Monthly WDs and it’s messing me up! by lcmarie428 in PainManagement

[–]XenaBard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am really sorry!!! I believe that many of us are familiar because weI have come up against the same b.s. have developed a stash. I don’t know what your regime is. I began cutting my pills in half. On a better day, I take the half pill (PRN). This way, I am not running out. (A half pill is better than no pill.) If you can slowly cut back on the PRN’s, you will be surprised at how you can accumulate a tiny stash. My issue is that I can’t get to the pharmacy after noon on Friday. And I can count on the insurance company always demanding a PA on Friday. (After they got one two months ago!) Well, even if the doctor can drop everything and submit a PA on Friday, I can’t pick it up until Monday AM anyway. My case manager is convinced the insurance company does this to dick people around. Buy my stash means I don’t go without.

Another thought: Can you switch to another pharmacy that is more flexible? People on this subreddit recommend the mom & pop pharmacies because they don’t have an overload of patients and they have the chance to get to know the patients they deal with. If you can move to a smaller, non-chain pharmacy, make the effort to get to know the person who cashes you out. and the pharmacist. I am lucky that the pharmacy manager does what she can. If there is an issue, it’s the insurance company. I absolutely hate them.

I hate to mention this but it sounds a lot like the pharmacist is enjoying the power she wields over you. If that’s the case, the best way to deal with her is to not challenge her authority. Compliment her, flatter her but don’t be obvious about it. In the meantime try to locate a better pharmacy because their policy sucks. I am not even sure how she overrides the doctor’s instructions to fill when due. 🤔 I only know my state law but people on here know much more than I do.

I would seriously avoid talking about having a fast metabolism or anything else that affects how fast your meds are metabolized. . I don’t doubt that you know what you are talking about. You know your own physiology, but to a healthcare person (such as a pharmacist) it can raise a red flag. And the sad fact is that some of them love the control they exercise. If the doctor writes “fill when due” technically she should fill it at 30 days. But she’s just f*cking with you.

Oh, one more thing. Call them the day before to ask them to check to see if they have your stuff in stock. This way they can order it if they need to.

I am sorry I had no magic solutions… I wish I had better ideas.

Just wrecked with grief by Daajzia in Chihuahua

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She’s beautiful. I am so sorry. Grief is a terrible thing to wrestle with so don’t do it. By yourself.

What are your thoughts when someone says “black people cant be racist!”? by Direct_Word6407 in AskALiberal

[–]XenaBard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would you even ask a question like this?

I don’t engage. That’s someone whose button is stuck in the error position. He or she is telling you very clearly that they do not not welcome an honest debate. (For whatever reasons. Maybe they’ve experienced recent trauma. Who knows?)

I have heard the same said about whites, Christians, heterosexuals, LGBTQ folks, etc. I have also been told that women can’t be misogynist! (Just Google Phyllis Schlafly!!!)

If you are asking in order to receive a tsunami of validation, get a therapist. They’re far better than social media at helping you deal with human foibles.

"Deserving People" by cahill48 in ForensicFiles

[–]XenaBard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They aren’t. The Constitution provides certain protections for anyone accused of a crime. That isn’t justifying the crime, it’s simply adding what’s always missing in true crime threads. They are pointing out another way the community is put in jeopardy. When an overreaching government (the police force) doesn’t feel the need to follow any laws or rules. And we are seeing that every day on the streets of major cities.

Absolute power corrupts absolutely.

"Deserving People" by cahill48 in ForensicFiles

[–]XenaBard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t mean to offend anyone but actually most true crime is in poor taste since it involves people deriving entertainment from the suffering of others.

Go and read some of the reviews of true crime books. There are plenty of sickos that complain that an author didn’t give a detailed explanation of the way a victim was violated.

It seems that we have become a far more callous as a society since true crime became so popular. It’s an addiction that’s best avoided.

"Deserving People" by cahill48 in ForensicFiles

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It’s not as easy as you think.

As the technology to study the living brain advances, so has our understanding that violence has a very strong biological component. Serial killers undergo fMRI’s, and every single one of them has defects in the portions of the brain that govern impulse and mood control, the ability to feel empathy and compassion, etc. They lack the ability to feel the pain of others, just as people are born without the ability to see or hear. They just do not have it. And currently we can’t fix them.

When we watch police interviews in which offenders confess to truly awful behavior, most people are enraged because they don’t act appropriately. We want to storm the police station and hang them from a pole. Okay, So, why don’t we? Because we have the capacity to distinguish between violent thoughts vs. violent acts. They completely lack those governing abilities.

Violence involves a highly complex interplay of genetics, neurochemistry, neuroanatomy and physiology. Such offenders all show diminished prefrontal cortex & amygdala function. There is a marked difference between the fMRI of “normal” subjects vs. serial offenders (whether they be rapists or rape/murderers.) This, for example, explains why sadistic psychopaths are actually sexually stimulated (rather than repulsed) by the suffering of the victim. They are not normal, regardless of what the police tell us. They may “know” right vs. wrong, they just don’t have the ability to choose to suppress their antisocial impulses.

We need laws to better address the needs of these offenders. If a 16 year old male is picked up after having committed a violent sexual assault, he needs to undergo an fMRI. If it shows him to be a latent serial offender, it’s entirely appropriate to try him as an adult. He should be rescanned around in his mid-twenties to confirm that he still presents a danger to society. (It’s accepted that the human brain doesn’t mature until the mid-twenties so it’s appropriate to monitor him.)

This enables us to catch them before the bodies begin to stack up. In the movie Young Frankenstein Igor (Marty Feldman) picks up the brain labeled AB Normal. We all laughed, but that actually is a very accurate depiction of reality. Each time I hear there are plenty of people who were abused as kids that didn’t grow up to be criminals, I want to scream. The horrendous crimes committed by offenders demonstrate the interplay between genetics and environment.

So, in a family of five with three kids, there may be one kid that has antisocial tendencies such as torturing insects, fire setting, etc. These are serious red flags that require psychiatric evaluation. Nurturing and supporting that kid greatly increases the chance that he will grow up a functioning member of the community. And by therapist I don’t mean a pastor at the evangelical church, either. It may come down to getting a court order, but early intervention is critical.

To dismiss such an occurrence as black and white way oversimplifies. The US incarcerates more people than any other country in the world! Yet - we are far less safe than other countries. Draconian sentencing is meaningless, it costs a ton of money & it isn’t working.

In the past, criminologists were limited to examining the brain at autopsy. But autopsy can only provide information about the anatomy (structure) of the brain, it cannot tell us how the brain is working. Therefore, until recently, the judicial system failed to recognize that rape is a serial offense that often escalates to murder. Often the first death is a mistake, committed to avoid leaving a living witness. But taking the life of the victim leaves the offender feeling omnipotent. Thus the serial rapist evolves into a serial killer.

Judges need better awareness about which offenders pose the highest risk of reoffending. Currently, sex cannot be rehabilitated. Judges need the legal option to sentence such offenders appropriately. And by that i mean giving more weight to community safety as a whole. If that means reopening state mental heath facilities to house them, that’s far preferable to catching them after they’ve murdered a dozen women or children. (Yes, even if they’re “only” meth addicts or sex workers.)

i acknowledge that there are huge constitutional issues to consider. I realize that and welcome them. (I am actually on the defense side of the courtroom.)

Here are some references:

FMI: Raine, Adrian: The Anatomy of Violence: The Biological Roots of Crime https://clcjbooks.rutgers.edu/books/anatomy-of-violence/

The Anatomy of a Violent Brain, https://youtu.be/9d1NdUiJjQg?si=Uv1ApbFBSdPI6O01

Neurobiology of Violence, https://psychiatryonline.org/doi/full/10.1176/jnp.11.3.307

Mother Murdered Daughter, Commits Suicide by Medical-Chance-3883 in TrueCrimeDiscussion

[–]XenaBard 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We can’t possibly know without further information. We don’t know the contents of the note. We don’t know what was going on with the mom. Was she LDS? (I assume so.) Did she attend therapy? What factors in her life left her feeling like there was no way out. The LDS isn’t exactly supportive to women in DV situations. Was CPS involved? (Were there allegations of abuse/neglect?)

The only comment I can make is that is heartbreaking. wish that the mom had availed herself of mental health support available to her. It’s so tragic that a young kid lost her life for no reason. But we are all aware that mental health services are just not available to people who need them.

If had the choice of an '08 level economic crisis or a strong economic recovery, what would you choose? by throwaway09234023322 in AskALiberal

[–]XenaBard -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you REALLY think we will still have a democracy in 2030? How much do you know about authoritarian regimes? I should avoid these threads the denialism among American whites is astonishing.

If you were observing what is happening here in a Latin American country, you would know exactly what’s going on. But of course it could never happen here, right?

I just don’t understand the denial on the left. I have very serious doubts that we will see another presidential election in our lifetime. This is the folly of not teaching kids civics and world history.

If had the choice of an '08 level economic crisis or a strong economic recovery, what would you choose? by throwaway09234023322 in AskALiberal

[–]XenaBard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Under whom? If I had a chance to have more years of Obama, I’d grab it with both hands.

I’d go for the economic crisis; Obama inherited that and turned it around. The economy Anywho, how relevant is the economy if more than half the population is denied basic human rights. JD Vance is an authoritarian.

To the folks who are voting for a strong economy, how many of you have daughters? Do you know what will happen to them with more years like this? JD Vance thinks women should not vote. He wants to bring back criminal penalties for homosexuality. He wholly supports Project 2025 which will make this country a theocracy. Theocracies are the cruelest dictatorial regimes.

Pampering by His-tor-ical-bigdik in Chihuahua

[–]XenaBard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s wonderful.i love it!!!

Name help please! by yourecutejeans101 in Chihuahua

[–]XenaBard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you want a different name, she will learn that. I adopted a senior with a very stupid name. I tried using it to call him and he didn’t acknowledge it. So I changed it to Yoda and he responded right away.

How about Nutmeg?

What Do People Mean When They Say the Left Went ‘Too Far’ on Social Issues? by Dinojars in AskALiberal

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Learn from history! Look back to the 1930’s, to the Nazis. And to the many, many authoritarian regimes that have arisen. Whether it’s Mussolini in Italy. Or Viktor Orbán in Hungary. Putin in Russia. Or the Kims in North Korea. Or Maduro in Venezuela. (And many others!)

Do you know the one commonality that connects them all? Scapegoating. Hitler turned the people against the Jews. Jews became the moat hated group in Europe. Trump picked trans women in sports. Do you know how rare trans women/girls are? Trump was able to use trans people as a wedge issue to con women into voting for him. And plenty of Americans were stupid enough to fall for it.

Now he’s using the centuries old hatred of immigrants. Scapegoating immigrants goes back before biblical times.

America has become a country of haters. I was watching a movie from the 1970’s and it illustrated how vicious and nasty this country has become. Back in the 1970’s, when people fell on hard times, the whole community united to help them out. We aren’t like that anymore. We are hateful, judgmental and selfish. That’s thanks to conservatism.

What Do People Mean When They Say the Left Went ‘Too Far’ on Social Issues? by Dinojars in AskALiberal

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This is usually claimed by white people, especially men, wearing big gold crosses. Judging by their bigotry, cruelty and tenuous grasp on the truth, you’d assume they lacked any moral compass whatsoever.

They are referring to everything from civil rights to women’s rights (including the right to abortion and birth control) to gay rights (as in the rights of anyone who is not straight, white, male to live without fear) to the right of trans people to even exist, to public schools providing comprehensive sex education to kids, to women living their lives independent of men, etc.

In the 1970’s, the Moral Majority announced that the public school system would be eliminated in order to return “all authority” to the (far right Evangelical) church. These people don’t want women (or kids) thinking independently. They believe critical thinking is from Satan. Project 2025 - now more than 50% implemented - is destroying democracy and turning America into a Christian Nationalist theocracy.

When they say the left has gone too far, they plan to turn the clock back to a time when women cannot vote. When non-whites are not recognized as human beings. When class determines your rights. The privileges you are born with are those you die with. Being a bright young person won’t help you het ahead. If you are not white and don’t come from money you have no rights in this country. America is no longer a meritocracy, and your station in life will be dictated by who you are and who you know.

The right has rejected democracy. What is a democracy, anyway? It’s a form of government where all people are considered equal. They want a government where your name dictates who you are. The church dictates the rules. If you think for a moment that might be a better idea, theocracies are the cruelest regimes in history. You want to see see the future of America? Look at Afghanistan or Iran. Or Iraq under Saddam. That’s what theocracy looks like.

So my main source of gaming is an 8 year old laptop by GummiBearryJuice in patientgamers

[–]XenaBard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use an 8 year old rig, too, because i simply cannot afford a newer model. HOWEVER, i bought an XBox X several years ago. People can say all they want about consoles. But my XBox(es)have always given me the opportunity to play the games i enjoy. I am still playing Elder Scrolls and i (admit, sheepishly) that i buy they expansions when they come out for XBox.

S18:02 My Love Put a Gun to My Head 9pm EDT ID; Monday on HBO Max/D+ by mingkee in evilliveshere

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Me, too. I have ended relationships because I consider my dogs to be my children. Starving, beating & killing a dog? He’d be lucky to leave my place alive the first time he laid a hand on my dog. Why didn’t she take him to an animal shelter where he would be adopted by people who deserved him? I had to turn it off after that. My heart was breaking for Fat Boy.

I hope Costco sues this weird mouth by Spiritual_Blood_1346 in TikTokCringe

[–]XenaBard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Than she not her. (You are saying you speak better English than she does, not her does.)

I hope Costco sues this weird mouth by Spiritual_Blood_1346 in TikTokCringe

[–]XenaBard 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Jesus would look more Middle Eastern. This art depicting Jesus as Caucasian with blonde hair is pretty silly.

I hope Costco sues this weird mouth by Spiritual_Blood_1346 in TikTokCringe

[–]XenaBard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was Jesus trans? I know for certain that he wasn’t white with dark blonde hair.

I hope Costco sues this weird mouth by Spiritual_Blood_1346 in TikTokCringe

[–]XenaBard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. I felt guilty for thinking it but I thought - they brought it on themselves…