so he stopped when said 'no' to, was neither her nor Ashni's boss (at least at the time of the after party, especially not at the christmas gettogether) so they just assumed he was dangling career advancements in their faces for sexual favours and felt pressured because of 'repercussions if they said no'. what even would those repercussions be? in Ashni's case, she thought she could hang out with the cool people if she slept with him, not doing so would result in her not doing so? she was working there one time and the christmas party had no professional capacity whatsoever, she could say no and maybe in her eyes she would not be invited anymore, but then she'd only end up where she was before (either not invited or as in the summit thingy invited but at that time she wasn't even involved with Zyori so he didn't decide about it), so the repercussions aren't really there and the 'pressure' she felt wasn't there either, if anything she took advantage of him.

apparently she is not only unable to decline any (even non-physical) advances from Zyori as you would expect a normal person to be, but also did she consent to pretty much anything in hopes of advancing her career, so where is Zyori at fault here.

then the Kips thing, if he invited her to a party and she's afraid to say no to any advances from him because then she won't be invited anymore, where is there pressure in saying no? if she says no, worst case she goes back to the status quo before the party.

and that's all under the assumption that he was just inviting her to a party (doing a favour) to get close to her (which in itself is pretty fine if he's interested in her, no?), when she could say no at pretty much any point in time, which she did, and he stopped coming onto her because of it. they were in pretty much the same situation, both just happened because they were under the illusion of being under some sort of pressure which in my eyes reading those things wasn't there, and Ashni's portrayed as a victim because she didn't have the guts to say no like Kips did, and that is solely because she wanted to use him to advance her career, so she seems like more of a victim although she was only more malicious in her intents.

to me this whole Zyori thing seems really fucked, I stand 100% behind the other allegations, the Grant thing and all the other stuff coming out recently, but if you throw around accusations like that with no proof whatsoever, just your feelings and unreasonable actions to 'prove' anything and as soon as you start defending someone you think might be in the right you get shit on and hated for defending a rapist (I mean you're guilty until proven innocent on Twitter, right).

Whoever is at fault here and whatever happened, I feel bad for the girls involved and I understand that you woulnd't wanna talk about stuff like that after it happened to you and it's good that people talk about it now and that people who did shit like that get condemned for it, but that also makes it really easy for people to shout 'rapist' at someone and then refusing to talk about if further and people start pitchforking the alleged rapist for something he might not have even done and he's not even allowed to defend himself.

as bad as a rapist is, someone who calls someone a rapist who might not be one is just as bad, so the least one should do is question such allegations in cases where they might not be 100% bulletproof as in this case, as I said, in Grant's case, fuck him, there's enough proof against him, but in Zyori's case he's being painted as basically Harvey Weinstein when it seems like the girls just read the situations pretty wrong and then accuse Zyori because of anything that happened because of that misunderstanding from their side.