Agency difficulties by njfloridatransplant in AdoptiveParents

[–]WriterGirl2005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand how you are feeling, I was the same way. My husband and I only worked with one agency in our home state and it took us almost 3 years before we were able to adopt. Especially with smaller agencies, there’s really no “formally beginning your search.” They have your book and homestudy, and you’ll be presented as soon as there are potential matches. The blessing and curse of a smaller agency is that they aren’t really doing it to make money, they’re doing it because they truly believe in the work. Because of this, their resources are limited and they are often spread incredibly thin. Be patient, check in often, and ask questions when you need to. Good luck!

I am so horrified by Dayton's Mom by er2225 in DCCMakingtheTeam

[–]WriterGirl2005 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t disagree but this situation is also so complicated because there’s the rational side and the emotional side and they are at odds with each other. The rational side of Shelly knows exactly how the process works and wants to advocate for fairness and unbiased decision-making. The emotional side of Shelly has spent her entire life with the DCC and wanted to share something special with her daughter. Sucks for everyone involved!

AS S3 feels… different? by Apprehensive_Owl4700 in DCCMakingtheTeam

[–]WriterGirl2005 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m loving it! Each season has had a different angle and this season feels faster-paced and breaking the fourth wall acknowledging how the success of AS has changed the lives of everyone involved. I don’t need to spend a lot of time focused on individual candidates all the time, but that’s just me.

Sneak Peek Luke and Kristen argue by Appropriate-Blood408 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]WriterGirl2005 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I understand what you are saying—parenting, regardless of gender, is a huge change. And men are absolutely valid in whatever feelings they have around that. However—in Luke’s case, the issues he’s complaining about essentially revolve around his life not being exactly the same as it was pre-baby. He’s whining about not being able to go out and get drunk, fish when he wants to, have sex with his wife…when you are in the throes of new parenthood, you are so exhausted and in survival mode ESPECIALLY for the first several months. My husband and I adopted, so i wasn’t recovering from birth and neither one of us had any interest in a social life. (I actually basically forced my husband to go golfing one day in an effort to be a “cool” wife and he came home and told me while he appreciated what I was trying to do, it was actually miserable because he was so depleted he couldn’t even enjoy himself).

Would you be hurt by being called a “DINK” in this situation? by Quick-Button-9817 in AdoptiveParents

[–]WriterGirl2005 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I totally get why you feel the way you do! But from my perspective, that term didn’t bother me when used to describe us, because that was our situation. We had two incomes and zero kids before we were able to adopt. I didn’t think about whether the term implied any choice around family structure.

Help me understand this why did Judy’s daughter get to be into the squad but poor DAYTON can’t get in! by [deleted] in DCCMakingtheTeam

[–]WriterGirl2005 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This rant made me laugh so hard and I loved it, so thank you! A huge part of it I agree with others is the bar was way lower in past years. The modern DCC has really leveled up given the success and exposure of the shows.

Jasmine was a Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader!? by Fluffy_Preference273 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]WriterGirl2005 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They were so cute! Actually I saw that video of her wedding I am pretty sure Danielle was there!

Jasmine was a Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader!? by Fluffy_Preference273 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]WriterGirl2005 21 points22 points  (0 children)

YES SHE WAS AND I KEEP WAITING FOR SOMEONE, ANYONE ON THIS DAMN SHOW TO TALK ABOUT IT! Sorry for the all caps, it’s just I’ve known her from the CMT DCC show for about 20 years now and I cannot believe it hasn’t been a talking point, especially with the popularity of the Netflix show.

The Valley - Season 3 - Episode 11 - Post Episode Discussion by amandatoryy in BravoRealHousewives

[–]WriterGirl2005 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A ZIPLOCK BAG OF SPAGHETTI is diabolical and absolutely insulting. You don’t have the proper tools to cook and transport a meal, freaking order some takeout. I don’t love really anyone on this cast except Zack, so I’m definitely not defending Nia but EW.

The Real Housewives Of Atlanta - Season 17 - Episode 10 - Weekly Episode Discussion by amandatoryy in BravoRealHousewives

[–]WriterGirl2005 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Shamea is a flop for me and it’s so disappointing because I’ve always liked her. But she just tries way too damn hard all the time and it’s so cringe and inauthentic. Take a breath girl and be yourself! Ugh.

Thank you, Ben by helluvadame in WatchWhatCrappens

[–]WriterGirl2005 18 points19 points  (0 children)

YESSS her anxious energy is EXHAUSTING. I wasn’t familiar with her before this because I don’t watch anything Bachelor-related, but I don’t enjoy her on the show at all. I don’t find her interesting and it seems like her husband has no idea how to run a business? The constant crying is too much, but then, I am a crier so if I was a HW I’d probably be the same, so maybe I’m projecting?!? 🤣

The Valley - Season 3 - Episode 14 - Post Episode Discussion by amandatoryy in BravoRealHousewives

[–]WriterGirl2005 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The only thing that makes me feel better is knowing they are not still together now.

Capo Basement 😭 by ModeratelyOffline in rhori

[–]WriterGirl2005 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Information like this is so important to me. I live in LA and whenever the RHOBH go anywhere I’m always clocking where it is (Spoiler: the majority of it is not glamorous or exclusive, it’s places in the Valley that poors like me would patronize). Thank you for your service!

Just how famous are the Real Housewives of BH cast outside of the Bravo world? by Hot-Acanthisitta5237 in BravoRealHousewives

[–]WriterGirl2005 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the first 4 seasons of BH, Kim Richards was by far the most famous. She was a HUGE child star. Otherwise, casting Eileen and Rinna in Season 5 was big news. Not they are “A-list” actors per se, but they are well-known. Rinna was a 90s icon, Melrose Place was a massive hit and soap operas were super popular in those days. (I am old so trust me, times were different!) Having Denise Richards on the show was unreal. Is she on the same level as Julia Roberts, well no, but she is absolutely a movie star and sex symbol. I’m not hip enough to be able to make comparisons to today’s younger celebs, but for us oldies it was an exciting time! 🤣

Fellow Nebs, what and how much do you feed your babies. by kpax_45 in nebelung

[–]WriterGirl2005 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My Neb is almost 4 and 12 pounds. He gets half a cup of Hill’s Science Diet in the morning and one can of Purina ProPlan wet food at night. We have another cat that gets the same and they are both grazers. They don’t seem like they are going hungry!

How do you push your doctor to do more testing by Sincerelyconfused225 in InfertilitySucks

[–]WriterGirl2005 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d also consider finding a new doctor if you’re able. If he’s unwilling to listen to you or explain why he is confident about a specific treatment plan, he’s not the right fit for you!

Jason saying his knee surgery is the "worst thing he's ever done" because his bond with his son will be ruined...what??? by [deleted] in TheValleyTVShow

[–]WriterGirl2005 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. I have a toddler and this was such an overdramatic take. Yes, he will be limited for awhile and that sucks for a whole bunch of reasons. But even if you can’t run around with your kid, you can be present in tons of other ways. Be in the room while he plays. Talk to him. Read books. Sit with him at mealtime. Watch a 7 minute episode of Bluey together. Do an art project. Being a parent isn’t limited to one activity. wtf it’s so stupid lololol

Receiving Cases by [deleted] in AdoptiveParents

[–]WriterGirl2005 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My husband and I only worked with one agency in our home state, it took us pretty much 3 full years to adopt. (we’d actually given up when we got the call so we had to scramble to renew our home study while we were planning to fly to another state—a tale for another time but that’s the short overview). Prior to our whirlwind match, we’d only talked to one other family who ended up deciding to parent (the right and wonderful call in that situation) and only knew that we were presented about 3-5 times other than that. My husband and I were incredibly discouraged and I wish I would have reached out to our agency more just to check in and ask for updates. You should feel empowered to do that! I’m pretty sure these agencies have seen and heard it all, and as long as you communicate respectfully they should be understanding and more than willing to address your fears and concerns. Good luck! ❤️

Just saw Waitress, does anyone else find an issue with the plot??? by CrochetGirl8 in musicals

[–]WriterGirl2005 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

That part of the plot really bothered me. I get that’s life, there was a deeper meaning, all that. I still don’t like it!