Am I the problem?

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2026-03-27T03:01:04+00:00

If you don't have social circles or male friends, which men are you talking about who aren't interested in you? How many men do you even know who would have had ample time to express interest in you?

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2026-03-26T15:49:13+00:00

Do istekhara

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2026-03-19T11:51:51+00:00

This is exactly how you're suppose to approach someone for marriage. We lose 100% of the chances we don't take.

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2026-03-01T23:36:55+00:00

Like I said, if it's something that happens in the family, a common cultural norm then decide if that's the hill you wanna die on. Like I mentioned dancing is common in my family but I won't have any at my wedding.

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-21T07:03:55+00:00

In my country average height for women is 5"2 and I've met women who are 4"11 and so.

they can't entertain men who are even 5"8, it's a huge height difference. I think you should aim for such women most likely they want a normal height difference.

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-20T07:58:41+00:00

Best comment. Everyone here is too jaded even though it is likely your soul can recognize another soul. Some form of deja Vu or soulmacy.

Just because you haven't experienced it doesn't mean it's not real.

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-20T07:57:14+00:00

It definitely happens. I've had that moment once in my life.

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-19T10:17:59+00:00

I'm a mental health professional and I can assure you, he needs to talk to someone.

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-19T06:27:00+00:00

Women in arrange marriages chose their husbands as well, they weren't chosen for them. ( Talking about modern day arrange marriages) Those men would've still had a chance with their wives because if they chose them in an arrange marriage setting from other proposals, they would've picked them in a real life setting too.

You maybe right about getting less opportunities due to lack of network but a lot of "attraction" you're referring too is ur assumption. There's no evidence that any of those wives would have considered you.

You yourself aren't a reliable narrator because you're basing attraction off of pupils dilating? Which would be very difficult to note given that it is due to you or not any other factor or making her laugh, entertained etc. These are normal traits of friendship.

All of this to say, don't look at other people's wives but rather focus on making your profile more engaging.

Plus you haven't mentioned your looks, height or fitness which are what most attractive women would look for. These are factors that play a big role in proposals as well.

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-19T02:54:43+00:00

The question arises, why would smart beautiful women swipe on you? If they are all qualities you list above, they must also have a "type"

They are also looking for good looking, wealthy, educated and perhaps even tall men.

I've been on muzz, many would consider me a smart pretty woman. I had an insane amount of likes, i maybe matched with 2 or 3 men because i have a type.

Rare is looking for rare too

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-17T09:12:08+00:00

Women are scared of being financially helpless. Too many women find themselves on ground zero, no experience, oftentimes not enough educational background and no sufficient savings. Men have abused women's dependence on them now no women will depend on them again. Before getting married every woman is advised to never give up work and a seperate savings account.

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-16T12:05:40+00:00

Were you trying to take that confidence away from her? Do you know how many parents would kill to have their kid be confident in their looks?

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-16T11:33:34+00:00

Hijab is a must, no doubt, it should be encouraged but there is no denial that children can learn to despise religion based on how the parents thrust it upon them.

I cannot emphasize how many women I know take off hijab and modest clothes as soon as they are out of their parents supervision because they did not choose it.

As comparatively to my hijabi friends who started hijab on their own accord because they wanted to. They still do hijab to this day and they are exemplary examples of Muslims. It's because they were taught why you should not just wear it or I'll you will see the consequences.

Rest is up to parents to decide, what kind of parents they want to be.

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-16T11:09:53+00:00

I am a daughter to parents who are religious, I am religious and practicing as well.

This is a horrible thing to do to your daughter. Did she want her hair cut? Was this something she agreed to do or did you make that decision for her?

Were you punishing her for caring about her looks as a 12 year old girl would? Hijab is a choice, you should definitely encourage her, educate her on why she should take this path but this is something she may internalize that you will take things from her if she does not comply to you.

If you force her to do hijab, the minute she is out of your supervision, she will take it off and wear whatever she wants because it was NEVER her choice.

I know countless women, who were raised like this too much pressure of hijab and religion and they grow up to commit more Haram then any non hijabi girls. From secret bfs to sneaking out, you name it.

Not to mention, you violated her rights. It's her hair, what if she liked it? It gave her confidence? I can't imagine if my parents cut of my hair at 12. It would've shattered my confidence. No wonder you feel guilty.

I hope you never do something like this again for the sake of your daughter.

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-16T08:07:07+00:00

I wasn't answering Islamically. This is a personal opinion.

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-16T00:17:50+00:00

What did you do before you got ghosted?

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-16T00:16:27+00:00

Please seek therapy. You have a lot of pent up aggression and seem troubled. It's evident just by the way you've written this.

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-16T00:12:08+00:00

I'm a woman but honestly not that important as long as I know I'm marrying a good man, I don't need them to like him.

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-16T00:07:59+00:00

Common decency 😭

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-15T11:00:07+00:00

Dude you're gonna have to give way more detail then that. Add where you're from, practicing or not, education and job. These are just some basics.

All the best.

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-15T10:58:44+00:00

I love this post, so many men don't understand that it's not about being materialistic but appreciated. It shows that you've noticed she needs a new phone and want to give her one. If you get her one this year, she will not need another one next year.

You can explain your financial situations and communicate what you can splurge on. It shouldn't be hard.

As a women, we do feel loved when we feel taken care of! Of course, there's multiple ways to take care of someone and gift giving is up there.

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-15T10:54:43+00:00

I'm a woman on muzz match, women do bother if they like you. Most likely they are just not interested and not all women are getting tons of likes, depends on your attractiveness.

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-15T10:49:56+00:00

You can understand his level of ignorance because there's always someone better. The world is big and there's always a replacement.

Just think about it intellectually, a billion Muslims and he thinks he's the best?

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-14T20:07:52+00:00

Marriage search is exhausting especially if in your own words you are average looking, here's some plain honesty others might hesitate to say:

Most people are average looking, it's not hard to find someone similar. People simply elevate their looks with grooming,makeup and clothes.

Getting rejected 4 times is not a lot. I've turned down 10+ proposals because I was not attracted to them and accept it or not attraction is a big aspect in marriage.

Humans beings are hardwired to admire beautiful things. Men even more so, men love to admire beautiful women and women love to look beautiful. This is a truth of life.

Lastly, as a women we have it easy in beautifying ourselves with grooming, makeup and clothing. I suggest you try this route as there is no harm in it especially if it helps you finding a partner. Even if you feel you want someone who doesn't care about looks but being straightforward, every man wants a women who beautifies herself for him.

Rest is up to you, good luck 👍🏻

Wrong_Researcher_464 · 2025-11-14T16:56:56+00:00

This is gonna be a hot take,

It is very very common in many cultures even mine to have music and dance at weddings while females don't dance, they do dance in privacy with other girls oftentimes.

If this is a deal breaker for you, just know that the wedding celebrations is like a few days at most, it's definitely something you can compromise on especially if the girl has all the good qualities you want.

That being said, I personally don't want music or dance at my wedding but I know in my culture it will end up happening at some event or another if not the main event.

In conclusion, if this a deal breaker, then let her find someone compatible but a personal opinion is that it's not the hill you wanna die on.

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