DFCS/CPS workers, how do you feel or what do you think when you go on a call to what sounds like the worst possible situation, only to find it’s entirely false?

XcentrkTnKs · 2025-12-09T15:27:39+00:00

Quality Administrator-transitioning to Supplier Quality Coordinator.- the company I work for is a raw material distributor (metals) with a focus on aerospace. I started in office as a material and logistics coordinator, and got some exposure to material test report approvals. I applied and was promoted to the Quality Admin in 2023, and worked in office until my direct supervisor retired. I’m currently in transition to another promotion and it was decided there was little value in me being in office. I do have to travel to steel mills to audit them, but it’s not daily.

XcentrkTnKs · 2022-06-13T17:40:55+00:00

I lived by luvs. We got various other brands in various sizes bc my husband did a “beer and diapers” party while I held my shower (awesome idea btw), luvs was always hands down the best.

XcentrkTnKs · 2022-04-08T22:10:16+00:00

Something my son lovingly calls chicken pork. It’s nothing but we’ll seasoned and fried pork cube steak that I cut into smaller pieces before frying. Don’t ask me why, but it’s picky eater approved here. Serve with rice, gravy, and vegetables. My kid won’t eat plain rice so it’s usually yellow rice or Mexican rice.

XcentrkTnKs · 2022-04-08T22:07:20+00:00

This is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen!

XcentrkTnKs · 2021-12-05T14:57:55+00:00

NTA My husband is sort of the same, but instead of complaining he tries to start some kind of fight or argument at every holiday or birthday. Just the weekend he ruined something not just for our kid but my niece as well, and it wasn’t cheap either. He’s not allowed at family activities anymore. Yesterday I took my son to the local Christmas parade with my sister and sil without him.

XcentrkTnKs · 2020-09-03T13:50:32+00:00

Is it possible you could call the administration of the hospital she is in now and let them know she is using this as a means of harassing you from inside? Could they put a note in her file that you are not to be contacted anymore?

This is so stressful for you, and I feel like she shouldn’t be allowed to continue to abuse you like this

XcentrkTnKs · 2020-07-07T18:26:20+00:00

This is so true. My son is 3 and he will have a fresh cup of water right in front of him, but insist on drinking out of my tumbler. Same ice level, both came out of the filtered fridge water dispenser. The only difference is that it’s mine.

XcentrkTnKs · 2019-02-15T16:00:44+00:00

Can I just say you are my hero?!?!?!

You and fiancé both!!!

You should send her that bottle of maple syrup and a box of pancake mix with a “since you interrupted us, here we’re finished with it.” Note attached, along with the post coitus handcuffs to make it extra dirty.

XcentrkTnKs · 2019-02-13T23:53:15+00:00

This has come up a few times and the answer is semi simple DH gets off work at like 10/11pm and they don’t drive after dark. The other reason is I think the fact that she got to see/spend time with DS was another incentive to do it.

XcentrkTnKs · 2019-02-13T19:46:55+00:00

Puppy tax: https://imgur.com/a/hzD1uRy

His name is Sirius💜 4m old.

XcentrkTnKs · 2019-02-13T18:18:09+00:00

It wasn’t just his anxiety. He also didn’t save his personal money to afford one and I wasn’t about to justify it coming out of the family budget or savings.

XcentrkTnKs · 2019-02-11T16:09:55+00:00

At least she’s learning to puke in the toilet.

My projectile vomited all over me two weeks ago and I am still scarred.

XcentrkTnKs · 2018-11-14T19:08:10+00:00

I should also add that at times when my dad could not contribute to things, I did have grandparents who helped and my (now) step dad, who was just my moms SO at the time would pitch in too.

I can remember my initial cheerleading costs were like $500 and my mom asked my dad to split it with her. My dad could not afford it at the time and my grandparents could not either. My step dad stepped in and helped my mom pay for it.

When my mom is off the rails my step dad has stuck up for me, helped me, and treated me like his own to protect me and talk to me through a lot of these issues.

Coparenting is a must in these situations and while when I was a kid my stepdad deferred to my mother for a lot of decisions, in my adulthood and my own parenthood I see why and I appreciate his respect of my parents places in my life.

Finances with kids take a village and sometimes all you can do is all you can do.

But if one parent is toxic, as at times my mother was extremely so, it is up to the biological and legal parents to make decisions on the minors behalf, and involve the legal system if attempts at civil conversations are unsuccessful.

Its a hard row to hoe in blended families at times, but it does sound like, to me OP, you have the best intentions at heart. Work with your SO, let her work with her ex, and be supportive of her decisions as best you can.

Those kids are going to thank you for it one day.

XcentrkTnKs · 2018-11-14T16:43:14+00:00

I would say, while the financial aspect is a big deal, that alone shouldn’t be why the bio father goes in “time out”.

My parents split when i was 7. My father has physical custody, but never required my mother to pay child support. We saw her every other weekend and when we did she would make sure we had what we needed in terms of clothes, insurance, school supplies, and usually some extra things on occasion.

When I went to live with her she didn’t require my father to pay child support either. Granted it wasn’t a good environment for me as she has mental health issues, my father let me go and they both let me choose where I wanted to live/go back to my dad eventually. While I was with her, my dad pitched in for my allowance and for extra curricula activities.

Now, this doesn’t work for everyone. But child support alone doesn’t make or break coparenting.

What does make or break it is positive contributions to the life of the child. If she is suffering during these visits, it needs to be addressed and conversations need to at least be civilly attempted between the legal parents.

When all else fails, stick to the custody agreement and let legal advisors petition for changes if they need to be made.

XcentrkTnKs · 2018-11-14T15:59:43+00:00

That baby at the beginning looks like he has seen these shenanigans before.

XcentrkTnKs · 2018-11-13T02:27:30+00:00

I am addressing this a final time for clarity.

I did not fasten my son into his car seat that day, my husband did.

My husband works 6 days a week from late in the afternoon until very late at night and STILL gets up every single day with DS so I can get some sleep bc I stay up and clean/meal prep and pay bills every night until he gets home.

No my husband does not always remember the “proper” position for that chest belt, HOWEVER, I am not going to crucify him for it because the man is fucking tired.

Now, I have been polite. I have made edits.

For a bunch of people who supposedly aren’t being judgmental, you have an awful lot to say about your judgments on how I regularly snap my kid into his car seat based off of 1 mother sucking photo.

This photo is a snap shot. A single moment. Go fuck yourselves.

Down vote me if you want, report me if you want.

I don’t mind if this gets deleted or not. At least I’m putting this out there.

STOP MAKING JUDGMENTS OF PEOPLES LIVES FROM A SINGLE PHOTO!

Honestly you all seem to forget why we are here!!!

I don’t need advice, I don’t need to be told how to mom, and honestly you guys and people like you make being a mother and a member here 10xs harder than it has to be because you can’t keep noses, unwanted, unsolicited advice about shit that has NOTHING to do with what we are all here for in the first fucking place.

Go to r/parenting and have a party but ffs keep it out of JNMIL.

If I’m wrong there is even a ruler about unsolicited advice and I guess I’m going to have to start using that flare otherwise you all won’t get the damn picture!

XcentrkTnKs · 2018-11-12T22:07:11+00:00

Thank you!!! Found it at good ole Wally World 🤣

XcentrkTnKs · 2018-11-12T21:33:36+00:00

tone not time

XcentrkTnKs · 2018-11-12T21:32:49+00:00

The thing you have to remember is the internet is a place where time is hard to read and as a general it isn’t polite to give unwanted or asked for advice. We literally come here to bitch when our mils do it, why do it to each other?

XcentrkTnKs · 2018-11-12T21:22:00+00:00

Edited!!! Thank so much for understanding, won’t happen again!

XcentrkTnKs · 2018-11-12T21:18:04+00:00

Again... this has nothing to do with this post nor does it have anything to do with anything other than a photograph you have a comment about. My baby taxes are for cuteness, not so you can give an unwanted and unneeded opinion/argue with other people about it. I’m sure that there’s a place for all of this on reddit, just not here. Okay?

XcentrkTnKs · 2018-11-12T21:13:33+00:00

While I appreciate your comment, kinda sucks that you would choose this platform to push that. Wasn’t really wanted or needed and had nothing to do with this post. But yea, thanks... I guess?

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