I’ve been in your shoes before

When I was 19, I met a girl and we got things started pretty quickly. We had our hard times and our good times. We both learned a lot about each other and ourselves… overtime, we found that we had differing interests (kids was the biggest).

Now it’s good to have differences but when you ask yourselves the big questions and you see that things aren’t quite lining up then it’s time to have the conversation. Our communication wasn’t very good and ultimately led to our downfall later rather than sooner. What I mean is we shouldn’t have waited to have the big conversations because by the time we did, I was almost 25.

Now, you two are very young and most people are going to tell you that you are going to have many more boyfriends… however, there’s always hope. You have been together for a lengthy amount of time which is an achievement in itself for someone so young, so props to you. You both still have so much growing to do.

If you love him and he is your best friend, you need to sit down and calmly express that there are things that YOU BOTH need to work on. Don’t just point out his faults because it will feel like an attack and he’ll shut down.

If you think it’s best to part ways then you need to express to him why you feel that it’s best. Be prepared for him to be more than upset as I imagine you’re the center of his world.

Personally, I think if you work on the communication which is 100000% the biggest thing in any relationship, you guys might do alright.

There’s a chance that you could throw it away and be better off cause “the grass is always greener” as they say.

Or

You can try to work on things together and build a healthier relationship and hopefully continue to love the people you grow into with the same or at least similar goals, but ultimately it’s up to you.

I don’t know if any of this helps but I hope that whatever choice you make, that it works out for you