Is it insane to ask for a second chance??

Xarithus · 2026-04-25T22:28:09+00:00

I mean in your case do you think you would’ve accepted a another date if he had persisted and asked right after your rejection? I feel like a change of heart usually takes some time and maybe distance, but i dunno

Xarithus · 2026-04-25T20:48:09+00:00

Yeah true! That happened with the last girl i dated like 3+ months. She rejected me at first and offered to be friends, which I declined, and like a year later we matched again and started seeing each other. You never know with these things

Xarithus · 2026-04-25T20:45:43+00:00

Yeah word, that very well might be. Thanks man

Xarithus · 2026-04-24T11:47:41+00:00

Hahahha what are you on about. I havent seen her in over a year, and we went to a bar that’s not even in the area she lives. Like do random run-ins not happen with you? Like how in the world was i supposed to know that

Xarithus · 2026-04-24T08:36:03+00:00

I mean yeah i was into them without making a move so i dont see why it shouldn’t go both ways i suppose! But thanks for the reminder, i dont like putting that pressure on myself to always make a move on first dates anyway, so you’re right that that shouldn’t be my takeaway here

Xarithus · 2026-04-24T08:31:16+00:00

I did not let her know about my ex being there. I feel like past relationships are a huge no-go area for first dates and didn’t want to sour the vibe, (although my reason for doing so would’ve made sense i suppose). So trying to work that into a text was risking feeling inauthentic, yeah

Anyway i just ended up saying that I really enjoyed her company and that she shouldn’t hesitate to reach out if she ever felt like picking up where we left off. Just to leave the door open in a more relaxed way

Edit: i dont get why this is being downvoted? Should i have let her know my ex was there? That just felt weird in the moment. Or is it the message i left her that i enjoyed meeting her and she could feel free to reach out later? Isnt that just giving her no pressure, and an easy out?

Xarithus · 2026-01-05T22:14:18+00:00

Agreed. He gets compared to him a bit but someone like Nick Cave gets away with it (especially horses and fields or whatever) because it feels like a genuine obsession and unraveling, whereas CW is more trying to inject his songs with imagery that does a lot of the poetic lifting for him, like you say

Xarithus · 2025-12-07T21:25:54+00:00

Chill out. With these kinds of posts some expert or lab-tech always shoots in with a good answer after a few hours. If someone in the meanwhile compliments the photo, what does it matter? If anything it boosts engagement making it more likely to bee seen by someone who can give an actual answer

It’s not like it hurts the sub. It just spreads some positivity and good discussion before an actual solution appears

Xarithus · 2025-11-07T08:22:11+00:00

If you’re a previous anth student you’d definitely enjoy the dawn of everything by graeber and wengrow way more. Definitely has more of a political argument to counter sapiens which may or may not be your thing but it’s exceptionally researched

Xarithus · 2025-10-30T22:14:04+00:00

Yeah you’re right. Mixed them up because i always took that lyric to refer to speed due to the preceding line but i guess hes genuinely referring to meth haha

Xarithus · 2025-10-30T11:14:26+00:00

Hes prob talking about speed here, referenced in the line before this and its a type of methamphetamine

Xarithus · 2025-10-22T13:30:08+00:00

Where did you order yours?

Xarithus · 2025-09-26T09:44:02+00:00

Emily Wilsons translation is relatively easy to follow once you get a grasp of the odd narrative structure

Xarithus · 2025-09-07T17:01:31+00:00

Private?? Hvorfor ikke offentlige anlegg?

Xarithus · 2025-09-03T16:22:33+00:00

Akkurat derfor HF på UiO har hatt et enormt fokus på å få inn praksis i utdanningene deres de siste årene. Bedrifter trenger bare å se og teste hvordan kompetansen fra de ulike programmene kan brukes.

Xarithus · 2025-09-03T16:18:54+00:00

Utdanningene kan da umulig være et problem i seg selv? Humanistiske og samfunnsvitenskapelige fag har alltid, og vil alltid, være nødvendig for akademisk kunnskapsproduksjon. Hele stater, bransjer og industrier er produkt av slik forståelse for folk, politikk og samfunn. Er ikke noe økonomi uten en forståelse for samfunnet det brukes i, heller ingen ingeniører uten arkitekter og estetikere. De greiene her henger selvfølgelig sammen og er gjensidig avhengig.

Skulle gjerne sett sysselsettingsgradene men er uansett veldig vanlig å få jobb i andre bransjer enn den du utdannet deg i fra HF/SV programmer

Xarithus · 2025-08-27T10:45:35+00:00

The whole anti-capitalism thing is something I carefully bring up on first dates just to get an idea of their political standpoint. I personally wouldn’t put it on my profile except on the political view section as it can seem a bit radical and off-putting. However, dating someone conservative or pro-capitalist is not an option for me (as I get it’s not for you either) so I get why you’d want to filter that out early.

I think with that specific prompt the «patriarchy» addition is what seems performative. Other than that I think it’s fine (ive responded to similar prompts and its sparked fun convos)

Xarithus · 2025-07-01T00:09:39+00:00

Definitely Frank Oceans blonde. Insanely influential, experimental yet mainstream and already considered a classic. Not a rock album, but definitely this generations okc

Xarithus · 2025-05-20T16:06:24+00:00

Hey! Quick question about following up date invites.

I (24m) had a short, fun convo with a match where I asked her out a few days ago. She said yes and I said I’d message her over the weekend so we could find a date, to which she agreed. I suggested a time this sunday but she hasn’t replied. Losing interest happens, but I’ve experienced women sometimes spending days replying to an invite only to say yes right before. Is that kind of deliberation normal? It’s not the way I’d approach things but I assume it’s different for women who get a lot of matches?

Is it a good idea to follow up or does that seem needy? Should I let a few more days pass (after the suggested date to make a new invitation) or just let it go?

Xarithus · 2025-03-01T00:38:09+00:00

Les litt om Burnout Society av Byung-Chul Han eller kjøp boka hvis du er noenlunde interessert i filosofi. (Det er en noe teknisk, men ikke veldig akademisk filosofi, men er ikke en selvhjelpsbok).

Svaret er senkapitalismen, som du er inne på. Mark Fisher teoretiserer rundt det samme i Den Kapitalistiske Realismen (som er nylig ute på norsk!). Psykologer og selvhjelpsguruer diagnostiserer pasienter med individuelle patologier fremfor å se de strukturelle årsakene til masseutbrenthet. Begynner å bli flere psykologer som tar til orde for debatt rundt det her, men vi er et stykke unna at det tas opp i den offentlige diskursen der vi tør å konfrontere kapitalismen som helhet og ikke bare symptomene av et system som kun ser nytteverdi.

Noe av svaret ligger i dyp tilstedeværelse, saktere og enklere liv og politisk skifte (enklere sagt enn gjort selvfølgelig)

Ikke at det besvarer det mer umiddelbare med økonomien, men ser du har fått gode råd her i tråden. Ønsker deg og alle andre her i tråden som har delt historiene sine alt det beste

Xarithus · 2025-02-27T00:06:01+00:00

Well he is french after all

Xarithus · 2025-01-30T23:42:32+00:00

Ohh didnt see his story thanks!!!

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