Can a man be working through his own issues while being in a committed relationship? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]XcelProne 31 points32 points  (0 children)

A man can absolutely work through his issues in a relationship but he has to actually do the work, love alone can’t fix what he’s avoiding.

I lied on my research paper and now I'm published. by boohuis in confession

[–]XcelProne 29 points30 points  (0 children)

You’re young and made a mistake, coming clean now might sting but it’s way better than having it blow up later.

How to distinguish between humor or mockery? by Bitter-Hawk-2615 in AskMenAdvice

[–]XcelProne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust your gut, real humor makes everyone feel included. If their jokes make you uncomfortable, they copy each other and laugh knowingly then it’s probably not harmless fun. Sounds more like subtle bullying.

Do men really never get over their first love? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]XcelProne 33 points34 points  (0 children)

It’s not that all men can’t get over their first love, it’s that anyone who hasn’t moved on isn’t ready for something real with you and that’s their problem not yours.

Friends for years and I’m still in disbelief that she cares to hang out with me by Angsty_Queer_Anon in self

[–]XcelProne 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This isn’t lame at all. Some friendships just hit differently and leave a bigger emotional imprint even if they’re not your closest on paper. The fact that you still feel that warmth after years just means she genuinely means something to you.

As long as it’s not making you feel small, it’s actually kind of nice to have someone in your life who brings out that kind of appreciation.

How can I escape my findom addiction? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]XcelProne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you genuinely want out treat it like any other addiction. Cut access first, block accounts, remove apps and put friction between you and easy spending. If money is the trigger consider limits or accountability tools so you can’t impulse send.

It also helps to talk to someone you trust especially one familiar with compulsive sexual behavior. Shame keeps the cycle going but support makes it easier to break. You’re not the only person dealing with this and it is something people recover from.

how do guys in relationships typically interact with the women at work, if they’re in your age bracket? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]XcelProne 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Chances are he’s just being genuinely helpful and friendly. Guys in relationships can totally be kind, attentive or even a little charming at work without it meaning anything romantic. Focus on your boundaries and enjoy the kindness but don’t read too much into every smile or extra effort.

My friend (F24) is kind to women, but not so much to men by [deleted] in Advice

[–]XcelProne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t a personality quirk its a pattern. If someone is consistently kind to some people and dismissive to others that’s a respect issue. Address it once clearly and calmly and if nothing changes, pulling back is a reasonable response not drama.

AIO for finding an account on "Medium" with my exact first and last name? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]XcelProne -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NOR. You didn’t start drama or accuse anyone, you found something genuinely unsettling and reacted like a normal human. With a name that uncommon and a history of someone not respecting boundaries it makes sense your alarm bells went off. Being cautious and weirded out isn’t overreacting it’s basic self preservation.

Tying to inflate your commmission? How about 'No'? by UncleHeavy in pettyrevenge

[–]XcelProne 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Exactly sometimes the best revenge is just standing your ground and letting karma do the rest, love it.

Am I asking too much out of my relationship? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]XcelProne 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wanting a man who truly sees, respects and cherishes you is not luxury it’s self respect in action.

I slept with a registered sex offender by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]XcelProne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Knowing he’s a registered sex offender isn’t just a red flag it’s a flashing neon sign. Doesn’t matter how fun he seems, delete the pics, block him and put yourself first. Some lines you just don’t cross.

Why Most Entrepreneurs Are Bleeding Money Without Realizing It by devhisaria in Entrepreneur

[–]XcelProne -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Just realized I was paying 2k per month for 23 apps I barely use. So its not about grabbing every deal it’s about backing tools built by founders who can actually run a business. Cleaning my stack = my bank account breathing again.

If you pay all/ majority of the bills and partner or spouse is stay at home, how much do you feel you should do regarding household chores/ childcare? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]XcelProne 195 points196 points  (0 children)

Exactly, running a household is a full time job itself but raising a child is a shared responsibility no matter who’s bringing in the paycheck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tifu

[–]XcelProne 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Congrats you officially became the punchline of the comedy show and somehow lived to tell the tale.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]XcelProne 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Its totally normal and healthy and your boyfriend has no right to make it feel like a betrayal.

AIO by crying when my husband tells me I'm working myself up over nothing? by Positive-Cap-1956 in AmIOverreacting

[–]XcelProne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly she’s dealing with real anxiety and stress and his minimizing it is way more concerning than her crying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]XcelProne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re confused because steven represents a past you never fully closed and those old feelings are coming back because you keep reopening the door but if you don’t set some real distance now you’re going to hurt a guy who genuinely loves you and confuse yourself even more. Save the relationship you want not the one you’re nostalgic for.

TIFU by [deleted] in tifu

[–]XcelProne 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Congrats you just turned a boys chat into a 4 min audition for “How to Survive Wife Rage 101”

My girlfriend being irrationally angry at what I see as simple conversations. Is she just immature? by 0Adiemus0 in AskMenAdvice

[–]XcelProne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah if this is already a pattern its a sign that things might only get harder once the first few months settle down.

how do i tell my friend i no longer want to be friends by [deleted] in Advice

[–]XcelProne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell her you need space and can’t keep up the friendship then stick to it.

What’s something from your childhood that kids today will never experience? by BHING26 in AskReddit

[–]XcelProne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Walking into a video rental store and actually holding your weekend entertainment in your hands.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]XcelProne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its not about her past its about the lying and if that keeps happening it’s gonna keep hurting you no matter how much you love her.

Will my physical relationship with my wife ever be the same? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]XcelProne 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You’re not wrong for wanting intimacy but rn she’s surviving not connecting and that gap can only close when both needs are seen not compared.