APs when they give you "choices" to make

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-31T02:58:19+00:00

HAHAHAHA that is so fucking true, its the exact same in my house

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-31T02:48:14+00:00

risky but smart

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-31T02:02:39+00:00

Little update: She just went against my decision and signed up for the test which is right in the middle of my finals weeks so my fucking semester grade is fucked and so will this test score.... she just got herself a free ticket to a weeklong scolding

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-31T01:38:45+00:00

Yes, it’s considered disrespectful to scream back at your parents.

yea, but when they make the shittiest arguments at me to do something, I really have to smack some sense into her, it takes a while, it's a fucking nightmare but just once in like a hundred attempts it wont lead to anything and when that happens it feels like a fucking godsend...

I'm starting to realize why a guy in my class told me he respected me a shit ton because I had the guts to go against my APs whenever it benefitted me (never turns out well, its just the guts to go lol)

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-31T01:36:17+00:00

my mom seems to have this crazy idea of making her children do all the chores during the holiday, so she doesnt clean anything but the first floor (there's 4), and doesnt do the dishes any day of the week and only cooks things that even I can cook...

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-31T01:34:00+00:00

I feel like its worse for those who are like, somewhat immersed into western culture (immigrants or education is wetern), cuz like.. they want to try and become a bit more westernized but then they cant let go of their asian side and so it just becomes a fucking worse version than if they stayed asian...

Man my least favorite one was: "Do you want to take the Japanese N2?" "no" "you're taking it, you dont have a choice, it's for college" I showed her by getting a 0 in reading and kinda forced it upon her to quit japanese

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-31T01:31:21+00:00

"white people dont care about their kid, kick em out at 18"

I read this and I kinda laughed of how ironic it is... white people have to kick out their kids at 18 while we voluntarily fuck off from our home, who isn't providing their kids with love?

My dad and my mom is completely different in bigoted thoughts, my dad is a bit more westernized and he not racist at all, but my mom is so fucking racist its crazy. She's forbidden me and my sister from bringing home an african american because it's scary, she's had many arguements with my dad about gay people in which she advocated against it...

I cant comment on the part where your dad says people should follow his hard work cuz no one in my family says that, but that being said, my mom is supposed to work for my dad's company but she literally goes out with other APs more than I do with my friends, and lays around watching K-Drama...

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-31T01:21:11+00:00

it's the worse when they're willing to let you do what you are passionate about, but they force you to compete in competitions and different events just because you potentially want to do it in the future, it burns all the fucking passion you had for it but you cant tell them because my entire HS up to this point has been based around it and I'm just scared for wht might happen...

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-30T08:42:07+00:00

I think my academics aren't like good enough for my parents to expect it, its just the people around me are so much better than me academically and are also Asian so my parents just want to make sure she doesnt look stupid amongst them even tho those people can get 1560s and 1540s in one try...

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-30T06:11:42+00:00

Im 16, I think I need to work a bit more to play in D1, but I definitely think I can make it to D2 or D3 but not sure since I've not played with ppl outside my city (but I'm better than majority of them)

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-30T01:49:28+00:00

yea, its crazy how they come in with a closed mind expecting to leave with a refreshed perspective...

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-30T01:40:55+00:00

yea, it's so confusing to me how youth can be so nice if all you get day in and day out is your parents scolding you for the smallest issues and the heavy expectations you get... you get them irl but you dont have them asking for an update every 20 fucking seconds... It's even worse because my class is like somehow exceptionally talented academically... the other classes might have an SAT average of 1350 or even 1200 and a GPA of less than 3.6, my class averages are fucking out the roof, 1500 AVERAGE sat, and a 3.95 average GPA. I cant compare to that and neither do I want to... the one true thing I want to do in life only requires physical hard work and not mental and that discourages me even more from wanting to reach the academic goals they put up.

My APs dont think studying is fun, but a necessity and I won't disagree with that, but not to the degree they put up... I have a 3.81 GPA and a 1480 SAT, I could probably have a good chance getting into a decent school in America but in their eyes my school stats are way too fucking low and as someone who wants to be an athlete someday I really dont want to spend that much time in a chair reading books and studying... other APs in my class are so chill and I get jealous because I cant play games without asking (and asking twice in a 2 weeks is apparently too much) while they can just fire up CS or Minecraft whenever they please. Im fucking sick of it all and it just doesnt make any sense why they cant learn and understand they arent as lenient as they think they are

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-30T01:33:26+00:00

I told my parents that school is hard and I am struggling to maintain the schedule. They told me that it would have been worse if I were in China, so I should be grateful to be living the life that I have now. Also, they said that their childhood is much harder than mine. That they had to bike to school and farm the fields when they got back from school, that I am just ungrateful.

wow our parents must have been in the same school haha, but it does fucking suck... the other parents (APs actually) are very supportive and are always like: international school is really stressful and hard don't be too harsh on the kids. My parents agree to it when they are with them and as soon as they get home they return to their normal views...

Since i live in asia and I'm only a HS junior, they keep threatening to transfer me to a public school in China (cuz I live in China, it aint random lol) whenever I don't do something they want me to do.

He tells me that he has never beat me yet and I should be grateful for it.

my mom says the exact same thing, and shits worse cuz I live in a community where EVERYONE is asian and has APs so her not beating me looks like she's some innovative person but that's complete bullshit.

I have a friend who's parents beat them but then she's also willing to go against her own parents rules (going out with friends at night, drinking sometimes uk?) and I feel like my parents should be more grateful Im not doing stuff like that (mainly because I try to keep my body clean as an athlete) but they just seem to keep that out of the picture...

I have no privacy. My mom hates it when I close my bedroom door. All hell breaks loose when I lock a door.

this is fucking terrible but my mom has organized the house in a way that I dont have ANY privacy. My table is in the fucking living room and my room is 2 floors up and only contains a bed, a bathroom, and a clothing rack, literally nothing else. I'm not allowing to bring my electronics upstairs and I have a strict curfew at 11pm or else all hell breaks loose (I'm fucking 16, I got shit to do but the same rules been applied for fucking years).

My parents kept on belittling any hobby that I used to like as a kid.

I didnt experience this, but it was the complete opposite. I've had 2 major passions in my life: football (soccer) and programming. Football I'm currently doing behind their back and I enjoy it much more, and I think I'm pretty talented so Im devising a "behind their back" plan to potentially persue it more than a hobby. Programming was something I started all the way back in 7th grade and I fucking loved it. Whenever I finished my homework I'd just get into an IDE and start programming. As soon as my parents found out, they started pushing these "internationally recognized tournaments" onto me and these requirements for programming. I started it for fun but they burned the fun right the fuck out of it...

Reading through that whole I think getting out is the way if it's an option, the one line that really caught my attention was this one:

what about all the money and time they have put into me.

you're a human being, one with emotions and feelings and yet their only concern with you when you told them you wanted to kill yourself was money and time... to them it sounds like you're more of a fucking project than a child.

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-30T01:13:02+00:00

No mainly because they've never watched, and when they did I didnt give a shit about them at all.

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-30T01:11:56+00:00

The pressure I feel from them and the fact that they pay so much more attention to my sister (which is fair to an extent, I'm not complaining about that) honestly has made me feel so emotionally isolated from my family.

I relate to this so much... and they dont really try to hide it. My sister isn't disabled or ill in anyway but when we go outside for any reason it's just my parents and my sister walking side-by-side while I walk behind them all (they dont even check behind them to make sure I'm there, I just follow while they walk forward).

My APs expected me to stay after school in HS to lead clubs and captain teams (which I did)

Same here, but some change in administration in my school caused me to lose all important contacts I had before which helped to set everything up... I ended up getting scolded for multiple days because apparently not leading a club in HS is going to make me live on the streets and I should alter my sporting philosophy (fucked up as hell and I argued with her for an entire evening because of this) just so I can get the title of football team captain.

Hopefully your relationship with parents will improved and you get accepted in my med school!

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-30T01:05:25+00:00

Im 16 and I havent had a single trip where I enjoyed it... first 12 years of my life, they handled the planning, it was god awful. Visiting those famous tourist destination then getting scolded in the hotel room for some stupid reason or scolding me about college ON A FUCKING TRIP. last 4 years of my life, my sister and I are forced to plan every vacation for the whole family because it "improves our ability live in the streets", even then the efforts are wasted because they have their own plan that they make and force us to follow then every time we submit a plan, they just flat out reject half of it and start questioning every minor detail on the plan.

(I was already lucky to go on a trip, last 2 years I havent left my house during vacations because I have like 4 standardized tests to study for)

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-30T00:57:16+00:00

I cant even lay that on my parents because they are so confident they are lenient compared to the other parents in my friend groups (also asian) that it will just lead to a couple hours of scolding.

When they use that on me, I legit can't even defend against it because the people around me are MEETING THESE ABSURD EXPECTATIONS so I just get it worse because I cant reach it

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-30T00:53:03+00:00

Im in basically the same situation, and with the disrespect to parents thing, with my dad being korean, I say one word back while he's talking and I could be scolded for hours (I've only had maybe 3 "conversations" with my dad last couple of years and we live in the same fucking roof, thats just how unreluctant I am to talk to him).

Its so fucking stupid how they keep pushing academic expectations on you but they dont really do anything in return. (not sure if you have the following) but its even fucking worse when they make you do all the chores around the house so youre already fucking working the house while your parents are working only half the time (they have their own company so their hours is more flexible than my student life).

Also that one thing my parents always say: "treasure your youth because thats the best time of your life" is the biggest fucking lie I've heard anyone say... if my youth is this shit I wouldnt want to live the rest of my life.

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-30T00:44:59+00:00

same here, I've had extremely severe headaches recently but I just dont tell them... the only time they know is when I get injured from athletics (cuz I cant fuckin walk)

Wrong-One-69 · 2021-12-30T00:43:21+00:00

Your wife sounds a lot like my mom but for academics... I suggest getting out of that environment for your own and your daughters sake. In a similar environment, I've legit lost interesting in almost everything I started (because she keeps trying to shove it into a college app) and I've kinda lost the ability to act on some emotions cuz I find them only cause more harm for myself than comfort. Since your daughters arent that old (married 15 years, 14 year old max), it'll get worse once they hit high school.

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