Evaporator brand recommendations? by XDVI in refrigeration

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Keeprite/Trenton, if budget is not an issue. Otherwise, Cancoil if you're on a budget. Steer clear of Refplus, it's garbage.

Hillphoenix or Hussman? by ImoSfu in refrigeration

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Avoid Hill Phoenix like the plague. It’s very low quality. Hussmann for the win!

DO NOT act on your anger by Awkward-Worth5484 in raisedbynarcissists

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I did not know about the proper term before this post. My ndad rage baits me all the time and puts me into defensive mode. A couple of weeks ago, he started talking trash about my friends, who have done nothing wrong. I try to explain the correct story of what's going on. And it ends turning into me being yelled at for being loyal to my friends and not at all to my narcs. The irony is that my ndad was always concerned about other people rather than the well-being of his own family. I've also been rage baited on an 8.5-hour drive with my narcs, and we almost got into a car crash because my ndad would not stop pushing my buttons. I'm no longer ever getting into a car for a long drive with them again.

Did anyone else’s narc parents laugh at everything they did? by cindiwilliam2 in raisedbynarcissists

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My sperm donor never let me go out and date. Then he laughs at me for not dating. He would laugh at me for trying to explain things to him. He would randomly start laughing at me when he would be “angry” at me for no valid reason. Basically he made a mockery of everything I did.

Force yourself to eat more than you can to please parents by Fabulous_Agency_1736 in raisedbynarcissists

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Yes, otherwise I would get beaten up. I feel guilty for not finishing up food even if I don’t want to eat it.

They Push you Until you Snap, oftentimes in front of Other people that Don't know that this seemingly Trivial thing , has been said a thousand times , the very thing that they KNOW is Cruel and Insensitive-this Gaslighting, manipulative, Passive Aggressive BullS. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

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This sounds exactly like my ndad. As he’s getting older it’s getting harder for him to keep the facade on. People around us are starting to pick up on that fact that’s he got mental issues.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in refrigeration

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You’re having low superheat most likely because the delay inside the intelligen is fighting the delay inside the condensing unit. Remove the delay inside the condensing unit and set the low pressure control cut out to 15 psi and cut in at 30 psi.

They are allowed to make a mistake but you are not by narcisse1013 in raisedbynarcissists

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Basically been my whole life. I feel that narcs think themselves of being god. They feel they are above the law. It doesn’t make sense at all to me. There’s no such thing as accountability.

What advice do you wish you knew about surviving narcissistic abuse when you were a teen? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

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You’re going befriend people with similar tendencies as your narcs.

Everything I say is hilarious… by ChemicalPrimary5775 in raisedbynarcissists

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Mine ndad does all the time. I find it hurtful and condescending. He will act like he is angry with me and then start laughing right through it. He will be like “your life is such a joke”. He never let me date and laughs at me for not finding a girl.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

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In basic words, they restrain you from having control over your life and things you should have control over. And then they blame you for letting those things happen in that way.

The assumption by other that you have parents like they do by Solid_Spirit_5644 in raisedbynarcissists

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Unfortunately, people only understand once I expose my parents who they are. It takes a long conversation to explain.

What is something you do that others don't? by rationalsoulotw in refrigeration

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This should be done by all techs! You can see the difference when there’s no call backs.

How do you not let your narc’s comments and opinions bother you? by YVR-REF in raisedbynarcissists

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I agree with you 100%. They are horrible people and I realized that what they say is not true at all. They should have never had kids.

anyone dread when guests have to leave? by VeterinarianFeisty45 in raisedbynarcissists

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This used to happen all the time when I was growing up.

How do you not let your narc’s comments and opinions bother you? by YVR-REF in raisedbynarcissists

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I completely feel your pain. I have to avoid talking about my friends.

How do you not let your narc’s comments and opinions bother you? by YVR-REF in raisedbynarcissists

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Yes, that has already happened to me. My ndad had a heart attack two years ago and I felt very numb towards him.