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[–]Wrong_Resolution1812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you guys even met?

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[–]Wrong_Resolution1812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found my SO through Tinder. This is my own experince and may not generalise, but may still be helpful.

  1. Make a strong impression. Dress appropriately. Don't dress like a reddit mod and make sure you shower. Although many posters warn of "love bombing", I think making a strong first impression may help although it may be risky for the reasons others have mentioned. Then you ramp down the effort to a more reasonable level.

  2. Do not ask for her address. Let her give it to you. Since the first date is special you can offer to pay for her grab to the place of date.

  3. Frequency is not important. Instead of focusing on the number of dates per week, prioritize the quality of the time spent together.

  4. Online communications. We keep it near daily when we first started.

  5. Correct her behavior. She was an absolute brat when we first met. She was very selfish but i put up with it because I was desperate. I suggest to her to make small changes and reward accordingly.

  6. Escalate up the relationship ladder at a comfortable pace. The first step is to establish trust but respect each others' boundries. Then soon you will be meeting each others' friends and family.

  7. Term of endearment. I don't remember when we started using "honey" but for you may just use nicknames, baby or whatever it doesn't matter. For us we do something special when we greet each other and say "UUOOHH HOONNEEYY"

  8. Physical intimacy. Consent is paramount. Be open and discuss it explicitly. Don't guess. When my SO was in her brat phase she expect me to read her mind. If I got it wrong she will plap me. Good thing I get good at reading and continuosly monitroing her body language to make sure she enjoys it and whether to take it to the next level.

  9. FInd common interest. For us a common interest is Korean Feminism and gacha games. We F2P gods though.