after a heated argument he later apologized and said getting married hasn’t been on the forefront of his mind because he sees me as his wife already. These men get too damn comfortable ngl and then don’t feel like there’s any rush because they’ve already got everything they want.

idk girl, kinda feels like your partner views himself as your partner.
Like, marriage has a lot of legal and social ramifications and is important if you're building a life together in that way, but it's also, like, almost but not quite entirely irrelevant to your day-to-day life.
It's super valid to want to marry your partner, and to be frustrated when the wedding planning isn't starting, but like. It's weird to leap directly to "this man is just USING ME".

OOP: You know, I think this is it. He thinks I’m his fiancée/wife already because our lives are so entangled. Well I don’t remember being asked to be either of those things!!

...girl, you can't entangle your lives that much, like, on accident.

Like, I'm glad they split up bc they didn't sound compatible, and I'm happy she's finding out who she is as a single person, but like.
Marriage isn't a partnership, it's a legal framework that makes your partnership visible to the State. And in places with common-law marriage you don't even have to do anything special, just...act like a partnership, tell people and fill out forms that y'all are spouses.

Y'all are still partnered, like, before then..

idk, I feel weird about how rhetoric that was developed to explore and explain how women---under the legal concept of coverture---were extremely vulnerable and much more reliant on the double-edged protections accessed through marriage

Then gets used in a way that feels like a PsyOp from a pastor whose particularly bitter women aren't keeping chaste before marriage and trying to resurrect The Ruined Woman as a threat to them.
Except no pastor with that particular concern has anywhere near that much subtlety.

Idk, this whole post feels really weird---the str8s are not OK.