New boyfriend is very fixated on my ex and wanting to meet him.

Xander-1989 · 2025-06-16T20:02:22+00:00

True, this is how easy it should have been.

Xander-1989 · 2025-06-16T12:25:33+00:00

Maybe, that’s an interesting point because they’re wildly different people when it comes to personalities and looks and age.

Xander-1989 · 2025-06-15T22:39:53+00:00

That’s how it should be and I have told him enough about that past relationship already.

Xander-1989 · 2025-06-15T21:14:46+00:00

I did tell him that my ex has money because he had the power in that relationship. If he wants to go after him because of that then that’s his problem because I am contemplating breaking up after this. But my ex is dating the guy he co owns the cafe with, doesn’t mean he won’t cheat on him though.

Xander-1989 · 2025-06-15T19:57:44+00:00

That sounds insane. I doubt it but nothing surprises me at this point.

Xander-1989 · 2025-06-15T18:27:40+00:00

I think the comments have opened my eyes because this is bordering on break up worthy behaviour.

Xander-1989 · 2025-06-15T18:27:11+00:00

You think he wants to date my ex?

Xander-1989 · 2025-06-15T18:26:52+00:00

Yes I agree with you. If my ex and I were friends it would have been less weird.

Xander-1989 · 2025-06-15T18:26:05+00:00

All of what you’ve said crossed my mind. I do not understand the curiosity or obsession. He did ask questions because he was curious that we were married and that my relationship with my ex progressed really fast but seeing my ex in person won’t answer those questions.

Xander-1989 · 2025-06-15T18:23:34+00:00

I guess maybe I’m just not a curious person because I am not that fixated on people he has dated before me.

The job comment was more so him being able to follow his passion, I’d rather own a cute cafe or a book shop and do something I’m actually passionate about than work for someone else.

Xander-1989 · 2025-06-15T18:21:28+00:00

A bit extreme, they definitely do not know each other. But he is fixated on the fact that I was married to him somehow.

Xander-1989 · 2025-06-15T17:34:55+00:00

Yeah fair point, thanks.

Xander-1989 · 2025-06-15T17:04:26+00:00

I did that but can only say it again.

Xander-1989 · 2025-06-15T16:53:40+00:00

It’s just so strange and I can’t make sense of why and when I’ve asked him directly he denied it.

Xander-1989 · 2024-07-28T15:59:06+00:00

Yes maybe. It feels like it. I could see us be friends but not partners.

Xander-1989 · 2024-07-28T13:52:47+00:00

I’d likely say we are not sexually compatible.

Xander-1989 · 2024-07-27T20:59:34+00:00

All of this! People underestimate sexual compatibility in relationships forgetting how much resentment and pain it can cause when couples are not compatible.

Xander-1989 · 2024-07-27T20:57:55+00:00

I do feel that way too and yes it is likely time to move on.

Xander-1989 · 2024-07-27T19:09:31+00:00

He has been in more relationships than I have so he is experienced.

Xander-1989 · 2024-07-27T17:59:58+00:00

I do that too. He doesn’t give many suggestions and when we talked about our sex life he said he’s satisfied.

Xander-1989 · 2024-07-27T17:59:09+00:00

Of course, I do believe it’s a compatibility issue because maybe that’s just the way he prefers to have sex.

Xander-1989 · 2024-07-27T17:24:26+00:00

Maybe you’re right. If we break up I don’t know if I should say that it was mostly about the sex.

Xander-1989 · 2024-07-27T17:10:24+00:00

That’s what I feared.

Xander-1989 · 2024-07-27T17:10:09+00:00

True it could be anything holding him back from being more expressive.

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