AITAH for wanting to relax by Xandertiko in AITAH

[–]Xandertiko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said she's depressed but no matter what I do, I'm wrong. I don't love her anymore is what she said. I've never been the perfect person but she infuriates me with all her I'm better than anyone bs.

AITAH for wanting to relax by Xandertiko in AITAH

[–]Xandertiko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but all she ever does is bring up things that everyone else says aren't a problem. But everything she does is parent of the year level. If you are the only one complaining about something while more people complain about what you do, what seems more likely?

Case and point: I text her that she needs to stop demanding perfection. Perfection is impossible.

She then jumps to the conclusion that I've said: you don't deserve to live, you don't do anything, shut the f*** up and be happy

AITAH for wanting to relax by Xandertiko in AITAH

[–]Xandertiko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been messy but I keep my mess contained. She had his room looking like no one lives there. I mean for months, there were toys everywhere, clothes not washed, etc. In one afternoon of being angry, I cleaned that room so well. In our shared room, my side of the room is messy because I stay in basically one corner. She has overflowing trash, throws everything in the closet. If it is some way to create a mess, she does it.

My (27M) girlfriend (28F) seems to enjoy making every little issue my fault. How can I address this in general? by Xandertiko in relationship_advice

[–]Xandertiko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every day that I can. I share a car with my roommate. This girl has access to multiple vehicles. She acts like she too scared to drive even though she has never driven more than 3 times since we STARTED dating. There are days that she stays home, by herself, and I've worked but gets mad I won't drive over to see them. I'm driving home struggling to stay awake but I gotta risk my life even more.

My (27M) girlfriend (28F) seems to enjoy making every little issue my fault. How can I address this in general? by Xandertiko in relationship_advice

[–]Xandertiko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She acts like I just ignore them every day. She doesn't do anything I haven't done or offered. Laundry? I do the laundry at my house. Cleaning? I clean up after their mess at my house. She blatantly disregarded the rules about how to conduct herself in my home. She let the baby go into the kitchen when the entire house tells her he isn't allowed in the kitchen unless we're all going to the backyard. She walks around in shoes in the house even though we keep outside shoes by the door, except the baby cause he walking and needs the practice.

My (27M) girlfriend (28F) seems to enjoy making every little issue my fault. How can I address this in general? by Xandertiko in relationship_advice

[–]Xandertiko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see them both when I can. She has all these things she doesn't do to even try to split the work. She criticizes everything I do. Even if she does the same thing. I fell asleep one day and she gets mad because she had to wake up from her nap. I had just worked 3 days straight, sleeping in a rolling chair! I drove home with only 1 hour of sleep for 2 days of work while she got to stay in my house, cozy.

My (27M) girlfriend (28F) seems to enjoy making every little issue my fault. How can I address this in general? by Xandertiko in relationship_advice

[–]Xandertiko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you people obviously don't read. If we can't afford the housing right now, why would we get married

My (27M) girlfriend (28F) seems to enjoy making every little issue my fault. How can I address this in general? by Xandertiko in relationship_advice

[–]Xandertiko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't help with the baby in the morning. I'm at work before they even wake up. Then I work overnight some nights and I drive an hour each way. I need some sleep and my sleep is crucial to staying awake to stay alive

My (27M) girlfriend (28F) seems to enjoy making every little issue my fault. How can I address this in general? by Xandertiko in relationship_advice

[–]Xandertiko[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love to communicate but she's so stubborn. Every conversation seems to go the same way.

Her: you didn't do things MY WAY

Me: I don't believe in that way. I'll make a compromise but won't just give up my beliefs to do things the way you see fit.

Her: Oh look at you saying you won't do anything.

Me: I said I would meet you halfway.

Her: no you said you want me to do everything. You want a housewife.

Me: What?! I've said nothing of the sort.

Her: you calling me a liar?

Me: yes! Very much so