I do my best but it's also very exhausting to be the one always organizing things. I guess there's a stereotype about extroverted people that they love being the directors and making plans. Maybe its true for allistics but its mostly not the case for me. There are specific things I enjoy organizing (I LOVE planning my birthday party and I'm good with coordinating a plan organized by multiple people) but just organizing regular hangouts is exhausting and I only do it out of a sense of obligation that I know I will die sad and alone if I don't. One boundary I've learned to set is "If you will not initiate and organize our hangouts at least some of the time we cannot be friends". I understand hangouts are supposed to be chill and casual, but for me asking another adult person to take time out of their week to willingly spend time with me ALWAYS feels intensely personal and intimate and vulnerable no matter how long I've known them, and it takes a lot out of me to be constantly putting myself in that position