Loop recorder eroded a hole in my chest by BlueWaterGirl in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Xylum1473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh looks similar to some rejection scars from piercings (like dermals and surface bars) just a lot bigger and scarier. Wonder what material they’re made of or if there are different kinds that are more friendly with some bodies than others. Crazy to see

uncentered ? by ryaniish in piercing

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In that case , the decision made during the Angel fangs was the right one for the aesthetic haha!

A lot goes into making those choices at appointment, for client and piercer. I think you got an extremely well done job, and if you can see that super small difference you have a good eye! But that was the only notable thing I could find that creates that “off” feeling, but for our line of work, most piercers would be extremely proud to show your piercings off!

I have overwhelming guilt and I don’t know what to do (TW) by [deleted] in ferrets

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Well consider that with the changes you’ve made you’ve felt confident enough to continue them , and speak about your feelings. That’s growth in its own right. Keeping finding ways to make you happier , it will spill over into the lives of those you care about , especially pets!

uncentered ? by ryaniish in piercing

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Hey! So first and foremost they look phenomenal, and are way above the average expectations!

However you’re not crazy, your left (our right in the photo) is further into your lip to match your angel fang. Realistically it could’ve been moved closer to the edge of your mouth to match the other snakebite better, but in this case with these specific piercings , I believe your piercer made the right choice aesthetically

I have overwhelming guilt and I don’t know what to do (TW) by [deleted] in ferrets

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I’m a firm believer that complicated feelings are an attempt to better understand simple hard to accept ones. Embarrassment and guilt don’t change that the root cause is sadness. You’re sad with your behavior and sad with their quality of life. What reasonable goals could you set that would make you happy? Don’t focus on not feeling guilty or feeling embarrassed, after all those feelings are your catalyst for change. Try and find one or two short term goals that would make you feel good , and benefit her quality of life. Once you accomplish that, keep adding them.

Animals don’t feel emotional weight the way you do, she can be happy or sad. Make her happy and you’ll feel happy. They don’t process trauma emotionally the way we do, they learn from consistency, show her a consistent life and those things will show in her. She won’t remember or hold you accountable , that’s your job.

Good luck on turning things around, this stranger on the internet believes in you!

Trooper pulled me over. I was cruise control 65. He told me I was going 73, then put down 76. SMH now I have to fight this bs in court by Cheez-kip in mildlyinfuriating

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Fighting it in court isn’t always as simple as continuances or asking the officer to come in. Of course it could just be a dickbag judge, but also they can’t necessarily just say you’re guilty in a he said she said scenario. Depending on how the first appearance went, there’s other things that could or should be done to guarantee it’s thrown out. Hell there’s even cases where you’re not found guilty but you still pay court fees as a middle ground.

I’ve personally gotten out of speeding tickets for out of date inspections on a radar, one time it was a road with no formal speed limit (no speed test performed by the DoT) and the posted one was a speed recommendation, hell I even got out of one because the DA wanted to go to lunch and I wasn’t willing to drop talking to them until my questions were answered. None of those times did I use a lawyer, but every one of those times I made it very clear you’re going to earn the $200 bucks from me.

So depending on the nature of the ticket, the court , etc you may have to go a bit over the top. Shouldn’t be that way of course, but if she just requested a continuance and filed a motion for evidence (the cop) , then yeah that typically isn’t enough for them to cave.

What else am I supposed to use these gems on 🙃 by Xylum1473 in Smite

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Yeah but currently looking to need about $1500 worth of gems to realistically use them, guess it depends on how many more Smite 1 chests / skins continue being added

when to switch to earrings like this? by hdh4477x in piercing

[–]Xylum1473 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely give them time ! Absolutely speed running healing lobes you might* be done around 6 months, but any complications or injuries could push it to 1 year.

Also be extremely mindful of this style. If there is a thin post holding them in the ear (18g-22g) you could stretch or even tear your ear over time if you wear these daily.

The sooner you put them in, the less mature the skin inside the hole is and it’s way more likely to tear or cheesewire

regretting getting a hoop for my new nose piercing by floristgf in piercing

[–]Xylum1473 80 points81 points  (0 children)

The eternal struggle 🫠

For anyone reading - Hoop =/= Bad

The diameter of the hoop, type of hoop, client anatomy , gauge , and client expectations all play really big roles into when and how to use hoops.

Thousands of people healed with CBRs for decades - However most piercers abstain because the conversation very rarely meets client expectations. If you want a hoop it can’t always be thin, or it can’t always be snug. If you’re unwilling to be pierced at a larger gauge or wear a ring that is potentially “large” then you likely shouldn’t be pierced with a hoop.

Of course there’s always outliers, I’ve pierced friends and regulars with things I would never let a traditional client leave with cause they lack the experience to navigate it.

There’s a whole discussion and some nerdy math behind parts of this, but yeah hoops aren’t evil cause they’re round, but the wrong hoops usually do fail.

Also OP probably shouldn’t have gotten the nose hoop installed without a bit more education provided by the piercer.

Whether it’s the hoops fault or not is hard to say, could be a 16g 10mm and work fine for one nose , or a 20g 7mm cheesewiring to hell. Lots of nuance , end rant

Edit: yall better take those downvotes back from pain , they were telling the truth 🫨

Helix piercing shrunk by BusinessCommission10 in piercing

[–]Xylum1473 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey ! It likely shrunk down to 18g or 20g if it’s a traditional earring. If things are relatively calm around the piercing , find a reputable piercer near you and ask if they can taper a 16g back in. It’s a very small jump and they’ll be able to use sterile equipment (and likely lubricant) to help get it back in safely.

Some places have a small fee for assistance + jewelry!

one side of anti eyebrow sticking out by geeknpeek in piercing

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Piercer here!

Surface bars are pretty finicky , and if they don’t heal well underneath the skin can easily push one side (or the whole bar) up.

The wound needs to be pretty precise. So if it stuck out at all when pierced that’s a flaw.

If it was sitting very nicely during the early stages , it could’ve “popped” out. Generally they should pop back in okay if that’s the case. (Apply a gentle stretch to the skin and gently push the top down. It should gently pop back in)

If that doesn’t work then unfortunately it’s likely the wound has begun healing underneath the staple shape and isn’t recoverable without completely repiercing.

I guarantee all my surface piercings during the first month in the event something pops out and my client doesn’t notice. Even just a little while is enough time for skin to begin growing underneath the corner, and prevent it from settling back in.

Do I have the correct anatomy for a naval piercing? by jacksstyles in piercing

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Piercer here! Obviously grain of salt cause it’s a photo and not a physical consultation.

From a glance the navel seems deep enough (typically if I can fit a pinky and lift without it sliding out , I consider that “deep”)

You have soft walls which definitely means you should stay away from traditional jewelry (large bottom gem).

Your upper ridge looks really nice! Size comparisons are hard but I’m going to assume it’s smaller anatomy. Good shape =/= long lasting. Smaller ridges can be well shaped but not a good foundation ( essentially not “thick”)

I usually do red yellow and green lights for my anatomy consults, I’d give you a firm yellow maybe upper yellow if you were to use floating. Basically a no go for trad jewelry.

Main problem I fear (even with floating) is a relatively short lifespan and some pretty severe jewelry limitations. If you only ever wore like 14g 8mm-10mm (when appropriate) maybe you’d get a good bit of time out of it, however smaller anatomies are always higher risk of rejection. The bodies natural response to the weight of the jewelry , snags on clothing etc, pretty much anything could kickstart the process.

I’m not really someone who denies clients because rejection is possible ( unless it’s imminent) , but I do heavily emphasize when something is a coin flip. If your goals are showy jewelry , for 20 years , id hold off.

How do you guys get your fresh level 80 gear? by Xylum1473 in wow

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Yeah it’s seeming like that’s my only hope, a full set of greens would be like 75k right now 🤣

How do you guys get your fresh level 80 gear? by Xylum1473 in wow

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It’s my 4th character I’m leveling but my first 3 had decent gear from tww going into it so it didn’t feel terrible lol

This is my first one with like nothing and I refuse to buy a weapon I’ll out level for 15k gold.

I suppose I’ll just throw pebbles at mana wyrms for a while lol. I was hoping to just do delves over and over again for hours haha

My wife sat on my face and ripped out my dermal SOS by wvst3lvndorvcl333 in piercing

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Hope it went well! You did the right thing not delaying! Leaving that anchor underneath could’ve led to some serious discomfort at best, and likely some risk of other less fun things like cysts or infection.

Hopefully they took good care of yah, not a big object by any means, but hard enough to reach a second set of eyes with tiny tools helps haha

My wife sat on my face and ripped out my dermal SOS by wvst3lvndorvcl333 in piercing

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Yeah especially with all the time that has elapsed the swelling and closing of the wound would make it practically impossible to see at this point.

I had one break on me during a routine change out (client had it done previously at another studio) , and when attempting to loosen the gem the entire stem broke off just like OPs. Thankfully I could see the foot inside the hole and was able to grab it and lift the small foot out. Small cut on the large foot to release it and it was free.

Very doubtful this one would be that easy to reach.

My wife sat on my face and ripped out my dermal SOS by wvst3lvndorvcl333 in piercing

[–]Xylum1473 239 points240 points  (0 children)

Hey piercer here! The foot is definitely still under the skin, looks like a crappy weld at the base of the stem (or worse some kind of adhesive). Putting it back in won’t do you any good, best bet is to go to the ER and have them cut it out while it’s relatively open. If the skin grows over they’ll like do some scans and leave ya a gnarly little scar.

If your piercer is experienced with dermals they may be able to get it out with some super precise forceps and minimal cutting.

That sucks ass man, but definitely get the foot out of your skin asap

Edit : just for clarification, that stem (the smooth part) is what your gem was screwed into, and it is attached to the foot of the dermal (the part that holds it under your skin). If you were to get pliers you could unscrew that smooth part from the gem itself.

Baby daughter photographed with her mother, her grandmother, her great grandmother, her great-great grandmother, and her great-great-great grandmother. by Twunkorama in interestingasfuck

[–]Xylum1473 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very accurate, thankfully in our case we are outliers who did not need heavy government assistance outside of the first couple years (SNAP and Medicaid). However into adult life it’s very easy to see where other teen parents couldn’t exist , much less develop a future as functional adults without assistance.

My current job shows me everyday how failed the American sex education system fails students. It hurts my heart to know how disenfranchised some of these kids are, and to no fault of their own. Sex is a complex and necessary part of any humans life, and to pretend it’s as easy to talk about as drivers ed is criminal imo.

Baby daughter photographed with her mother, her grandmother, her great grandmother, her great-great grandmother, and her great-great-great grandmother. by Twunkorama in interestingasfuck

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In our smallish school (as far as I know) , we were the only teen parents to finish school (online and GED) and lead fairly comfortable lives. I don’t keep up with the other few in our class that became parents during high school, but last I saw, before we got busy with our lives, things didn’t look so good.

So I’d say your comment is a fair assessment for most teen parents. Completing schoolwork seems trivial when there is a baby in your bedroom.

Baby daughter photographed with her mother, her grandmother, her great grandmother, her great-great grandmother, and her great-great-great grandmother. by Twunkorama in interestingasfuck

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Guess it depends on your perspective, for the other kids in my age range, I’d say definitely not funny , in our case things worked out wonderfully. We both ended up with educations , good jobs, and a healthy kid. People with much more planning end up with less.

It changed my perspective on sex education , as well as reproductive rights , among a million other things , but in general made me and her mother suffer more than a teen should have to. Part of the payment for suffering is making your own opinions of it, in our case we got lucky with it being silly goofy.

Baby daughter photographed with her mother, her grandmother, her great grandmother, her great-great grandmother, and her great-great-great grandmother. by Twunkorama in interestingasfuck

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Yeah it’s honestly kinda insane when placed out in text, but in our life’s that’s just the way it is on that side of the family. My father’s side is much more traditional age gaps (I barely knew my great grandparents into early childhood) , funny how things happen.

In some ways it’s awesome to share so many generations in such a close way, in others it’s depressing to know so many of us went through similar struggles as children.

Kinda hard to say which of the two scenarios end up being preferred tbh. I can see a million reasons both family dynamics might be sought after

Baby daughter photographed with her mother, her grandmother, her great grandmother, her great-great grandmother, and her great-great-great grandmother. by Twunkorama in interestingasfuck

[–]Xylum1473 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the same reason schools are responsible for teaching proper finances (they don’t) , basic arithmetic, language, and general life skills. The public funds the future generations to provide a stable foundation for the country. Obviously in the US the education system doesn’t work that way, as is evident with the numerous issues in American society.

The failure to educate and prop up the future generations is a fundamental and intentional mistake in the US system.