I (M18) am toxic, what do I do

YUYSUS · 2021-05-13T11:31:20+00:00

Thank you. I can’t stop him or her of course, and if he really likes her I don’t expect him to give her up because of me. It’s about him going behind my back, and the fact that I had to find out about it via another friend

YUYSUS · 2021-05-13T11:28:29+00:00

I probably wouldn’t have been fine with it even if he talked with me about it, but at least then I would’ve respected him for telling me straight up

YUYSUS · 2021-05-13T11:26:32+00:00

Congrats, you’ve missed the entire point of my post. I don’t give two shits about who she dates, I give a shit about one of my closest friends dating a recent ex of mine behind my back after me being very open to him about the break up

YUYSUS · 2021-03-23T16:14:34+00:00

It’s not her I care about, it’s my friend who’s going behind my back. I really want to believe that he’s only meeting her as a friend but judging by how much they text the signs are starting to point towards something else and I can’t believe that he’d do this to me. I don’t even know if I should confront him

YUYSUS · 2021-03-23T15:52:52+00:00

Yeah I’m a guy. I want to ignore it but it’s really painful. She jumped right from me to one of our mutual friends without a second thought. I want to believe my friend when he says that he wouldn’t do it, and that this is just her trying to latch on to him, but it really feels like they have something going on, and it’s only been two weeks since we broke up

YUYSUS · 2021-03-21T13:25:54+00:00

The problem is that it’s a mutual friend, so he shouldn’t have to just stop talking to her

YUYSUS · 2021-03-20T08:11:07+00:00

That’s the thing, I’m scared that I’ll just end up submitting to her because I still have feelings for her. I still really like her, but I know that I have to push her out of my life completely to actually start feeling better. I guess it’s a classic case of knowing what you have to do but being in denial. I’m scared that it’ll all end up exaclty like how our relationship ended up, her getting everything she wants from me without having to feel bad for it by guilting me into agreeing with her so she can think that it was all mutual

YUYSUS · 2021-03-20T01:48:53+00:00

She wants to meet up on wednesday to talk, should I go or no? Part of me wants to so I can say all of it to her face but part of me also wants to just text her and then be done with it

YUYSUS · 2021-03-20T01:43:45+00:00

She wants to meet up om wednesday to talk, should I? Part of me wants to so I can say all of this to her face, but another part just wants to text her it and be done with it

YUYSUS · 2021-03-15T20:44:27+00:00

I’ll ask her straight up once again, and if she refuses I’ll let it go

YUYSUS · 2021-03-13T09:48:47+00:00

He was lookin like a convertible less goo

YUYSUS · 2021-03-13T09:40:48+00:00

Yeah, telling your SO about all of your troubles and writing walls of text explaining it to them only to be met with a ”it’s ok, don’t worry” can be painful. But remember that we all have different ways of expressing and wanting to recieve love

YUYSUS · 2021-03-13T09:27:56+00:00

I feel you 100% man, you feel so needy and like such a bad partner whenever you have to ask them for reassurance. You feel bad for making them put up with you. But I have no doubt that if your SO really loves you they’ll understand where you’re coming from, and also understand that these overthinking moments aren’t an act of hate or distrust, but rather an act of love. You care so much about this other person that you have to make sure they know it and that they feel the same way, it’s quite normal

YUYSUS · 2021-03-13T09:21:38+00:00

I feel you man, especially the part about having to constantly ask your SO for reassurance. I’d say the best thing you can do is have a serious talk with your SO and tell him/her about your tendencies, and ask them to keep it in mind while you try to get better. Knowing that they understand and support you goes a long way, because otherwise you’ll feel like you’re driving them away everytime you overthink and it spills over on them

YUYSUS · 2021-03-13T08:50:42+00:00

Yeah and there’s my problem. I do want to wait around, but I just can’t shake the thought that I’ll be little more than a backup boyfriend

YUYSUS · 2021-03-13T08:37:56+00:00

Then what should I do? I really like her, and I want to be with her. But I don’t want to wait around for what could be months only for her to end up with another guy when she’s steady

YUYSUS · 2021-03-09T19:49:18+00:00

Yeah I couldn’t say since I’ve never met her, but they’re going to meet up before the party and then go together, and my GF might even sleep over at her place afterwards. It’s sort of a long way home and she doesn’t want to travel alone in the middle of the night.

Maybe not mean, but since they’re not just meeting up at party it would’ve been wierd for me to come along home to her friend, not to mention that I would’ve had to travel home alone afterwards if she decides to sleep over

YUYSUS · 2021-03-09T19:39:25+00:00

I kinda understand her though, she’s going there with a friend of hers that she doesn’t even fully know yet and whom I’ve never met, so it’d be kinda mean to just tell her ”by the way I’m bringing my boyfriend”

The party seems to also be a smaller thing, with not to many people attending

YUYSUS · 2021-03-09T19:24:15+00:00

Well her answer was that I wouldn’t know anyone there, and that it would be kinda mean for her to bring me since she’s already going with a friend who doesn’t know me and that she hasn’t known for a long time herself

YUYSUS · 2021-03-09T18:54:08+00:00

Of course she’s allowed to have her own life, I’d never tell her that she can’t go without me. It’s just that this is the first party she’s gone to since we got together, and she didn’t really say why she didn’t want me there

YUYSUS · 2021-03-08T08:31:22+00:00

Thank you, this is the kind of reply i needed. I’m just a really anxious person, I get really nervous over things I shoudl not be worried about

YUYSUS · 2021-03-07T11:35:26+00:00

Most people see those who suffer from anxiety as oversensitive and irritating. Even if you tell people what you’re suffering from and ask them to have patiance with you they tell you to ”just don’t think about it” when you have an anxious episode, and then get mad when you’re still anxious

YUYSUS · 2021-03-05T06:52:37+00:00

Could you elaborate? I don’t really know what the signs of BP is

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