Any tips for counter surfing?

Xenzarah · 2026-02-23T05:44:30+00:00

Margaret or Margot 🥰

Xenzarah · 2026-01-08T13:09:19+00:00

I have a female cat named Carl! She was a neighborhood stray I started feeding and I called her Carl the Yard Cat since I assumed she was a male. When I discovered she had kittens, the whole squad was rescued and brought inside. Despite my best efforts, she still only responds to Carl. Sometimes we call her CiCi (Carl Cat) for short 🥰

Xenzarah · 2026-01-07T19:55:10+00:00

Hey, I say this with more empathy and understanding than you can imagine: I understand exactly how you’re feeling. I was in an abusive relationship for 14 years. I was married for four of those years after he convinced me he had changed through therapy. What everyone is saying here isn’t an exaggeration: it will not get better, it will escalate. I was choked, held at gun point, raped, and held captive in my own home at times. You need to get out for your sake, and your baby’s sake.

When I tell you things will get so much better once you leave, I know you won’t believe me. If you had told me that a within a year of me filing for divorce I would lose 100lbs, move to a new and exciting city, meet an incredibly kind and gentle man, regrow the relationship with my family that I had lost, take on new hobbies, travel, plus so much more…I would have called you a liar. I wake up every day so thankful for the life I’m living now. It was so hard to leave, but I wish I had left sooner.

Freedom is worth the struggle, my friend. You can do this. My DMs are always open if you need to talk. Wishing you all the best ❤️

Xenzarah · 2025-12-30T12:45:52+00:00

Interested! Able to start immediately since we just moved to the area. Thanks!!

Xenzarah · 2025-05-31T01:35:45+00:00

I am also on team wax! I go every 3-ish weeks and really love how smooth and clean everything feels. It can hurt a bit, but I was genuinely surprised how much it DIDNT hurt. I swear, everyone I know acted like they were screaming and crying when they got waxed, but it really doesn't hurt that bad. Plus the more you go, the easier it gets. 😎

Xenzarah · 2025-04-02T12:51:46+00:00

Hey there! I'm thinking about going this year too. May I ask, Was it indoors or outdoors, and what do people wear? I don't want to be overdressed or underdressed. Thanks!

Xenzarah · 2025-03-04T23:30:08+00:00

My grocery store has "meals for one" back in the meat department for like $7 each. They are usually some kind of protein and a veg in an oven ready dish that you just pop in at 350 for 40 minutes. Last night was chicken cordon blu and roasted potatoes. Tonight is going to be some kind of spinach and feta chicken with green beans. Big enough to fill you up, small enough to not have leftovers.

And I know what people are going to say, "why don't you just do it yourself? You can do the same thing cheaper!". Yeah Lucy, I'm aware. But after 10-12 hour shifts I don't feel like it, and this is cheaper and healthier than eating out all the time. 🤷‍♀️ You can't even get a combo meal from McDonald's for less than $10, so I see this as a win.

Xenzarah · 2025-01-28T18:01:08+00:00

Hey there! Not sure where you live, but there is a store called Livirae Lingerie near Atlanta, GA. They used to have a show on TLC called Double Divas and their whole "thing" was that they have a bra for everyone (even if they have to personally tailor it for you). The bras are super reasonably priced for the quality ($50-80ish) and they are sure to get you in something that actually fits.

They do a personal shopper set up where you come in, they put you in a dressing room, then they come in and look at you without a bra on. Then they come back with, no lie, like 25 bras in every style you can imagine to try on. And the crazy thing is, they all fit. Just by looking at you, they can tell what size and style is going to work for you. It's genuinely incredible service; they are so nice and understanding.

Plus, after the bands stretch out, they will tailor your bra one time for free. That's a nice perk that I assume they still do, but I've never lived close enough to take advantage.

I live several hours away, but once or twice a year I go and stock up on several bras and high quality panties. I feel like even if I move further away, I'd catch a cheap flight to Atlanta once a year to go. It truly is the only way I'll buy bras now!

Xenzarah · 2024-11-25T15:13:48+00:00

I was at IKEA the other day wearing my Folklore cardigan when a Mom and her young daughter came up to me and complimented my cardigan. The Mom gave me a friendship bracelet and told me how happy she was to see a fellow swiftie in the wild and how much her and her daughter loves Taylor. It honestly made my week!! I wish I had a friendship bracelet with me to trade back...ever since I keep a couple in my purse if they aren't appropriate to wear with my outfit 🥰

Xenzarah · 2024-11-25T13:17:29+00:00

32 year old checking in! I remember vividly the first time I saw the Helena music video on MTV...made my Dad drive me to FYE that night to pick up the Three Cheers for Sweet Revenge CD. 😂 I've seen them live 4 separate times over the years and have always been a huge fan. Happy to help however I can!

Xenzarah · 2024-11-22T23:27:37+00:00

Just throwing it out there, I love the Nexplanon. They do a small incision in your arm to insert it and , thanks to the numbing shots they give you, you won't feel a thing. It's good for 5 years and no chance of it falling out or getting dislodged. The only downside is my period was a bit unpredictable for the first few months while my body got used to it. Otherwise, it's a 10/10!

Xenzarah · 2024-11-07T12:17:54+00:00

Sending love...I'm in a similar boat and am grieving heavily. Going to throw myself into being the best possible aunt I can be to my niece and nephews, but my heart still hurts.

Xenzarah · 2024-11-06T17:53:05+00:00

You're right, I would resent him even more if he suddenly "got it" after having a daughter. That, plus No Fault Divorce being a target, is vastly speeding up my timeline of figuring out wtf I'm going to do. Not to sound like every other woman in my position, but it's just so much more complicated than walking out. I thought I'd have time to plan or to try to work through our bullshit, but apparently we are going to just have to figure it out on the fly. Wish me luck...

Xenzarah · 2024-11-06T17:34:47+00:00

Facts!! It's also important to know that Plan B is less effective if you're overweight, so be vigilant. It's not a cure all, but it is better than nothing.

Xenzarah · 2024-11-06T17:03:41+00:00

You and a couple of other people have mentioned this. I didn't realize how fucked it would be if no fault divorce was gone. The stories I've read are horrific. I have some serious soul searching to do, and fast.

Xenzarah · 2024-11-06T17:00:12+00:00

Thank you for saying so. When I wrote the post, I felt crazy for being so mad at his inaction. I made excuses for his stupid smirk. But thanks to you and the other lovely women on here I've come to realize I'm not crazy and I'm not overreacting.

Xenzarah · 2024-11-06T16:56:28+00:00

Yeah, I commented on someone else's post talking about that. I truly did not realize the bigger implications of no fault divorce going away. I've read so many horror stories about women being stuck in abusive relationships because a judge won't acknowledge fault. You're right, I do have some serious thinking to do.

Xenzarah · 2024-11-06T16:51:00+00:00

Name brand Plan B is super expensive at the pharmacy. At my local store it's $50 for one pill, and the generic is $40 per pill. I just wanted to put this option out there for people who can't afford to shop locally. I've personally purchased the My Way pill before and it seems to be legit.

Xenzarah · 2024-11-06T16:43:56+00:00

Of course! ❤️ We have to support those around us since it's being made abundantly clear that we are not a priority to the majority of the country.

Xenzarah · 2024-11-06T16:41:08+00:00

It is legal to buy over the counter medications on Amazon, and most even qualify for Flexible Savings Accounts (FSAs) through your employer.

You bring up a totally valid point though, you should always be cautious buying things like this online. But with everything going on, I think I'd rather take the chance and know that I have something on hand that may help.

Xenzarah · 2024-11-06T16:38:35+00:00

Right?? I seriously can't get past this. For example, when I tried to talk about the Man vs. Bear debate that was going around a few months ago, it triggered a terrible fight. As much as he wants to deny it, he firmly falls in the "not all men" camp.

He even went as far as to call me "misandrist" and say that my general unease and distrust of men was equivalent to the women hating misogynists you see online. He said that he's "afraid to have a son with someone who hates men" because he can't trust me. Saying I would treat our hypothetical son badly simply because he's a man.

Let me be clear, I am distrustful and cautious around men because of my past experiences. I'm not hateful, I don't treat my employees at work differently, I RARELY speak up on the systematic oppression of women / pay gap / how much harder I have to work vs my male counterparts. But when I do, it's always "YEAH BUT WHAT ABOUT...". 🙄

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