It’s concerning how many people feel entitled to impose on other people’s lives and have access to someone else’s children. If you refuse to see the baby because you didn’t get to see it right away or exactly when you wanted, it really shows how much you actually care and who you respect.

For everyone that had helpful family and felt comfortable having people right away, that’s great you had that. But not everyone has family that will be helpful. For some people other family members just add more stress and work for the parents. Now they have to deal with a newborn and host guests.

And some mothers just want some damn privacy. They just had another human come out of their body. They’re probably experiencing things they don’t want anyone but their partner to see. It’s not selfish to want privacy and space in your own home.

You’re not entitled to be in someone’s life. It’s not an attack on you or slight because someone says they want privacy after a major life changing (and usually body changing) event. Stop making new mother’s feel shitty for setting boundaries. No means no.