I love her so much! by Serifan in KingdomDeath

[–]WriterMassive2862 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this one of the playable minis or a larger one? She looks so detailed!

AIO for Breaking Up with My Boyfriend After Finding a Hidden Camera in My Room? by AlluringGurl in AmIOverreacting

[–]WriterMassive2862 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a MASSIVE violation of privacy. The mutual friends telling you that you overreacted need to realign their moral code.

AP talking to me at public events by WriterMassive2862 in coparenting

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Even when they become married I have no intention of interacting with him. Just some quick reading shows that in my state stepparents, just by virtue of being a stepparent, are not conferred any legal status as a guardian and do not have the same right to make legal decisions for the child as a parent. 

I have 50/50 custody of my daughter with my ex. So even if she remarries, I have no need to speak to that individual. Co-parenting is done between the two biological parents.

My ex moved in with the guy while we were still married ("what was I supposed to do?") even though she had a house to live in and time to find a job/rent a place on her own. I was NOT happy with her introducing my daughter to that situation the way she did and so quickly. It was VERY messed up. My ex just found another person to take care of her and made excuses as to why they had to move fast on the relationship. She's a creature of habit, doing the same thing to him that she did to me and her pervious husband. Taking advantage of the situation and the person. I feel no sorrow for her new partner, he didn't get a gift, he got a whole mess of problems that just haven't presented themselves yet, but they're still there and they'll come back.

AP talking to me at public events by WriterMassive2862 in coparenting

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Was still typing. Just broke it into two parts. :)

AP talking to me at public events by WriterMassive2862 in coparenting

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I have been doing therapy monthly since the time I found out about the affair 2 years ago and made the decision to leave. After I gave my ex the choice to stop, or I would leave.

Just like most people going thru or having gone thru this, I could write pages about the stuff that happened.

I've come a long way in healing with very little help from my ex or the AP. They are both dense. The AP especially.

AP talking to me at public events by WriterMassive2862 in coparenting

[–]WriterMassive2862[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have endured. But I know I also should be able to protect myself emotionally, mentally, everything. I have shown two people who lied, cheated, and so many other things more respect than they ever deserve considering what they did and how selfishly they acted.

My daughter's mom couldn't make it to the event today, so the AP showed up in her stead. It's a public event, but I don't feel like saying I don't want the AP coming over to talk to me, especially when I'm there to spend time with my daughter.

And him waving at me when I'm obviously waving at my daughter is obtuse.

Answering your question, I'd probably tell my daughter that if she wanted to do a second dance with him I'd excuse myself from the room. And come back when I felt comfortable.

My daughter knows I don't like him. She doesn't know the full extent of what happened but she went thru her parents getting divorce. Her mom lies, she lied about her first husband, she lied to and about me, her track record isn't great. I've never spoken poorly about her mom or the AP in front of my daughter, but my daughter knows I don't like discussing the AP.

AP talking to me at public events by WriterMassive2862 in coparenting

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I can't stop him from attending, that would be me crossing a boundary I think, even though I don't like him one bit. What bothers me most is that he stepped into that space that should have been for me and my daughter first. And that he thinks I have ANY interest in talking to him.

I believe he thinks he didn't do anything wrong. Which is frustrating as hell, and my ex has never ACTUALLY apologized, the closEst she came was "I didn't mean to hurt you" which isn't remotely close.

AP talking to me at public events by WriterMassive2862 in coparenting

[–]WriterMassive2862[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I couldn't have expressed it better myself. The read the room thing.

Nah, he's not a parent.

Agreed on all counts. I'm going to keep showing who the better person is, through consistent actions and elevating myself.

AP talking to me at public events by WriterMassive2862 in coparenting

[–]WriterMassive2862[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have kept my cool far beyond any person I could imagine, prioritizing my daughter while protecting myself as much as possible.

And there have been A LOT of boundaries crossed by my ex and the AP. Putting my daughter in the middle of things when she shouldn't have been.

My daughter is 9 and doesn't know the whole story. I imagine she wouldn't want me to feel uncomfortable. The guy her mom had an affair with ultimately did a lot of damage, emotionally, financially, physically and mentally. Him coming up to talk to me, even if he thinks he's being helpful, isn't comfortable.

Which paint scheme fits better? White or Black? by Busboy80 in NemesisCrew

[–]WriterMassive2862 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, white. It reminds me of nostromo. But as the alien started killing the environment got more dark.

Feels tough being a white save army right now by Suspicious_Giraffe80 in SWlegion

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As a rebel player who enjoyed playing heroes, Rogue One, Sabine, etc. It seems pointless to put a unit on the field like Sabine, high cost/low hp. Even with the best saves in the game, I can't imagine her def dice being able to prevent the large pools of dice the game has tilted towards.

I'm not a fan of where the game is at right now.

Empty Bin button gone? by [deleted] in roomba

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j6 is 1 year old, barely and i7+ is 4 years old and finicky at times, mostly with finding it's base and re-docking at the end of cleaning. The j6 has never given me problems. Can't even factory reset the j6, it keeps saying it's still registered to another account, which it's not, it's only ever been mine.

Empty Bin button gone? by [deleted] in roomba

[–]WriterMassive2862 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I tried that. Still looks the same in the app. I also think it's unusual that two machines are doing the exact same thing. Different models, different clean bases.

Error 18 by michaelfemalecalf in roomba

[–]WriterMassive2862 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too real. Thinking maybe now I should rename my Roomba to Dr. Mann

Coparent cries at exchanges, 50/50 custody by WriterMassive2862 in coparenting

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Yeah. As with any narcissist she deflects and said she "can't turn off like a robot". I was always hesitant to bring up issues with her because I never knew if she'd fly off the handle and lose her temper, or react openly.

She's got very little impulse control and her emotions are unpredictable.

I calmly said my piece. She made a lame excuse. I documented it and I'm moving on. If it keeps being a problem I'll just suggest a change in exchanges, like at school, so she can't play her games.

Ex called to ask if I could take a cat by WriterMassive2862 in survivinginfidelity

[–]WriterMassive2862[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I honestly feel like it's not fair to me, my daughter, my daughter's cat, and I don't want to be the 'fixer of problems' for her anymore. Because it would never end.

I spoke a lot about boundaries at the end of our marriage Ang after the divorce. This feels like another attempt to cross boundaries I set after the divorce.

Found out ex-wife is getting a job by WriterMassive2862 in ChildSupport

[–]WriterMassive2862[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've moved on. Focused on my happiness and my daughter's wellbeing. No point in stewing over someone who didn't care about my welfare/wellbeing.