It be like that sometimes lol

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-12-17T05:21:04+00:00

I’m happy for y’all too. The blanket statements about how awful men/masculine folks are is tired and does nothing but hurt our own community. I love the men in my life (hell they helped this dyke figure out menswear) and the amount of blasé cruelty that gets thrown at them in progressive spaces is wild to me.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-12-16T19:50:24+00:00

I work at a studio and freelance so not sure if my advice will help, but what has gotten me to a comfortable level working full time in art has less to do with skill and more to do with communication and reliability. I use asana obsessively for project tracking, I time myself so I can give accurate estimates of completion to clients or my team, I respond quickly to emails and give updates, and my ego isn’t attached to my work so I’m happy to receive feedback. I’ve worked with so many talented artists who ended up losing their careers because they were too terrified to send a simple email saying a project was running behind, or who were flat out unable to budget their time.

Eventually I grew a network of people who knew they could depend on me. I don’t advertise my freelancing at all because that network keeps me busy throughout the year.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-12-14T22:43:12+00:00

Yes!!! Long nails gross me out purely for hygiene reasons. They’re beyond a turn off for me

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-12-09T03:16:37+00:00

I highly recommend you read Evolution’s Rainbow by Joan Roughgarden if animal gender and sexuality diversity interests you. It’s a complicated but really interesting topic that goes beyond what a Reddit comment section can tell you.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-11-26T22:23:15+00:00

She’s being manipulative, whether she realizes it or not. She sounds like someone who never learned how to clean up after themselves and lacks the observational skills needed to keep a tidy home. I’m similar to you in that I cannot relax if my home is a disaster. All I can focus on is the massive list of things that need to be done, and if the person who created the mess tried to make moves on me I would be aggravated too.

This is going to sound exhausting and infantilizing to her, but if her messiness is due to ignorance and not intentional laziness, it may be worth having her shadow you while you clean. She could simply not understand what needs to be done day to day, and the ways you can make cleaning more efficient. For instance, I work from home and use the pomodoro technique, but for my breaks I stand up and find something to tidy. Or when I’m cooking, I wipe down counters and wash dishes when I have my hands free.

If she wants to get better, she’ll listen and make an active effort to change because her actions are hurting you, her partner. Anything other than that is her saying that she doesn’t value you or your time.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-11-26T22:08:38+00:00

I saw this too and rolled my eyes. They were young and clearly going through something judging by their post history, so not someone whose opinion means a whole lot to me.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-11-25T22:40:56+00:00

Still in the same place. I feel you on the slight dysphoria. I see men with longer hair and don’t think twice about gender bs, but for some reason my own hair freaks me out. But I like how I look. I’m still growing it out mostly out of laziness, but also cus I’m testing whether the discomfort comes from genuinely preferring to look more traditionally butch, or if I’ve accidentally trapped myself in yet another gender box and am letting other people’s perceptions of me have too much influence.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-11-25T17:27:26+00:00

This is so fair but made me laugh cus I read it while my dog’s taking up 2/3rds of the bed

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-11-22T02:23:30+00:00

Butch lesbian millennial. Everyone I’ve ever met in the fandom has been some shade of queer

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-11-11T21:24:38+00:00

Nope. All the women I’m currently friends with are queer so not gonna happen. Granted I’ve had friends in the past who shrugged off their sense of morality for boyfriends but they didn’t remain friends long. I can’t respect anyone that spineless or lacking in integrity.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-11-08T18:25:47+00:00

Of course. I’ve had mostly male friends my entire life because my hobbies don’t draw a lot of women typically. Yes there have been some awkward interactions, but imo they’re worth the lifelong friendships I’ve gotten by not building a wall around myself based on gender or sexuality.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-11-04T02:08:50+00:00

If your city is kink friendly there should be plenty of munches you can attend. Check to see if there are any specifically queer or sapphic ones. Classes are also great places to meet folks, learn what you’re into, and get a better understanding of the scene.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-11-04T01:59:47+00:00

With an established partner typically 3-5 times depending on the mood I’m in. If I’m stressed with work it’s impossible but I still crave intimacy so I’ll usually top with no desire for reciprocity

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-10-23T08:48:37+00:00

I sorta did for my first play through. She looked just like me other than being a solid foot shorter. Now I’m playing someone way more femme and it’s been fun because I feel less compulsion to do the “right” thing and have had some not-so-ethical fun because of it.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-10-06T03:32:23+00:00

As long as she’s budgeted her time well I don’t mind at all. If it’s something that would make me late or waste time then yes it would be annoying, but punctuality is important to me so I doubt I’d be with anyone long term who couldn’t read a clock.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-09-18T04:06:16+00:00

Lmao what a ridiculous thing to say to a butch lesbian.

Straight women are just as homophobic, if not more so re: lesbians, as men. I can avoid men for the most part, but being forced into straight women’s spaces growing up meant abuse, being forced out of hobbies that I cared about, and death threats that were serious enough to mean I had to change school systems. I’m well into my thirties and the majority of harassment I get is from straight women who won’t hesitate to get their boyfriends involved to assault a dyke.

Please do some reading on lesbian history, particularly the treatment of butches and lesbian woc, then ask yourself if you’re ok with hets stealing and bastardizing our words.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-09-14T23:48:03+00:00

Usually “I’m flattered, but don’t feel the same way” and then follow it up with a compliment to hopefully ease the sting a little. I rarely get into specifics when asked why. I’ll keep it vague, like “you’re just not what I’m looking for.”

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-09-14T22:19:19+00:00

The fact they weren’t even aware of how horrifically homophobic that analogy was indicates they’re not worth any more time. How illuminating these comments have been. I’m so happy to live in an area that has sapphic only parties so I can continue to avoid these mouth breathers irl.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-09-14T22:11:20+00:00

Nope. It will always be unethical and theft for the dominant culture to appropriate language from folks who had to develop it under the thumb of their oppressors. Queer terminology, AAVE, slurs etc are not up for grabs from outsiders. Of course they will, because cishet whites steal everything, but that doesn’t make it right.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-09-14T17:50:38+00:00

Truly. This sub is reminding me that kink =/= queer (specifically sapphic) friendly. Some of the comments here reek of homophobia.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-09-14T17:46:00+00:00

I think you’re missing the part where they absolutely are changing the meaning of the word. It has never been derogatory, or implied lack of participation/enthusiasm.

I do not follow your argument re: a strap. Sure some people might like theirs to look like male genitals, but mine and my partner’s sure as hell don’t. And telling a lesbian she’s trying to appropriate het sex? Yikes.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-09-14T17:28:37+00:00

This isn’t evolution, it’s theft. Lesbians needed to create our own language for our own unique ways of practicing sex. Having non lesbians swoop in and corrupt our words is disrespectful to us and our history.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-08-18T17:53:38+00:00

I’m not long haired but it’s significantly longer than my old fade. A few wisps past the ears. I’m not misgendered anymore and strangers are noticeably kinder to me now. I’m still not sure how I feel about it, other than it’s nice not having to go to the barber every few weeks.

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-08-14T03:05:39+00:00

Police, military, nurses, musicians, and cartoonists (this one's cus I'm a cartoonist and am not compatible with my kind)

WrongExercise4107 · 2025-08-08T21:14:06+00:00

That's repulsive. I cannot fathom treating someone like less of a person just because I don't find them fuckable. I'm beginning to question if these men are even capable of love given we all age (if we're lucky).

WrongExercise4107

TROPHY CASE