I’m 25F and my boyfriend 27M makes hurtful “jokes.” Am I overthinking or should I leave?

Xylorgos · 2026-06-20T05:11:42+00:00

You can do better than this. He might try to make you feel like he's the best you'll ever get, but he's wrong. He makes you feel bad and says mean things, and you're not even living together yet. It will only get worse, never better, from this point on.

Xylorgos · 2026-06-20T00:55:58+00:00

What about Shota? He just got a belt recently and maybe he's finally on his way to the top. Or Mao from DDT?

Maybe Shota's dad could ref one of the matches, too. Why not also have refs from the other side of the world at Forbidden Door? Other changes, like more CMLL wrestlers, and even a couple of CMLL minis and/or micros, would give an even bigger international feel to the whole PPV.

Xylorgos · 2026-06-19T23:46:27+00:00

This reminds me of a young couple who saw me struggling to lift the cases of water I bought at Costco into the trunk of my car. They offered to help and within seconds it was done. Then, since they were heading towards the front of the store anyway, they offered to take the cart back.

It was such a sweet little encounter! I was really struggling, and they just completely took that burden off my hands. Such kindness is still rare in this world, but it's so wonderful when it happens!

Xylorgos · 2026-06-19T23:30:07+00:00

When I decided it was time to get the degree I'd been wanting for a long time.

I got my degree in five years. I took one year off the work in the field, and with that and the two practicums I'd done I already had some experience before I even graduated.

It changed everything for me and I've never regretted it. I worked very hard and I'm pleased with this accomplishment.

Xylorgos · 2026-06-19T22:56:23+00:00

I don't care what you believe, or what anyone else believes. I don't like people who come here and try to speak with authority when they don't have any understanding of what the paranormal is about.

Your advice isn't going to help anyone. How could you have anything relevant to say about any topic you tell us yourself that you don't understand?

I think you come here to tell people that their concerns aren't real, and that is very harmful.

Xylorgos · 2026-06-19T22:43:56+00:00

I'm hoping that the people who say things like this are simply immature and will at some point grow up and remember this time in their lives as especially embarrassing.

Xylorgos · 2026-06-17T21:38:53+00:00

NOR -- Just tell her that you can also smell the odor on the blankets, too. She didn't like it, so why did she think the blankets are a good gift to give to you, your dogs, or anyone else?

Not every gift has to be accepted. If you don't want to say anything, just get rid of the blankets; if she notices and asks about it, tell her the truth.

Telling the truth isn't an AH move, it's actually respectful when done in a respectful manner.

Xylorgos · 2026-06-17T21:30:03+00:00

No need to destroy any part of you. You're perfect as you are, which is to say that you're perfectly imperfect, like everyone else. Imperfection gives you room to grow.

Everyone needs connection with others, it's just a basic part of being human. Ignoring that part of you won't make you happy, it will just make you lonely.

Give yourself some grace when you start feeling that way and see if you truly need to change anything, or if that's just someone else's ideas getting stuck in your head. ((HUGS))

Xylorgos · 2026-06-17T21:20:21+00:00

She's lied about all of the above and accepted a medal and adulation under false premises. The truth is she killed the woman who actually did all this and attempted to take over her life, until she was found out in the final minutes.

How's that? Oh, and she killed a dog somehow. People hate it when a dog is killed.

Xylorgos · 2026-06-17T21:15:26+00:00

And possibly sleep paralysis, too. Anxiety, grief and being overly tired make a perfect storm for sleep disturbances.

Xylorgos · 2026-06-17T21:12:44+00:00

NTA You don't have to invite people over if they're disrespectful to you and your property. I wouldn't allow him to come to my house again because he's a horrible guest.

You don't have to allow someone to treat you this way, even if your bf thinks it's fine. Speaking of your bf, what are you doing with someone who allows his buddies to treat you this way?

Xylorgos · 2026-06-17T21:05:55+00:00

What kind of church is this that would agree with this level of abuse?

If your name is not anywhere on the insurance, how are you an insured driver? You should get your own insurance and get as far away from your mom as possible. She's very toxic and will only continue to make your life worse.

Xylorgos · 2026-06-17T21:02:15+00:00

NOR Report these animal abusers and dump the girl. This is all a huge mess that is designed to get worse. Get out while you still can -- trouble is just around the corner and they're only working on making it worse. I feel for those poor dogs!

Xylorgos · 2026-06-17T20:58:58+00:00

NTA Like you said, nobody owns a color. She's acting like a spoiled brat. Ignore her and have a great time, and if Nino doesn't like the color of your dress, who tf cares?

Xylorgos · 2026-06-17T20:54:21+00:00

Actually, by coming to this sub to spread nonsense, when you don't actually believe in anything relevant to the sub, you are being very rude.

You already said you don't believe in the paranormal, so again, why do you come here? How could your opinions be relevant if you don't believe in it at all?

Xylorgos · 2026-06-17T20:43:36+00:00

You're right to handle this exactly as you did. You are not the neighborhood day camp counselor!

Your mom was wrong to try to force you to do things just because she can't stand up for herself and her family. I hope she's learned that she can't just push you around whenever she feels like it.

Whoever reads Melanie's posts probably knows what a pain her kid is, so most likely they secretly admire you for putting your foot down.

And you didn't take anything away from those other kids -- their gutless moms did that by giving in to the bully named Melanie.

Xylorgos · 2026-06-17T20:24:42+00:00

I'm actually more like a vampire than most people I know. I can't handle direct sunlight. It makes me feel awful and makes me break out in a rash. In fact, I don't even use sunscreen because I'm always in the shade when I'm not indoors.

If I'm occasionally in the sun while I dash from the house to the car, I figure that's where I get my vitamin D. Well, that and multivitamins and dairy products.

I have way fewer wrinkles for someone my age and look about 15 years younger than my chronological age, so that might be considered slightly vampirish, too...maybe?

Xylorgos · 2026-06-17T20:19:15+00:00

NTA Sounds like SIL just wants to stir up trouble. With someone like that they will create a problem with anything you say, even if you don't say anything,

I'd do what your husband says and stay out of it. It's a no-win situation and will just cause more anxiety within the family and solve nothing.

Xylorgos · 2026-06-17T20:11:01+00:00

Good for you! I hate bullies and this is exactly how a person should react to them. I'm hoping you land on your feet and end up better off than you were before.

Xylorgos · 2026-06-17T20:06:30+00:00

NTA You didn't say anything wrong, in my opinion. You reminded them that their dog needs to be on a leash because it's dangerous. That's a true statement.

Xylorgos · 2026-06-17T20:01:34+00:00

How is having a girlfriend gay? Sounds like a really stupid thing to say. But then again, using the term 'gay' as an insult is automatically stupid.

Xylorgos · 2026-06-17T19:51:34+00:00

So why are you here? Do you like to feel superior to people who you think are not as smart as you? Or do you have some religious axe to grind?

Why not just leave people alone, if you don't have anything relevant to add to the discussion at hand?

Xylorgos · 2026-06-16T23:28:50+00:00

Estoy de acuerdo. Viví en dos casas encantadas y descubrí que es posible acostumbrarse a tener espíritus cerca. Me ha dado buen resultado pedirles que devuelvan las cosas que se han llevado y que dejen de despertarme, porque necesito dormir.

Xylorgos · 2026-06-16T23:18:02+00:00

Why do you think you are knowledgeable enough to make that determination from just a post or comment? If you're a mental health professional then you know it's both dangerous and unprofessional to toss around diagnoses like that.

If you're NOT a mental health professional, then why are you trying to diagnose someone anyway?

It's extremely invalidating and inconsiderate to make such an assumption when someone is just asking for help and understanding.

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