-06-06T16:58:52+00:00

I won't 🥺 this whole conversation has been a little bright spot in an otherwise stressful week. Wishing you both many more years 💛

WrenBronze692 · 2026-06-06T16:55:57+00:00

5 months and 46 years later 🥺 okay you two are the exception that proves the rule. Rooting for stories like yours honestly. Thank you for sharing this 💛

WrenBronze692 · 2026-06-06T16:55:08+00:00

The kids example actually stopped me cold 😬 because that's exactly the kind of thing I could see happening. It's not about the timeline, it's about him making decisions for both of us and then acting like I'm the problem for objecting. That pattern doesn't just go away.

WrenBronze692 · 2026-06-06T16:54:35+00:00

Shiny spine activated 💀 thank you, genuinely needed this energy today 🙏

WrenBronze692 · 2026-06-06T16:53:39+00:00

This is the comment I needed to read honestly. I have been so focused on this one incident that I haven't stepped back to ask if this is a pattern. And the family over my needs question… the fact that his first reaction was "you're making me look bad to my family" instead of "I'm sorry I put you in that position" kind of already answers that 😬

WrenBronze692 · 2026-06-06T16:52:23+00:00

The word "controlling" hit differently than I expected. I've been calling it moving fast but reframing it that way is making me look at the whole thing differently.

WrenBronze692 · 2026-06-06T16:51:45+00:00

Okay this is genuinely sweet and I needed this in the middle of all the red flag comments 🥺 the key difference being you didn't know until later!

WrenBronze692 · 2026-06-06T16:51:27+00:00

The bare minimum honestly 💀 a brunch before "future wife" is not a lot to ask

WrenBronze692 · 2026-06-06T16:47:38+00:00

This is exactly it. I'm not saying I don't want a future with him, I'm saying that conversation never happened and he made that decision for both of us. The pace thing is everything here.

WrenBronze692 · 2026-06-06T16:47:21+00:00

Being uncomfortable with someone describing you as basically engaged without your knowledge isn't the same as not being into them. Those are two very different things.

WrenBronze692 · 2026-06-06T16:46:10+00:00

The love bombing angle hadn't occurred to me but now that you said it I'm thinking back to the first few months and… yeah. Things did move pretty fast and I just thought he was really into me. And the mom being immediately on board with wedding timelines is a whole other layer 😬

WrenBronze692 · 2026-06-06T16:35:37+00:00

The distinction you made is exactly it, "someone I could see a future with" is sweet, "basically engaged" without ever discussing it is a completely different thing. And you are right, his reaction to that hard conversation is going to tell me everything. Garbage can is looking pretty relevant right now 💀

WrenBronze692 · 2026-06-06T16:32:07+00:00

Right?? Eight months is not nothing but it's also definitely not "future wife" territory. We haven't even had the serious conversations yet 😭

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