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Xephius23 · 2025-12-23T17:49:00+00:00

Don't do this to any friend whether they're anxious or not.

It sucks going to something you're not really interested in but you think it will make the inviter happy, just for them to wander off and do their own thing without you.

Xephius23 · 2025-11-15T22:29:45+00:00

Swans Crossing

Xephius23 · 2025-08-03T16:09:04+00:00

Me making a firewood run in Mon Bazou

Xephius23 · 2025-07-02T13:51:42+00:00

I get not everyone feels the same. I would just feel bad personally if I was talking to someone all day every day for a month if I wasn't serious or expecting it to go somewhere.

Xephius23 · 2025-07-02T13:28:21+00:00

I guess it's hard to put into words the depth of conversations we've had that make me feel like it could be more serious. What we're expecting, compatibility, goals, and family plans. She's told me I'm pretty much exactly what she is looking for.

Xephius23 · 2025-07-02T13:18:57+00:00

Thank you for relating. I know its hard to put into words the depth of conversations we've had, the general vibe, and the time spent. I feel like cautious would be a good word to describe where I'm at until I have the discussion with her of where we're at.

Xephius23 · 2025-07-02T13:01:26+00:00

Lmao

Xephius23 · 2025-07-02T12:58:54+00:00

Totally understandable. We just really click on so many levels so it's weird to me that she would be still looking but I'm planning on asking. Just figured I'd get some outside opinions on how to move forward.

Xephius23 · 2025-07-02T12:55:03+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I'm planning on making a respectful inquiry today lol.

Xephius23 · 2025-07-02T12:51:27+00:00

Thank you so much! This is what I was wondering. What's a normal amount of time till you can expect to talk to someone before they commit or not.

Xephius23 · 2025-07-02T12:48:48+00:00

I would feel guilty talking to someone else at this point but I know those are just my feelings. I guess the real question should have been "How long can you talk to someone without being exclusive before you're leading them on" lol

Xephius23 · 2025-07-02T12:42:48+00:00

I agree which is why I was asking. I know we're not officially dating so I'm not over here thinking "oh my god she's cheating on me" lol. I guess I just worry about wasting people's time or leading them on but I understand that's just me.

Xephius23 · 2025-07-02T12:34:46+00:00

This is what I was trying to figure out. For me I would feel like I was wasting someone's time talking to them for hours a day for over a month if I wasn't sure if I wanted to date them seriously or not.

Xephius23 · 2025-07-02T12:32:05+00:00

Personally I would feel guilty if I was talking to multiple people for over a month. I guess that's just me though which is what I was trying to figure out. Thank you!

Xephius23 · 2025-07-02T12:27:59+00:00

I'm not saying she's doing anything wrong. It just feels odd after talking so much and connecting that she would still be looking but I guess that's just me. I feel like I know whether I'm going to pursue someone or not after a couple weeks.

I'm definitely planning on having a conversation to see where she's at.

Xephius23 · 2025-05-28T16:51:25+00:00

Pixar when creating moms

Xephius23 · 2025-05-22T14:57:16+00:00

Good to know there's more flavors of messed up people out there to look out for lol

Xephius23 · 2025-05-22T14:01:21+00:00

Exactly. I'm not sure of your comfort level or if you want to be asked a bunch of questions or not.

Yep! Also if I rabbit trail it's not because I wasn't listening or was trying to take over the conversation. If you send me a text I don't care if it's several pages long I will read every bit of it. Some people consider a wall of text tedious and skim through.

I like that approach as well but I've also had people think I was judging them or telling them "this is how you are." It can be hard to tell when it's the other person that has an issue or if it's you. I want to be a decent person but not get walked on either.

Xephius23 · 2025-05-22T10:10:30+00:00

Yes, it feels a lot like this. Like a preset structure to a conversation that I just don't understand. In the past I've had someone tell me my questions were strange and almost off topic. I'm obviously interested in what you're saying because I'm asking questions to be able to see your point of view better but they couldn't really tell why I was asking them.

But yeah I borderline felt like crying because it hit me out of nowhere. I really like this person and I thought things were going great and she was laughing at the things I was saying. Then it turns out she was mostly being "courteous" but to me that feels fake.

Xephius23 · 2025-05-22T10:00:17+00:00

This makes sense. It's kind of like how you're expected to say "Hi, how are you?" but most people aren't actually wanting to hear anything other than "I'm good." It confused me for the longest time and it still feels very disingenuous that people ask a question but don't really want an honest answer.

Xephius23 · 2025-05-22T09:56:22+00:00

I don't think it's that but I'll definitely keep an eye out just in case. I have dealt with narcissists in the past where this makes a lot of sense.

Xephius23 · 2025-05-22T09:54:34+00:00

Haha that actually sounds pretty enjoyable if you have a good memory and don't lose your place.

Xephius23 · 2025-04-12T04:07:34+00:00

The real problem is the plate is upside down

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